want another baby after this one x

[smurfette85]

we found out on sat that we are having another girl so we will have 3 girls and 1 boy but we have been chatting and my oh and i would like to have another child after this one is that bad ?? and how big a gap would you say would be a good gap between kids ?? xxx
or am i being selfish to want another little one ?? xx

 

[ItsJana]

I'm pregnant with my third and DH and I are tentatively planning number 4. Our first two children are 16 months apart and it's been a great age gap, we might see if we can repeat that.

 

[smurfette85]

i have 26 month between first 2 then 54 weeks and this is just over the 7 years lol so i am deffo considering it now but he only said on sat haha i think we will see how everything goes before we have another one xx but i am seriously thinking about one more now lol xx

 

[purplecupcake]

If you are emotionally and financially able to raise that many children, then more power to you.

I personally would never have two children in diapers at the same time, so my ideal age gap is 2-3 years.

 

[Mypreciouskid]

This baby will make our score 3 boys and 1 girl, lol...just your opposite. While I'd love one more girl, I'm done. Stick a fork in me! Maybe if I were younger (36 now) and had more money, lol.

As far as age gaps, my first 2 are 15 months apart. The 2nd and 3rd are 24 months apart. The 3rd and 4th are 8 years apart, lol. I much prefer a big age gap.

 

[Buttercup84]

I already know I want one more after this one and hopefully with a smaller gap than our first 2 (2y9m) hoping to start ttc by the time this baby is a year old our third will almost certainly be our last for financial and practical reasons.

 

[smurfette85]

i am 29 the now so ideally would like another before 35 so not in a rush we have the time and are secure money wise as my oh works all the hours he can so it would be me with the kids most of the time we are going to use fluffy bums so wont be buying nappys / dippers all the time its just do i want a biger gap or them close together and what would we do if it was another girl ohhh its so hard to think haha think we will just need to see how things go after i have this little miss as always wanted a big family but what is too big xx

 

[Rcx]

If you are emotionally and financially able to raise that many children, then more power to you.

I personally would never have two children in diapers at the same time, so my ideal age gap is 2-3 years.

I'm definitely the same as you! The thought of 2 in nappies scares the crap out me lol! But I've heard once baby is born sometimes your feeling change lol!
I'm lucky to have time on my side as I'm young so no need to rush.

Definitely agree too that if you can do and you want to, then go for it!

 

[Yo_Yo]

Definitely would like another 1 or 2
It's fine if it suits your personal and financial circumstances, so if it's what you would like then go for it!

 

[heidi87814]

As long as you're financially stable and feel emotionally ready to take care of that many, go for it!

 

[NotNic]

Not selfish at all. I'm thinking this will be my last. My OH wants a third, but I don't think I agree. I'm not ruling it out but the further I get with this one the more 'done' I feel. Never say never though!

 

[smurfette85]

This was ment to be are last lol but now he is thinking and got me thinking about another one done know is it just cos I love being pregnant that I would like another or is it are family won't be complete with out another child after this one xx

 

[DocMcStuffins]

2 was always meant to be my last. I'd always said 2 was my perfect number. Oh on the other hand had made no secret of the fact he always wanted 3 children.

Anyway, after we'd had our second I still had that nagging broody feeling that just wouldn't shift. I eventually caved and agreed we could try for a third and here we are. Expecting our 3rd but definitely final baby.

I'm so sure this time either I will be getting my tubes tied during the c section or my oh will be having the snip!

X

 

[smurfette85]

I was thinking about getting my tubes tied but had not said to him
And then he comes out with he would like another lol this is my 4 th baby xx

 

[Spiffynoodles]

I've been changing two diapers for nearly 11 months. It's actually not that bad. My first two are 16 months apart, and these two will be about 15 months apart. And we'll for sure be having a 4th, and possibly a 5th or 6th.

I want a house full of children and lots of love.

 

[ItsJana]

This was ment to be are last lol but now he is thinking and got me thinking about another one done know is it just cos I love being pregnant that I would like another or is it are family won't be complete with out another child after this one xx

When some people get older you hear them say that they wish they would have had more kids, you rarely hear the opposite. I'm not old at all, i'm your age, but I keep this in mind when thinking about having more kids

 

[ItsJana]

I've been changing two diapers for nearly 11 months. It's actually not that bad. My first two are 16 months apart, and these two will be about 15 months apart. And we'll for sure be having a 4th, and possibly a 5th or 6th.

I want a house full of children and lots of love.

It was the same for my first two, everyone always said oh that must have been hard with two in diapers. It really wasn't. It might be harder now actually having to wake them up at 7am get them and a newborn ready and drive to school...before when they were so young there was no time to wake up and be out of the house, now it's going to be about keeping a schedule.

 

[mixedmama]

Your ideal gap really depends on your situation! For me personally, 2.5 to 3 years is perfect (even though I will have a 4 year gap between my DD and DS). Anything less than 2 years scares me!

 

[purplecupcake]

It's not really the diapers (although since I am cloth diapering, I will need my first born to be 100% out of them so I can use them on the second)...it's that for me, personally, I want to be able to give my son my full attention for a few years. When we decide to have another, I want him to be independent enough that I can give the new baby the time and energy he/she deserves. I just don't think I could provide the level of attentiveness that I want to if I had two very young children back to back.

 

[Jaycrew]

we found out on sat that we are having another girl so we will have 3 girls and 1 boy but we have been chatting and my oh and i would like to have another child after this one is that bad ?? and how big a gap would you say would be a good gap between kids ?? xxx
or am i being selfish to want another little one ?? xx

That is NOT selfish at all!!! Good Luck to you - I think its great!!!