My son is nearly 13 months now, after having him i said i wudnt have anymore... but the last couple of months ive been getting really broody. I was fine until my OH started going on about having another one but then a few weeks ago when he started having trouble with his ex he said he didnt want anymore. Men are so confusing, how can he want one and then say he doesnt lol?! I mean i think maybe its best to wait as my son is still young and i have so much time to look forward to and also i think he'll understand how to be gentle aswell whereas right now he doesnt. I must say he loves babies, when we're out and he sees one he starts babbling to himself and starts waving his arms around and gets all excited lol... Im just not sure if i'll be able to cope with 2 and making sure one doesnt feel left out... im so confused
wanting #2 but not 100%
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just reading your thread....have you spoke to your partner about having another bub??? xx
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yeah last week was the last time it got mentioned... he said its not always bout what he wants but then it doesnt feel right having another child with him when he doesnt really want one... if u know what i mean When we first met he said he didnt want another one as he has a little boy from his prev relationship but i then fell pregnant after a month of being together and he seemed very happy about it and said he wanted me to keep it... but then after his ex not letting him see his other boy things have kinda changed in him which i completely understand. I spose time is only the answer really...
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well keep me posted...hope all goes well for you....soon u will be ttc xxxx
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Hi. I just got done reading this thread and I am suspecting that the reason your OH is dragging his feet is that he is scared that if things don't work out with you and him in the end that this will be another child he doesn't get to see and possibly 2 more if you two have another together. Which is understandable. He might be afraid of not getting to see his kids or watch them grow up or be there for them. You might try sitting him down and having a heart to heart with him and gently find out if that is what is stopping him. If so, I'm sure that you can reassure him that you are not like his ex and would not do that to him ever. (She must be an awful psycho case much like my DH's ex.) Tell him how important it is to you that your child(ren) have their father in their lives always no matter what for their own happiness and mental well being. I'm sure that if you could comfortably convince him that he'd soften to the idea of having another baby after just a little bit of time. I'd give it a go if I were you. Just don't pressure him about it though after the heart to heart chat. Good luck hun and I hope it works out for you. 
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my lo is almost 2 and im still not 100% myself about having baby 2 altho its my oh who is the one whos desperate for another.
id say enjoy ur lo more as uve said uve got plently of time for baby 2 and i wouldnt of been able to cope with zane at that age while pregnant.
zanes great with babies, and he didnt get jealous at all when i was holding my ohs cousins 6 month old he just wanted to join in, giving him toys and saying to me shhh! baby lol it was so cute.
i think he would be fine but then i also worry about if hes ready for another baby around as id hate for him to feel left out.
having babies is so confusing lol.
hope ur oh makes his mind up soon tho x
id say enjoy ur lo more as uve said uve got plently of time for baby 2 and i wouldnt of been able to cope with zane at that age while pregnant.
zanes great with babies, and he didnt get jealous at all when i was holding my ohs cousins 6 month old he just wanted to join in, giving him toys and saying to me shhh! baby lol it was so cute.
i think he would be fine but then i also worry about if hes ready for another baby around as id hate for him to feel left out.
having babies is so confusing lol.
hope ur oh makes his mind up soon tho x
thank you so much for all of the advice given its much appreciated. I am deff going to talk to my OH but personally i think time is the best healer and only time can tell really... i dont see the point in rushing to have a family. If its gonna be then it will Even tho my OH is starting to nag a little bit bout having another baby now but we need to talk. Will keep this thread updated
thanks again everyone x
its much appreciated. I am deff going to talk to my OH but personally i think time is the best healer and only time can tell really... i dont see the point in rushing to have a family. If its gonna be then it will Even tho my OH is starting to nag a little bit bout having another baby now but we need to talk. Will keep this thread updatedthanks again everyone x
in my situation our 1st baby was a hard baby, he had colic and was sick for months too so we had a very tough time... he was 2 last week.. about 5 mths ago I asked my hubbie was he ready for no 2, he said no way honey. So I respected that and forgot about it.. then a few weeks ago I asked him again and he said yes hun would love to try...
but two days later found out I was pregnant, was delighted but sadly am losing baby at 7 weeks... so I think just wait it out.. wait till he is ready and enjoy what you have now....
but two days later found out I was pregnant, was delighted but sadly am losing baby at 7 weeks... so I think just wait it out.. wait till he is ready and enjoy what you have now....
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my son was a very good baby and still is, everyone used to comment saying how lucky we was to have such a behaved baby and stuff and ive heard people say u'll never have a baby like ur first. I had a 7 hour labour and was quite a good labour and i kinda miss the whole feelings of being pregnant and stuff. Sorry to hear about ur MC hun, I had one when my son was about 9 months old and was quite shocked when it was all happening. Think i was aobut 7 weeks myself... Good luck for when u try again x
ok my OH said he wants another baby with me... the thing is i want a june baby coz then its nice and sunny, which means trying in september (i think) lol and i didnt want another one til my son was nearly 2 so that means trying next year BUT i sooooo cant wait that long and i gotta lose sum weight, i still have haiden baby weight to lose and matt has to get a job... I feel like im in such a pickle lol
