Waiting for AF after M/C, anyone else? OCBM

[Nat0609]

Nina- im sorry you are finding it difficult at the moment. I do have an understanding of how you are feeling. And to be honest im not sure how I get through the worst of it. I think I thibk to my self the more stressed and worried I get about it the less likely it will happen for us.

I lost my boys way back in feb and im still angry and upset about it. I thought this month I did have a sesne of peace with it all but when OH and I went to dtd past night I burst into tears. I really feel like I need a break from ttc but on the other hand I dont want to give up trying and wait any longer!

I hope you feel that we are here to help and to support and I really hope you get your bfp!

Xxx

Nat- I agree with Nina stop testing hon. I'd put it down to your body getting rid of all the old hormones !

Xxxx

I'm sorry you are having a hard time hun Sex can be difficult and emotional sometimes after a loss.

We are all here for each other

I appreciate what you are saying and I know why you are both saying it. If it was one of you guys I'd be saying the same thing to you. It'd be easier "mentally" to just assume that it was residual hormone and ignore it but its hard because I know deep down that isn't the reason xx

 

[Nina83]

I appreciate what you are saying and I know why you are both saying it. If it was one of you guys I'd be saying the same thing to you. It'd be easier "mentally" to just assume that it was residual hormone and ignore it but its hard because I know deep down that isn't the reason xx

((hugs))

 

[Nat0609]

Thanks hun. I'll be ok xx

 

[crysshae]

Big hugs to all of you. I wish all of you a BFP and sticky, full-term baby with your current cycle.

Nina - I usually ovulate between CD 12 and 14. I didn't ovulate until CD18 this time, counting my first day of spotting as CD1. I had a couple of days before that with watery CM and such when I thought I was going to ovulate but didn't and was so confused. I think you're definitely still in.

 

[Nina83]

Thank you crysshae, that does make me feel better.
I just can't get out of this funk. I think I need to hit the gym and run or spin it off.

We're going to a damn vegan restaurant tonight and all I want is something alcoholic. I haven't had a drink since January. It's about time. We might just have to stop off in some bar afterwards. White wine will NOT do. I really do think I deserve it.

 

[Nina83]

Another question- these O ramps have turned into the cramps I got in early pregnancy. Now, I'm probably not pregnant unless I'm some sort of medical freak, but I've never gotten them before.
Wouldn't my uterus have started going back to normal, 2 weeks ago? I haven't had this pain since. And it's STRONG. And I wasn't even that far along. I just don't know what to make of all this.

 

[Nat0609]

Like you said to me, have a drink and enjoy yourself or you'll regret it otherwise.

My sister has come round to visit and she thinks I've had a chemical too, I've shown her the tests.

Well, fingers crossed for this cycle xx

 

[crysshae]

I had some pretty strong cramping in my uterus last week, but it was (TMI) mostly after orgasm, but 2 and 4 days prior to O. I think because your uterus starts stretching out even that early in pregnancy, it has to get some of those contractions in to get back to normal and ready for the next cycle. Of course, if it gets too bad, you should go see the doctor to make sure everything is okay.

I agree. Go get that drink and relax. I'm thinking I'm gonna have one soon...and a pedicure too.


I'm so sorry, Nat. I hope this is your cycle.

 

[Nina83]

Are you going to get your blood drawn?

 

[Nat0609]

Are you going to get your blood drawn?

They don't do that here I'm 99.9% sure there's nothing viable anyway.

I can only get a glaring pos on an OPK. Nothing but squints on two FRER and an IC xx

 

[Aleeah]

Are you going to get your blood drawn?

They don't do that here I'm 99.9% sure there's nothing viable anyway.

I can only get a glaring pos on an OPK. Nothing but squints on two FRER and an IC xx

I'm so sorry Nat, it's horrible this is happening to you but at least now you'll be able to track the next cycle more accurately, having a firm CD1 but nevertheless, it's a horrible thing to have to go through.

Have you had a chemical before? I've had one and the bleeding was definitely heavier, with more clots than I would normally have.

I'm at DPO 6 now and CD 52! Got crazy cramping earlier but it's tailed off to normal now. I would feel terrible if I get pregnant this cycle as I got a little too merry at the weekend!! But like you've all said, most women drink until they get a BFP as they don't realise they're pregnant and I'm going to lay off the alcohol going forwards!

Nina - I had terrible cramping after my miscarriage for around 3-4 weeks, I guess it was my utereus getting back to normal as had cramping throughout the last weeks of pregnancy too (I miscarried at 8 weeks, baby measured 7 weeks). I'm so sorry you're finding things tough, it will happen for you, it's got to happen for all of us, we can get pregnant, so many poor ladies don't even get that. Just try and relax and focus on other stuff (not easy I know that all too well) xx

Crysshae - It's so weird, I looked at my past pregnancy tests following the miscarriage and it does seem like I ovulated 14 days after I got a very negative BFN. What's also weird is I've missed a period after my miscarriage and now it looks like my body is back into the same routine. So my fertile days were always week 1 of every month nearly, and that's what's happened now, so weird but good! How many DPO are you now?

Bluestars - You're so brave, I can't imagine going through what you have, someone said to me at the weekend, life puts obstacles in our way and it's how we deal with them that makes us the people we are. People like you inspire me and make me stronger, thank you for sharing with us always xxx

Lindsay - Funny what you said about your husband saying it's like a holiday that never happened, that's probably how my husband would sum it up if he talked about his feelings more. Whereabouts in your cycle are you now?

Good Luck to all you ladies, and sending you a hug Nat , really hope and pray this is your cycle xxxx

 

[crysshae]

I'm 4 dpo today. Hoping to see AF next Thursday or Friday. If I do, my cycles will be a week later than they were, but that's okay. If everything is still on the same track as before my miscarriage, I should be 9-10 dpo on my birthday and hopefully will have a beautiful birthday BFP.

 

[Aleeah]

I'm 4 dpo today. Hoping to see AF next Thursday or Friday. If I do, my cycles will be a week later than they were, but that's okay. If everything is still on the same track as before my miscarriage, I should be 9-10 dpo on my birthday and hopefully will have a beautiful birthday BFP.

Birthday BFP is cool! I'm hoping for one before my birthday, so I've got this month and next. Good Luck xxx

 

[crysshae]

I'm 4 dpo today. Hoping to see AF next Thursday or Friday. If I do, my cycles will be a week later than they were, but that's okay. If everything is still on the same track as before my miscarriage, I should be 9-10 dpo on my birthday and hopefully will have a beautiful birthday BFP.

Birthday BFP is cool! I'm hoping for one before my birthday, so I've got this month and next. Good Luck xxx

Good luck to you too!

 

[Nina83]

I'm 4 dpo today. Hoping to see AF next Thursday or Friday. If I do, my cycles will be a week later than they were, but that's okay. If everything is still on the same track as before my miscarriage, I should be 9-10 dpo on my birthday and hopefully will have a beautiful birthday BFP.

the best birthday ever

 

[Lindsay109]

Hi all I just wanted to update, I took a hpt this morning after no coloured discharge for nearly all of yesterday. Anyway I got my BFP. So delighted. Rushed out and got a CB digital and showed up 2-3 weeks pregnant. Really really hope nothing happens this baby and really nervous about going to the toilet incase there is blood. Please wish we luck that I have a successful pregnancy with a lovely healthy baby at the end.

Congrats June!!! I hope this is your rainbow baby

 

[Nat0609]

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Are you going to get your blood drawn?
They don't do that here I'm 99.9% sure there's nothing viable anyway.

I can only get a glaring pos on an OPK. Nothing but squints on two FRER and an IC xx
I'm so sorry Nat, it's horrible this is happening to you but at least now you'll be able to track the next cycle more accurately, having a firm CD1 but nevertheless, it's a horrible thing to have to go through.

Have you had a chemical before? I've had one and the bleeding was definitely heavier, with more clots than I would normally have.

I'm at DPO 6 now and CD 52! Got crazy cramping earlier but it's tailed off to normal now. I would feel terrible if I get pregnant this cycle as I got a little too merry at the weekend!! But like you've all said, most women drink until they get a BFP as they don't realise they're pregnant and I'm going to lay off the alcohol going forwards!

No I've not had one before or not one that I've been aware of anyway. It's funny because a lot of people have said they've found the first AF after miscarriage really heavy and painful. I'm not finding it painful at all. The bleeding is different to normal too. It's really dark and thick. It's strange!

At least I know where I am now and I'm back to Day 1 rather than stuck in limbo. The other thing that is puzzling is the strong OPK but faint HPT. The HPT is supposed to be more sensitive than the OPK Every freak of nature thing that can happen seems to be happening to me at the moment!

I wouldn't worry about enjoying your weekend. You can't not drink for the whole time you are TTC. Like we've said before, we don't think small amounts of alcohol cause miscarriage xx

 

[Nina83]

My first AF after MC was normal and painless. I really expected the worst.
I tend not to trust OPK when it comes to HPT, they are less sensitive, but towards AF LH rises, which is usually why woman think they might be pregnant.
I'm sorry you're going through this Hun, but it is a good thing you know where you are right now. Waiting for the first AF is the worst. Things tend to seem better afterwards.

 

[Nina83]

Nina - I had terrible cramping after my miscarriage for around 3-4 weeks, I guess it was my utereus getting back to normal as had cramping throughout the last weeks of pregnancy too (I miscarried at 8 weeks, baby measured 7 weeks). I'm so sorry you're finding things tough, it will happen for you, it's got to happen for all of us, we can get pregnant, so many poor ladies don't even get that. Just try and relax and focus on other stuff (not easy I know that all too well) xx

What a horrible reminder.
Mother nature can be a real bitch sometimes.

 

[Lindsay109]

Nat - sending you some big hugs Sorry to hear that AF got you. Looking on the bright side, here's to a fresh start and hopefully this next cycle brings you a bfp!

Aleeah - hopefully the cramping you had was a good sign! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I'm CD9 now... just waiting to ovulate.

Crys - I really hope you do have a BFP for your birthday

Nina - I'm sorry you're having a bad day I know the feeling, I get to the point where I think I'm starting to feel more like myself, and then out of the blue have a little meltdown. They're coming fewer and farther between now so at least that's positive. This has just been a really shitty year and I hope the second half of 2013 and 2014 will be better for all of us!

On the positive side, maybe the cramps you're having are ovulation cramps? Are you still doing OPK's? I had really really bad ovulation cramps last month... almost went to the ER they were so bad.

How are you ladies dealing with other people's pregnancies? I was at my office last week and found out one of my co-workers is about 17 weeks pregnant... she is due right around when I would have been. I'm really happy and excited for her, especially because I know they have been trying for a while... but it also makes me feel so so sad. To be honest, I kind of hid from her for the rest of the day so I didn't have to say anything, because I didn't think I would be able to say anything without tears and no one at work knows what happened. The good thing is I usually work in the community so I don't have to go in to the office everyday... but I'll probably see her again sooner or later... I'm just hoping that I will be strong enough at that point to be able to congratulate her without crying.