Vent Thread

[chobette]

Just a random vent about other people saying things to pregnant women, a few of which I heard recently:

My BIL's "fiancee" (we don't really get a long) - "Um you realize it bad mojo to have the crib up before the baby is born "

Like...really? I am already 5 months pregnant and have less than 4 months to go, putting our child's crib up now will NOT have any role in what happens. Get a fricken clue and stop trying to make our life miserable, k thanks.

My husband's grams - "You look HUGE for being 5 months .... "

First of all, not everyone is the same size and I am still smaller than you and I am pregnant....

I had another lady at work say -- "Oh you look very tiny for being that far a long"

-- Well... again, not everyone is the same size and I think I look perfect for being how far a long I am.



Those are my vents.... I hate how people feel they need to comment about other people, just because they have a mouth to do so. I wish people would use COMMON SENSE and SHUTUP!


Anyone else have any vents -- perfect thread to reply to and vent! xx

 

[dukeblue1212]

My male coworker always has to make a comment if he sees me eating. "Mama must be hungry!" "Feed that baby!" "Whoa look at that combination of food! It's so obvious you're a pregnant woman!" I was eating yogurt and strawberries. It wasn't a weird combination of food. It irritates me so much that he always has to make a comment. So far he's the only one that has gotten on my nerves with comments. Hopefully it stays that way.

 

[yellowbuttons]

Great idea Chobette! I really need to let off steam!

I'm really annoyed with work today. I've been working from home half the week due to constantly fainting in my first 14 weeks and tiredness and pelvic and abdominal pains, PLUS spotting/ bleeding. I've got anxiety issues so even though my GP would have signed me off I asked for this arrangement just so I wouldn't feel lazy not working.

Today my manager from work calls me and basically tells me that since I'm not seen in the office much these days, I should account for how much of my time I spend on each individual task, just so people know I'm actually working!! Bearing in mind my previously mentioned anxiety issues, when I work from home I'm up earlier than ever, and bring my work phone to the loo with me, I don't know how they can not know that I'm actually working?? Especially when I write a whole barrage of emails everyday and everything that I'm meant to be doing is done and up-to-date?!

They're really stressing me out.

 

[jlahrue]

my boyfriend's cousin said our baby is a mistake
-- wow really? i didnt remember you deing in the room when we decided that i was going to stop taking birth control.

from older people i always hear "it's a lot of work ya know?"
-- really? i thought babies came out knowing everything. thanks

 

[Skadi]

I'm normally very thin and my belly popped really early. I look WAY further along than I am and people keep finding it necessary to comment on how big I have gotten so soon. Some have even asked if I am sure its not twins! Now I am proud of my bump, and I'm happy to look pregnant but really? Like I didn't notice my bump?

 

[miss_divine]

Maybe a bit of a petty rant but *shrugs*. Just went to go run a bath and find that my Dad is already in it... I shouted through that I was just about to have one, and he shouts back 'Tough, too late!' You try being six months pregnant, back/tailbone/hips hurting like hell all at once, bump sooo heavy, didn't sleep last night and been in work all day, unlike you! Maybe OTT but I'm so angry at him, hormones on the rampage!

(Background - DF & I are stuck living with my parents until Monday when we move into our new house. They're on a water meter so each person is only allowed one bath a week (I haven't had one this week), and there can't be two baths in one night - he's already had one two days ago!)

AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!

 

[Nikki B]

I'm getting so irritated with people saying:
1. "Wow, you're getting big!" - Thanks, I hadn't noticed that I can no longer fit in my clothes, and am feeling fat and nasty.

2. "You look tired." - To me this translates to: you look like crap. I AM tired. I sleep like 3 hours a night because I'm up with hearturn or general discomforts.

3. "You think pregnancy is bad, just wait until the kid gets here." - Look, this may be my first kid, but I'm not an idiot. I know having kids can be challenging, I knew that before I got pregnant, and chose to continue on anyway. And I'm not complaining to anyone (other than my husband, who would never say any of these things), they ask me how it's going, and when I tell them, this is the response I get.

 

[babyjoy10]

aahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh when i hear ''my ur getting big'' no im fecking not ive just had my lunch and im bloated ''my baby is hiding behind my pubic bone it is not a bump it is bloat ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh and no i have not felt any flutters yets so please stop asking me u have been askin since i was 12 weeks and no i do not have cravings and please stop soundin disappointed when i say no im not sick and no im not tired grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr ah feelin better now

 

[Mommy626]

Hearing other people say things like "sleep now you won't get any sleep when the baby's born!". Maybe not, but i'm exhausted now, and i'll be exhausted then. What does it matter, who cares? Not like I can store up on sleep, and it's not like I'm getting enough sleep now as it is ...

this one might seem strange, but me and my husband have always been "nerdy" or whatever you want to call it, and enjoy sci-fi movies of all types and comic book movies, etc... but it is certainly not the only thing that defines our personalities... but of course when we announced we were pregnant, the thing that everyone said the most often was "ooo are you going to name it Luke or Leia??" (From star wars).. I chuckled it off and ignored it, because really who cares.. but then when we found out it was a girl, everyone kept mentionining us naming her Leia... by then I was like OH MY GOD SHUT UP I AM NOT NAMING MY BABY LEIA!!!! (Not that there is anything wrong with that, but just because we've seen Star Wars a few times does not mean we need to name our babies after that).. We do have other parts to our personality, people!!!!

 

[MrsStutler]

I'm lovin' all the ranting! Makes me feel a bit better
For me it's when people comment on how I "don't even look pregnant" I just want to smack people and ask them if they usually think I look like I could be smuggling a cantaloupe in my shirt?

Another one is "how are you feeling" oh my goodness...I have taken to actually telling people precisely how I feel. One poor lady got the full story about my awful heartburn, reflux and hormone induced temperature fluctuations!

I also hate all of the unwanted comments on every baby/pregnancy related post I put on FB. If I have a tiny bit of a whine on there it's all about "oh well if you think you're tired now, just wait until the baby is here." YA THINK!? or if I mention something about my intended parenting style, oh forget it, I get more advice than a Dr. Phil show.

Something that irritates me to no end though is when people tell me not to do this or not to do that. For the love of puppies people I'm pregnant, not dying of some disease! I think I can handle pouring myself a glass of milk for goodness sake.

 

[Tink1o5]

Something really really pissing me off right now is that this is my 2nd baby. Another little boy =) . BUT OH's family hasnt ONCE since finding out about our pregnancy asked if the baby is ok or anything. For all they know we could have miscarried this baby or something. SO we havent even told them its a boy, because we feel like they dont give 2 shits.

 

[Sonyalouise]

I agree with all the other girls hehe

Anoter thing that annoys me is (got a good size bump now ) when people (family u understand why) come up to me and rub my belly like it's a genies lamp and baby will just pop out. Will just smile most days but some poor lady I didnt even know got snapped at. Am sure as hell bet they would hate a stranger doing it to them and invading there personal space

 

[MommyJaan]

I hate it when people say "You have to eat for the baby." I know its for my own good, but it really pisses me off....

 

[Nikki B]

I agree with all the other girls hehe

Anoter thing that annoys me is (got a good size bump now ) when people (family u understand why) come up to me and rub my belly like it's a genies lamp and baby will just pop out. Will just smile most days but some poor lady I didnt even know got snapped at. Am sure as hell bet they would hate a stranger doing it to them and invading there personal space

This drives me crazy! The only one I want touching my belly is my husband. I complained to my mom about this and she bought me some shirts, one says touch the belly lose the hand, another says if you didn't put it in there keep your hands to yourself. I haven't worn them yet, I'm gonna save them for third tri. For now I've taken to pretty much crossing my arms over my belly when I see a grabber.

 

[Lully2011]

Some people just really havent got a clue bless them!! Nothing worse than people giving their opinion and it wasnt asked for!!!!!

 

[sunshin3girl]

For now I've taken to pretty much crossing my arms over my belly when I see a grabber.

Hee, I totally hear you girls. I am only 14+6, and do not have a grab-able belly yet but my close friend is in her eight month and I was shocked when we bumped into an old male colleague and he happily cupped her tummy. I mean, if she weren't pregnant, she would have slapped him, right?

 

[crazylilth1ng]

The same security guard at work who told me I look fat last week, yesterday told me that I "look as rough as he feels" so... Apparently, Not only am I a fat git but also look as rough as a 60 year old man!!!! Nice!

 

[Lully2011]

The same security guard at work who told me I look fat last week, yesterday told me that I "look as rough as he feels" so... Apparently, Not only am I a fat git but also look as rough as a 60 year old man!!!! Nice!

Ass hole!

 

[Sealgirl]

OMG love this thread. Have to agree with all the previous posts.

Hate people rubbing my belly - they just have no right.
Hate the smug comments about how hard its going to be when baby is here.

A few people have asked me I want their second hand stuff. Now I have no problem with this, but I've lost babies in the past so this pregnancy is so special to me and I just want to be able to get everything brand new, especially since I never thought I'd have children, I want to enjoy the whole experience and they say "it must be nice that you can afford to do that."

Uh how dare they, they do not know my personal circumstances or my reasons behind it, they should keep their opinions to themselves. xxx

 

[bubbles19]

i hate people touching my belly, its hardley even have a bump, i dont know what ur expecting to feel i havent even felt it move yet!
i haaaaaaate people smokin around me (by people i mean OH's family), i have done really well to just quit when i found out i was pregnant, i respect its their home n im pretty much living with them (i dont eat there or bath there or have any of my things there just sleep round every night) but please crack open a window and wait to spark up til im out of the room i quit for a reason... havent told them yet that they will NOT hold or cuddle my baby if they have just had a cigarette and they will NOT spark up in the house at all with my baby there, if they wanna do that they will have to come to mine and OH's place (once we get it) as it will be a smoke free zone!
(another rant for OH's family) no i do not want a burger, or a bacon burger, or an egg burger...i dont eat burgers i havent since they've known me, i dont eat at their house because they deep fat fry everything only eat burgers, pizza and pasta (none of them are overweight its rather shocking but they are always ill and give it to me, have an orange once in a while!), my baby nor me wants to eat a greasy burger! i am not eating for two either my baby is tiny it doesnt need a massive breakfast lunch and dinner and god knows how many snacks, thats just asking for heartburn and an upset tummy!!