This could be a long post so i apologise in advance! =)
Basically me and oh don't live together as yet. We had a rough patch a few months back and i was going to stay at home now and for a little while when bubs is here. Well things may be changing as oh is thinking of getting a house near my mums so we can live together! =) He currently lives an hour away.
Well, i have a large family but we're not close at all. When baby is here, if they want to see him/her then i will be local and they can come see me as i don't want to force my baby on people. . .plus, why would i go out of my way to take my baby to them when i see them once or twice a year? Obviously there are a few exceptions! I've told oh that i don't want visitors for the first 2 weeks and probably wont want to go anywhere for a month due to me bleeding etc! (as if i'm going to have embarressing leaks, i'd like to be at home!)
Anyway, oh is quite close to some of his family. They're always going on at him to go visit but he doesn't have much spare time as he works hard and a lot and on his one or two days off a week we spend it together. I like all of his family i've met so far, but when i'm at his, i'd like to just spend time with him instead of having to go visit lots of people!
Well, if he moves down here then i know we will have to take the baby up there for his family to see. . .which i completely understand and am fine with. . . BUT. . . My issue is, that when we go up there to visit that we are going to have to see his mum, sisters and brother, his dad and his wife, kids etc, aunties etc. And we will have to cram it all in! I'm really not looking foward to it, especially as people are going to want lots of cuddles etc and i HATE the thought of my baby being passed around like pass the parcel!!
Plus, if people ask if they can feed him/her i don't think i'll like it much. Or if they offer to babysit (they're all going to be an hour away and i want to be the one looking after my child and i don't want anyone to babysit! I know this may change when LO is here, but that's how i feel now.) I feel so protective over my baby already.
Am i being stupid? Views and opinions please! X
Basically me and oh don't live together as yet. We had a rough patch a few months back and i was going to stay at home now and for a little while when bubs is here. Well things may be changing as oh is thinking of getting a house near my mums so we can live together! =) He currently lives an hour away.
Well, i have a large family but we're not close at all. When baby is here, if they want to see him/her then i will be local and they can come see me as i don't want to force my baby on people. . .plus, why would i go out of my way to take my baby to them when i see them once or twice a year? Obviously there are a few exceptions! I've told oh that i don't want visitors for the first 2 weeks and probably wont want to go anywhere for a month due to me bleeding etc! (as if i'm going to have embarressing leaks, i'd like to be at home!)
Anyway, oh is quite close to some of his family. They're always going on at him to go visit but he doesn't have much spare time as he works hard and a lot and on his one or two days off a week we spend it together. I like all of his family i've met so far, but when i'm at his, i'd like to just spend time with him instead of having to go visit lots of people!
Well, if he moves down here then i know we will have to take the baby up there for his family to see. . .which i completely understand and am fine with. . . BUT. . . My issue is, that when we go up there to visit that we are going to have to see his mum, sisters and brother, his dad and his wife, kids etc, aunties etc. And we will have to cram it all in! I'm really not looking foward to it, especially as people are going to want lots of cuddles etc and i HATE the thought of my baby being passed around like pass the parcel!!
Plus, if people ask if they can feed him/her i don't think i'll like it much. Or if they offer to babysit (they're all going to be an hour away and i want to be the one looking after my child and i don't want anyone to babysit! I know this may change when LO is here, but that's how i feel now.) I feel so protective over my baby already.
Am i being stupid? Views and opinions please! X