Very bad news...

[FJL]

Yesterday I found out some horrific news. Spoke to our specialist and DH's sperm are very badly damaged. According to our test, they're not able to be used for IVF treatment

We have to get another test done with no abstainence as the long the sperm is in there the more damaged they become. If this shows the same result then on the day of egg collection DH has to have surgery to recover sperm (hopefully viable) if this fails we will never have children together

Absolutely gutted...

We have not discussed sperm donation in debth but I don't think either of us would be up for it. The stress, wait and invasion that comes with adoption will probably be out of the question too, we've been through too much.

To think that we may now have to live with the fact that we cannot have children together is more than either of us can bare...

 

[polo_princess]

Oh no sweetie

Is it the sample as a whole damaged or are there any good ones in there that could possibly be used? Have they given you any kind if indications as to how/why they could be so badly damaged you might not be able to use them?

 

[Arcanegirl]

Oh hun

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh sweetheart, what a bombshell.

I will have everything crossed for you both

 

[Mynxie]

I really don't know what to say huni xxxxxxx

 

[butterflies]

oh sweetheart, we are all thinking of you. I truly hope that they can make this work for you.

 

[porkpie1981]

i hope all goes well at the next appt

 

[Wobbles]

FJL my heart aches for you hun I am so sorry that this is the position you are facing right now. I wish you guys all the best for the next results & surgery results if you have to go that step.

How long for your next result?

*hugs* x

 

[chefamy1122]

I'm sorry you got such awful news. I hope things work out for you.

 

[Linzi]

Im so sorry to hear your news. All the best for whatever happens in the future.

xxx

 

[Vickie]

So sorry you got such bad news.

 

[CurlySue]

Had your OH had sperm tests before? For sperm count, motility, morphology, etc? In other words, was his sperm always damaged? If not, there is hope that there are some of the little blighters that could be used.

 

[diva4180]

I am so sorry hun

 

[Suz]

Thinking of you and your husband

 

[elles28]

I am truly gutted for the both of you. I wish you all the luck in the world for your next appointment.

 

[maz]

 

[wannabmum]

Oh huni really sad when read this , I know its hard but try not give up hope, I know it has already bn asked but have u bn given any indacation as to why they may be damaged? Thinking of you and hope it is better news at nxt results.

xx

 

[k3lz]

Sorry to hear about your news. I hope everything works out in the end for you. Im sure it will

 

[FJL]

Had your OH had sperm tests before? For sperm count, motility, morphology, etc? In other words, was his sperm always damaged? If not, there is hope that there are some of the little blighters that could be used.

He's previously had 3 sperm tests. These were norma run of the mill lab ones where they check for count, motility and morphology, each time they were all low.

Then our FS had him do the big one, done by scientists where they spin and wash the sperm and are able to check for DNA fragmentation damage. This showed a very high % of damage. Well, 39% but when they cannot do IVF when more than 29% is damaged, well, it doesn't look good.

He can't given us any reason as to why they're so damaged. If it was only damage then maybe we would be ok, but its EVERYTHING.

DH is currently seeing a naturopath that think she can get the sperm heaps better, but i've lost all faith and hope, i'm just cynical, but who the hell can blame me. We wasted 6 months on an accupunturist and chinese medicine Dr who specialised in infertility and that got us know where.

Next monday we have to fly to the city (we could drive the 10hrs but then we'd need to pay for accomodation and find sitters for our animals) there and back in a day for another test.

I just have lost all fight I had in me...I feel this is all over, its just too much, I can't take all of this.

I don't think i'll be around the forums anymore, I just need to try and find something enjoyable in my life, right now I find enjoyment or hope in nothing.

Thankyou all for your support.

 

[polo_princess]

Im so sorry sweetie