Waiting for AF after M/C, anyone else? OCBM

[Nat0609]

I'm doing well. Enjoying some beautiful hot, sunny weather and happy to be working from home so I can sit out on the deck and enjoy it

Dinner with my friend last night went well. She did bring up the m/c but was very respectful about it and I managed to talk about it for a very short period of time with only a couple tears, then on to happier topics.

How are you doing?

Crys - I hope AF arrives and leaves soon, so you can get on with baby making fun Hopefully the mammogram goes smoothly and is easier than you expect!

Glad you managed to talk about it without it upsetting you too much xx

 

[bluestars]

Crys hope af shows its ugly head soon! My mum says hers didnt hurt much too! They arent comfortable though. Hope it goes well xxx

Lindsay glad your dinner went well!

Its been sunny here today finally! Beautiful! So let it carry on as its our show and festival this weekend. Off work till monday now woohoo! Haha

Xxxxx

 

[crysshae]

Quiet here today.

Mammo wasn't bad, just awkward.

 

[Nat0609]

Quiet here today.

Mammo wasn't bad, just awkward.

Glad it was ok hun. When do you get results? Xx

 

[bluestars]

Crys glad mam went ok!

I got my crosslines today... think I've missed it... xxx

 

[Nat0609]

Crys glad mam went ok!

I got my crosslines today... think I've missed it... xxx

Why do you think that hun xx

 

[Nat0609]

Just a little vent but it sort of annoys me when people in the UK ask their GP for a scan just cos they want one! We all want one but that doesn't mean we should get one.

If you want a reassurance scan, pay for it. Argh! The NHS is stretched enough and I'd much rather time and money be spent elsewhere. Like in neo-natal for example. A first tri loss is horrible and not nice but it's not preventable.

No medical reason, you shouldn't get one IMO xx

 

[bluestars]

Well maybe not completely missed it but we didn't bd that day...

I agree Nat but i did have cramps at 9 weeks and got a scan wasn't my choice to be fair but it was very reassuring!

What made you say this? Someone around you get an early scan? xxx

 

[Nat0609]

Well maybe not completely missed it but we didn't bd that day...

I agree Nat but i did have cramps at 9 weeks and got a scan wasn't my choice to be fair but it was very reassuring!

What made you say this? Someone around you get an early scan? xxx

It doesn't have to be the day huni. Female sperm is slower swimming.

Just people on here. They want a scan com they've had a previous loss which obviously I understand but if you aren't in pain or bleeding I don't think you should get one just because you want one xx

 

[bluestars]

Well maybe not completely missed it but we didn't bd that day...

I agree Nat but i did have cramps at 9 weeks and got a scan wasn't my choice to be fair but it was very reassuring!

What made you say this? Someone around you get an early scan? xxx

It doesn't have to be the day huni. Female sperm is slower swimming.

Just people on here. They want a scan com they've had a previous loss which obviously I understand but if you aren't in pain or bleeding I don't think you should get one just because you want one xx

My consultant said that i will get an early scan next time a 12 week one a 20 and a 34 because i lost the twins. Im not sure if i want that many. We will see. i wouldnt ask for it though. xxx

 

[Nat0609]

Well maybe not completely missed it but we didn't bd that day...

I agree Nat but i did have cramps at 9 weeks and got a scan wasn't my choice to be fair but it was very reassuring!

What made you say this? Someone around you get an early scan? xxx

It doesn't have to be the day huni. Female sperm is slower swimming.

Just people on here. They want a scan com they've had a previous loss which obviously I understand but if you aren't in pain or bleeding I don't think you should get one just because you want one xx

My consultant said that i will get an early scan next time a 12 week one a 20 and a 34 because i lost the twins. Im not sure if i want that many. We will see. i wouldnt ask for it though. xxx

But that's for a reason, you had a very very very unusual pregnancy and your Consultant has recommended it.

I'm talking about people who are asking their Doctors not the other way round xx

 

[Nina83]

Nat, we have a dating scan at about 6-7 weeks, then a NT at 12.
I will most definitely get the 6 week again, and then at 9 again. I had a MMC at 8 weeks, after seeing the HB at 6. We found out because we went for a scan simply because I "felt" something. I couldn't imagine going in at 12 weeks to find out my baby had died weeks ago.
I'm not going to go through that again.
I know MC can't be prevented, or seen ahead, nothing can be done, but a lot of stress can be prevented. I wouldn't going several times to someone who is pregnant for the first time though. They don't know the "worst that can happen"

 

[bluestars]

I aggree with I would rather know that everything os ok and that im not going to go to a 12 week or so scan and be shock that my baby has passed weeks ago. although id worry each scan xxx

 

[Nat0609]

Nat, we have a dating scan at about 6-7 weeks, then a NT at 12.
I will most definitely get the 6 week again, and then at 9 again. I had a MMC at 8 weeks, after seeing the HB at 6. We found out because we went for a scan simply because I "felt" something. I couldn't imagine going in at 12 weeks to find out my baby had died weeks ago.
I'm not going to go through that again.
I know MC can't be prevented, or seen ahead, nothing can be done, but a lot of stress can be prevented. I wouldn't going several times to someone who is pregnant for the first time though. They don't know the "worst that can happen"

It's different here as we have a National Health Service which is stretched to its capacity as it is without some individuals taking advantage of the system.

If we had to pay or have insurance I'd want more xx

 

[crysshae]

Quiet here today.

Mammo wasn't bad, just awkward.

Glad it was ok hun. When do you get results? Xx

They said my doc will know within a day or two and I'll receive my letter in a couple weeks. So I guess if I receive no call from my doctor, everything is fine.

Crys glad mam went ok!

I got my crosslines today... think I've missed it... xxx

If you miss the actual day, it's okay....as long as you've managed the day before and/or even a day or two before that.

It's different here as we have a National Health Service which is stretched to its capacity as it is without some individuals taking advantage of the system.

If we had to pay or have insurance I'd want more xx

My doctor does a scan at my first visit at 8 weeks then another at around 20 weeks. I have never had the 12-week scan. I know she told my niece she would have the MaterniT21 test at 12 weeks but I'm not sure about the scan. I would think she does that too now.

You're right. If there is no real reason for an earlier scan, NHS shouldn't have to pay for it.

We pay dearly for our insurance over here. I do like that most group insurance companies cover prenatal and delivery with just one copay at the beginning. The hospital bill is a different story though.

 

[Nat0609]

Quiet here today.

Mammo wasn't bad, just awkward.

Glad it was ok hun. When do you get results? Xx

They said my doc will know within a day or two and I'll receive my letter in a couple weeks. So I guess if I receive no call from my doctor, everything is fine.

Crys glad mam went ok!

I got my crosslines today... think I've missed it... xxx

If you miss the actual day, it's okay....as long as you've managed the day before and/or even a day or two before that.

It's different here as we have a National Health Service which is stretched to its capacity as it is without some individuals taking advantage of the system.

If we had to pay or have insurance I'd want more xx

My doctor does a scan at my first visit at 8 weeks then another at around 20 weeks. I have never had the 12-week scan. I know she told my niece she would have the MaterniT21 test at 12 weeks but I'm not sure about the scan. I would think she does that too now.

You're right. If there is no real reason for an earlier scan, NHS shouldn't have to pay for it.

We pay dearly for our insurance over here. I do like that most group insurance companies cover prenatal and delivery with just one copay at the beginning. The hospital bill is a different story though.

I'm sure your results will be fine hun.

I don't care if someone has 30 scans if they need them it's just the people who *want* them for no real reason other than reassurance that gets me. I'd have one every week if I could and if the NHS was a bottomless pit but it isn't.

My Mum works for the NHS, slaves 12 hour days and gets paid a fairly meagre amount. No pay rise for 3 years either.

If the NHS collapsed and people had to pay for everything they'd think more about if they *needed* it or not xx

 

[crysshae]

I'm sure your results will be fine hun.

I don't care if someone has 30 scans if they need them it's just the people who *want* them for no real reason other than reassurance that gets me. I'd have one every week if I could and if the NHS was a bottomless pit but it isn't.

My Mum works for the NHS, slaves 12 hour days and gets paid a fairly meagre amount. No pay rise for 3 years either.

If the NHS collapsed and people had to pay for everything they'd think more about if they *needed* it or not xx

Thanks.

I would have a sono machine in my home if I could. Lol! Or better yet a window in my belly so I could just see the baby all the time. I am planning to get one of those really good Dopplers you can rent.

Yes, I bet they would. Do y'all have any other option if that were to ever happen?

 

[Nat0609]

I like the window idea

Some people have BUPA which is private medical care but not very many.

A private reassurance scan here is about £80

 

[crysshae]

Yeah. They're pretty expensive here too. So nice with all the stuff they offer and extra pictures though.

 

[Nat0609]

Yeah I bet they aren't as rushed.

I'm a bit down though as I'm spotting today xx