Visitors: What are your rules?

[Blah11]

I had no rules. The day we got home (the day after she was born) everyone came round I wanted to show her off tbh.

 

[emsiee]

Only my mum and OH mum at the hospital if I have to stay in more than a few hours, otherwise, no one. To be honest, Im not anticipating staying in more than 6 hours time so i doubt anyone will be coming to the hospital.
When we`re home, Im letting both families and friends know that no one should just turn up without asking us first.

 

[Mummy2Asher]

the 1st 2 weeks we are having no visitors at all, then were inviting people round in a one afternoon for my sons birthday party and they can see they baby then. so my son will be getting alot of attention and wont be jealous the baby is getting presents.
we wont have people dropping in becuase were moving and wont know anyone lol
but i would deffinately avoid it for the 1st couple of weeks, its about bonding for your baby and getting into your own routine etc

 

[Blah11]

Also, just another thing to think about, having a new baby means u literally have no time to yourself. Its nice to hand the baby to someone you trust for half an hour so you can shower or for someone to be there to make you a sandwich.

 

[aob1013]

Thats what OH's are for x

 

[~RedLily~]

im hoping i can get all the visits out of the way at the hospital so that i can go home and be left in peace for a week or so, i doubt very much this will happen and FOB's family will insist they have every right to visit. i can totally imagine me having to be up dressed, showered, house tidied etc everyday for them to just sit around while i makes teas and stuff.

 

[xxembobxx]

I've never had any rules about visitors before.
Am hoping I will be in and out of hsopital within 24 hours and I always found the first week was when I had the most energy (before lack of sleep sets in and the high fades lol) so it will be open house pretty much.

Saying that though....I only have a mum and uncle and a couple of friends in the local area. Other friends live a fair distance away and all work so they would arrange visits in advance.
OH's family live a long way away and have all mentioned about visiting in summer so we'd have a couple of months before they arrive, although it would mean them staying for a few days :-/

 

[Blah11]

Thats what OH's are for x

Yes but he'll be tired too babys cry at night ;o

 

[tiggerlix]

i will have only mum at the hos as im expecting to be home in a few hrs .my mum is my birthing partner so i am welcoming her with open arms as im also a single mum.My sisters will want to come around so as long as they call 1st thats fine.wont be having no freinds for at least a week,my family is big so will take about a week before everyone has finished.I hate my baby being passed around ARRRGH! so thats a no.no to everyone.
xx

 

[Blah11]

I've never had any rules about visitors before.
Am hoping I will be in and out of hsopital within 24 hours and I always found the first week was when I had the most energy (before lack of sleep sets in and the high fades lol) so it will be open house pretty much.

Saying that though....I only have a mum and uncle and a couple of friends in the local area. Other friends live a fair distance away and all work so they would arrange visits in advance.
OH's family live a long way away and have all mentioned about visiting in summer so we'd have a couple of months before they arrive, although it would mean them staying for a few days :-/

Depends on how long your labour was. I was totally exhausted when amelie was first born.

 

[Kacie]

Errmm I find this quite tricky. I want time with just me, OH and baby first and don't want visitors around the bed while I'm trying to get to grips with the basics of breast feeding etc.

But my mum thinks she is coming in as soon as baby is born (before clean up or anything). So I have said that, for first 30 mins to hour it is just OH and me. Then I will cave and let mum come in and make the normal cooing noises.

Then it does depend on how long I am in hospital for. My dad and brothers may likely come visit in hospital but I don't mind if they wait for me to come home. We also have close friends that will want to visit ASAP which i don't mind as hospitals are lonely places!

The only thing that bothers me is that ALL of these visitors will want to hold the baby and I think I am going to be very protctive over him/her for the first few days especially and maybe even weeks. I am not sure if I can put in place a 'look but don't touch' policy as I am rubbish at telling people 'no' so I wont enjoy that one bit.

I think my hospital only lets two people bed side in the ward at any one time which will make it a bit less overwhelming.

As for home visits I would prefer some warning and to be able to turn them away if i just don't feel up to it. I as half debating not telling anyone baby was here for the first week to avoid this.

I'm under no illusion that these people want to see the baby and not me so I wont feel bad for saying no and come back another time.

xx

 

[aob1013]

Thats what OH's are for x

Yes but he'll be tired too babys cry at night ;o

Yes they do

Another reason why i'm glad i have an OH, Mum and MIL close by and another reason why i don't want visitors, we'll all be sooo tired.

 

[Lellow]

My house will be pretty much open doors when I have the baby, we have a pretty big family and I they will be all visiting, I dont want anyone there all the time though, I want plenty of time with just OH and LO but im not gonna tell anyone they cant visit.

Hospital will be different though- definatly only very immediate family

xx

Same - Especially as he will be my first, i think it'd be a little off to turn people away.

 

[Tabbyfourpaws]

I have GBS and hoping for just a 24 hour stay (would prefer to leave sooner). I think they just want to make sure bubba has no symptoms so that's fair enough. Open house for me too. I love all my family and in laws and they don't wind me up so it's no problem. I think my mates will be understanding and wait a little bit. The Facebook pics will have to do for a week or so x

 

[CJane]

Can I ask what kind of rules your hospitals have on visiting anyway?

Mine has very strict rules of only 2 people at a time and only 2-3pm and 7-8pm. Only birth partner allowed in outisider those hours. Which means I don't need to worry about turning people away while in hospital if they arrive, as mws and nurses will be doing that for me!!

 

[aob1013]

Can I ask what kind of rules your hospitals have on visiting anyway?

Mine has very strict rules of only 2 people at a time and only 2-3pm and 7-8pm. Only birth partner allowed in outisider those hours. Which means I don't need to worry about turning people away while in hospital if they arrive, as mws and nurses will be doing that for me!!

I can't remember exactly what they were, but OH has pretty much free rein, and everyone else about two hours max everyday one at about 2pm and one 7pm. Two at a time. I think, so don't quote me on it xx

 

[Tudor Rose]

well with my 1st the 2nd day i was home OH parents arrived with the grandmother in toe and some aunts, uncles, cousins. all un expected i wasnt happy and i was so tired i was on the brink of tears we lived in a studio flat then so there was no chance of hiding anywhere. the little kids were climbing over everything i was glad when they went. with my 2nd friends turned up on the door i,d only been home 1 hour!!!! and then was asked less then 24 hours after given birth "how long will it take to loose you belly?" i bit her head off and said "thats my f++king uterus you dimwitt not fat!" i dont normally swear.

the hospital im birthing in this time is very strict about visitors no more than 2 and DH so that will be DH and my kids. MIL will be at our house when i get home as she is looking after our 2 kids when DH picks me and LO up from hosp. but my parents i.l tell them i.l visit a day later with baby as they are very critical people and i dont want my mum running her fingers over my surfaces checking for dust. plus i have to buy special milk for them when they have a cup of tea. so i.l go to them they.ve only ever been my house twice in 5 years. plus hopefully my dad will cook me a scrummy meal

 

[nada87]

i'm having in laws and a few friends visit in the hospital (i'll be there 3 days since i'm having a section) they can come on day two (except for whoever brings the kids to the hospital the 1st day) then we are having no visitors until we announce differently, that will probably be after a weekish. and then my mom will visit for a few days around the one week mark (she lives 4 hrs away) all my brothers live far away so they won't see the baby for a while and we don't have alot of friends either so visiting shouldnt be to bad.

 

[alio]

i'm having nobody apart from grandparents in the first week. i read in a book don't accept any visitors unless they are willing to help you in some way (laundry, shopping). i totally agree. my mum is a god send with helping. i made the mistake of being walked over last baby and it will NOT be happening again this time.

make sure it is on YOUR terms only.

 

[Tabbyfourpaws]

Tudor Rose, that sounds like it was a nightmare!! X