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Hiya! I'm Michelle and I had a c-section in December 2010. Reason being fetal distress from augmented labour. I don't think I was given much time to dilate, I reached the hospital at 6:45am and had my labour augmented by 10:30am. That is where the fun of constant monitoring started, staying on my back the entire time, painful contractions and my midwife asking for an epidural for me (which I agreed to as I am an agreeable person).

I didn't go past 3cm dilation, but when they turned of the syntocinon before the "emergency" c-section, I gained another cm in 30 minutes!

Anyway, sorry to ramble...I'm so hoping for a VBAC this time. I've had a chat to my midwife and she was a bit "um...we will see". In my hospital notes the surgeon said VBAC would be fine for next labour.

I'm really hoping for one, I want it so badly :(
 
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels like that! I feel quite silly reading your stories, especially when I didn't have to wait as long as some of you but my word was I feeling emotional earlier after watching them videos :blush: Didn't help that my DH literally had 45 mins with us before being sent home and then I found it virtually impossible to pick LO up out of her cot whilst not being able to move my lower half as I was still numb! :dohh:


Stepmummy - I'm sorry you're having a down day but try and stay positive and remember they cannot make you do anything you don't want to. They can advise you and try to scare you but they need your consent before they do anything so if you're not 100% sure about induction, then don't! You need to be happy and comfortable, they can't force you into anything - stay positive and strong!! :flower:


:hi: Minties - why is your MW sure unsure about a VBAC?? It's really encouraged at my hospital, albeit, on *their* terms lol..
 
She doesn't want to encourage me to get "any ideas"! And I'm overweight so she thinks that will go against me. I think she just doesn't want me to get my hopes up maybe?

I don't get to discuss my birthing wishes with anyone properly until I see a consultant at 36 weeks. So different from my first pregnancy where I had one midwife, this time I see someone different for every appointment, from different places all over town. So stupid. Last time I had an independant midwife (had her own practice, not attached to any hospital or birthing unit), this time I had to be refered to a hospital for care.
 
bodi26 said:
Stepmummy - I'm sorry you're having a down day but try and stay positive and remember they cannot make you do anything you don't want to. They can advise you and try to scare you but they need your consent before they do anything so if you're not 100% sure about induction, then don't! You need to be happy and comfortable, they can't force you into anything - stay positive and strong!! :flower:


:hi: Minties - why is your MW sure unsure about a VBAC?? It's really encouraged at my hospital, albeit, on *their* terms lol..
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Thank you :flower: i must admit i'm tempted to get my bishops score on friday before they start anything,and ask to delay the induction if i'm not 'favourable'. I just can't seem to decide whether this is best for the baby as well. At the mo, i'm about half a cm dilated, medium cervix andit's posterior. I guess this could've improved a lot by Friday.

Welcome minties :) VBAC is a funny old subject, still relatively new for a lot of the more old fashioned healthcare professionals! Positivity is definitely key so arm yourself with plenty of knowledge and start telling people what you're going to do,way more empowering that asking what they think you should do :thumbup:
 
Also minties, just a thought but could you hire a doula? Doesn't sound like you have much in the way of professional support and doulas can really help mothers achieve the VBAC of their dreams :) i wish you all the luck in the world - you can do it!
 
stepmummy said:
Thank you :flower: i must admit i'm tempted to get my bishops score on friday before they start anything,and ask to delay the induction if i'm not 'favourable'. I just can't seem to decide whether this is best for the baby as well. At the mo, i'm about half a cm dilated, medium cervix andit's posterior. I guess this could've improved a lot by Friday.

Welcome minties :) VBAC is a funny old subject, still relatively new for a lot of the more old fashioned healthcare professionals! Positivity is definitely key so arm yourself with plenty of knowledge and start telling people what you're going to do,way more empowering that asking what they think you should do :thumbup:
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A lot can happen by Friday so positive thinking :)

And I agree, knowledge is definetely power and the confidence to stand up for what you want instead of letting the so called professionals try to scare you into things!
 
You could opt for monitoring instead of induction stepmummy, personally I would be scared of induction, but that's just me, I had a bad first induction :(

Have you crab walked up the stairs, dtd and crawled about on your hands and knees?? Labour can happen even though you were check 12 hours ago and not effaced - suddenly baby decides nows the time and boom, you're in labour.

Lots of hugs, I ha my first at 41+4 so I know how frustrating it is!
 
NickyNack said:
You could opt for monitoring instead of induction stepmummy, personally I would be scared of induction, but that's just me, I had a bad first induction :(

Have you crab walked up the stairs, dtd and crawled about on your hands and knees?? Labour can happen even though you were check 12 hours ago and not effaced - suddenly baby decides nows the time and boom, you're in labour.

Lots of hugs, I ha my first at 41+4 so I know how frustrating it is!
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We've done a bit of DTD but it's so painful! I'm starting to get a brownish discharge but only the tiniest bit. I just tried the stairs several times - we have gates top and bottom so I can't get very far! Will attempt a few more.

Would I just stay in hospital until the time came if I opted for monitoring instead? I didn't realise that was an option. Like you, I'm not that keen on induction, given my previous section.

I feel so ready to pop, just wish this LO would agree!
 
You don't have to stay in, you just pop in every morning I believe, to get heart rate/fluids/placenta monitored....they can't MAKE you be induced, it's up to you. But insist on being monitored as once you go past 42 weeks the conditions can deteriorate inside your womb. There's risks with both options, I would discuss with the hospital or your midwife, to see what their procedures are. And see if you can find anything else online regarding it - post date monitoring I believe it's called.

Brown mucus is a good sign - it can't be too much longer - and as for the stairs, stepping is all you need to do - just one or two stairs, repeated, will work as well x
 
I called earlier and they were pretty insistent on inducing me on Friday, though like you say, she said I can refuse if I want. I'm torn between just wanting to get things going and waiting it out. I guess they'll check me out on Friday and we can reassess then.

Thanks for all your help :flower:
 
Whatever you decide to do, make sure it's your choice and don't let them make you feel like you've been bullied into anything - as everything with VBACs, do your research and make them know you're well informed! :winkwink:

Good luck with whatever option you take - either way, it's not long now! :flower:
 
Hi girls,

I had my meeting with the head of midwifery on Tuesday and although I though it went well at the time, it took two sleepless nights to realise that I was really worried about how is went. I am even more worried about the fact that I don't feel like my doula stood up for me :cry:

I have written a draft of an email I would like to send her this afternoon but I would like to get people's opinions before I send it.

The thread is here :
https://www.babyandbump.com/home-na...la-please-can-have-opinions.html#post17211989

Any replies would be TOTALLY appreciated :(
 
modo said:
Hi girls,

I had my meeting with the head of midwifery on Tuesday and although I though it went well at the time, it took two sleepless nights to realise that I was really worried about how is went. I am even more worried about the fact that I don't feel like my doula stood up for me :cry:

I have written a draft of an email I would like to send her this afternoon but I would like to get people's opinions before I send it.

The thread is here :
https://www.babyandbump.com/home-na...la-please-can-have-opinions.html#post17211989

Any replies would be TOTALLY appreciated :(
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I'm so sorry to hear that you're upset with how your meeting with the HoMW went - your doula really should have made you feel like your concerns were being taken seriously and not to patronise you and "side" with the midwife when their view differs from what you want.

I think your email is very polite and you raise your concerns at the end so I wouldn't be worried about sending it. The only thing perhaps is that you could be a little more forcefull - it almost sounds like you're asking permission to get the birth you want but you don't need anyone's permission, you're entitled to the birth you want.

One point I raised when contacting the HoMW at my hospital is how much do they care about the state of mind of the mother because surely the mother being anxious, stressed and uncomfortable would have a negative effect on the labour and birth - to which they agreed. Maybe that's one point you might want to reinforce even more to your doula / HoMW.

Do you have a VBAC specialist at your hospital and if so, have you seen them at all?
 
Hi ladies. Update on me :(
I'm on hospital bedrest with a partial seperation of placenta, the other part fused to my previous scar, and there's a clot on another portion of it. I am here at the hospital until I have her. Goal is to not bleed. Out and to not have to do a csection until atleast 28 weeks! I won't be able to vbac, but I want to wish you ALL great vbacs and I will be stalking you!!!
 
Omg momofone!! That's awful, I'm so sorry for you, but glad its been caught and they are doing what needs done to keep you both healthy.

Good luck and please keep us updated if you can xx
 
momofone08: I am sorry hon :hugs: but like Nickynack said it great that it has been caught early :hugs:
 
modo, what happened with the doula, i missed it.
 
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