foodiewife
Active Member
- Joined
- Sep 24, 2014
- Messages
- 32
- Reaction score
- 0
Hi! I'm new here but have lurked for more than two years. I'm 32 and OH is 35. We've been together for 13 years, married for almost 3. We both have good jobs with great benefits, both have graduate degrees and we just bought a house last November. But he's not ready yet and I'm more than ready and just sooo frustrated. We have friends who are already on baby #2 and we are still WTT for #1! I feel like he's never going to be ready and I'm worried that I'm getting older. The last time we talked about it he said that we should WTT until I'm 34! I told him that I wasn't going to wait that long.
If I'm being honest tho, there are things that we need to wait for...I've not finished my PhD yet, but I have a job and I'm almost done...as in I have an entire draft written. OH hates, hates, hates his current job. Has been stuck in it for going on 10 years and desperately wants to leave but has had no luck with finding something else. Sometimes he talks about going back to school... I need to lose weight before TTC, cut down on drinking, remodel our kitchen, finish painting, save more money, do some traveling and on, and on, and on... Ugh! I know there will never be a perfect time and we want to have at least 2 and I know he wants kids but he's nervous and wants everything to be perfect and its just not reasonable...I know we need to talk about it but I'm afraid it will frustrate/bother him but I guess I should not have to have all of the frustration to myself?
Sorry for the rant...
If I'm being honest tho, there are things that we need to wait for...I've not finished my PhD yet, but I have a job and I'm almost done...as in I have an entire draft written. OH hates, hates, hates his current job. Has been stuck in it for going on 10 years and desperately wants to leave but has had no luck with finding something else. Sometimes he talks about going back to school... I need to lose weight before TTC, cut down on drinking, remodel our kitchen, finish painting, save more money, do some traveling and on, and on, and on... Ugh! I know there will never be a perfect time and we want to have at least 2 and I know he wants kids but he's nervous and wants everything to be perfect and its just not reasonable...I know we need to talk about it but I'm afraid it will frustrate/bother him but I guess I should not have to have all of the frustration to myself?
Sorry for the rant...