Warning: Pity Party taking Place.

[Ashali]

I'm just feeling very sorry for myself, as I have just found out that my niece (only 6 years between us) is pregnant. It is very early, probably too early to be telling people, but she is just so excited.
My story so far is that my Depo shots wore off 11 months ago and AF finally returned 8 months ago but returned every 2 weeks until 3 cycles ago. So finally felt that we could start TTC, only to learn in the next cycle that the medicine I take for allergies dries up CM. Stopped taking the meds, only to develop a cyst that made BDing too uncomfortable. Had the cyst checked out, all systems go until results from pap smear came in. (Had it done when got cyst checked.) Results are simply that, there may be lesions, which if do exist, could be from HPV. Alot of maybe's, but all I can do is wait 12 months to see if they develop. Of course, all of this has come about in the last 6 weeks, then only 4 days after hearing the results I got the call about my niece's BFP.
I feel ripped off that DH and I waited until we were married, bought a house, worked hard to be in a good position for a baby and every other person around me is getting knocked up. The amount of accident babies in my life is ridiculous, I am one. But here are two people ready and wanting, and only getting obstacles. So I'm sorry for all the poor me stuff, but there is really no one around me that understands as this has all been quite easy for them. Between my mother preg at 17, my sis, bro, nephew, and other niece who all had babies at 19, I am getting really sick of hearing 'don't worry it will happen' and 'just relax and be patient'.
Sorry folks, I just needed to wallow and vent.

 

[Beccaboop]

 

[Futuremommy1]

Oh we all definitely understand. You wouldn't even believe the ridiculous story I had to hear about my BIL's wife who is 19 and pg by someone is NOT my BIL. and of course dh and I who are 29 and 30 who've been married for 7 years and have tried ttc for over a year now can't get a sticky baby.

This is a great place to vent. I'm sorry you're going through this. I was diagnosed with hpv and it flared up in my early 20s then ihad a cryo done and no major flare ups since so hopefully you'll be ok. ( I've been able to get pg twice just no take home babies yet)

 

[artsiekat]

So sorry, hun. I know how you feel a bit. I'm 29 now and we started trying when I was 27, my family all had their children young with no problems, so I get sick of "stop trying to hard, it'll happen" or, "just relax and it'll happen when you're not thinking about it". So when it finally happens, it's ectopic, then people say, "Well, now you now you can and you can try again." Makes you want to hit people, you know?

Hearing about other people so easily getting their BFP when they are in no position to have a baby can be really heartbreaking and make us feel like we are being punished for trying to wait and do things responsibly. I guess we just gotta keep trying and obsess as much as we need to. Hope everything comes together for you, hun.

 

[Futuremommy1]

I get in these mood where seeing women pregnant or with babies just makes me mad. My best friend and mom know we are ttc and no one else mentions our losses so i don't have to hear those things anymore. Except from myself cause I do try and keep my hopes up. I CAN get pregnant. So who knows

I was all set to follow the just relax theory and it will happen starting this cycle except last cycle I apparently ovulated 14 days earlier than normal and had my shortest cycle ever 26 days. So dh was like you have to test next month cause we were WAY off. So this cycle I'll test again. And we'll use pre seed cause we like lube.

 

[Armywife84]

Oooo a pity party, I'll bring the cupcakes!!

I HATE hearing someone in your family is pregnant(or pregnant again), it's like someone took a chef's knife to your abdomen. Of course it always happens to the ones who have massive amounts of debt and are struggling on 1 measly income. They always happen to be the fertile ones!!

I can relate, I found out my SIL is pregnant with her third but already has 1 yr old twins!! They just moved to Scottsdale, AZ on her husband's serving job, she's finishing her Master's in which she's racked up 70,000 so far in student loans (which is for editing but unless you have connections you're not placing in this crap economy), they get food stamps, and her parents still pay some of their bills!!! So unfair.

Now, I look at it is..I'm not jealous of her, because I'd hate to be in her situation. She has to take care of twins and a newborn with no help, still try to finish her master's, pay off mounds of debt, and receives a form of state aid.

 

[Ashali]

Thank you ladies. It really does help knowing that others have the same feelings and issues. Especially since I don't seem to have anyone around me that does. (I probably do but they are keeping it private.) So thanks again guys, you really helped put some perspective on things.
P.S. I love cupcakes!

 

[ButterflyK]

Oh I would.love to join the party. No one knows we are ttc because after falling pregnant last year by accident and then having a mmc I didn't want to tell anyone we are trying and if we get pregnant I want to wait to tell until the chances of a miscarriage go down.
Yet I was at my parents and my mom informed me that my cousin who had to go through IVF for both her previous pregnancy first one a little girl, second one twin boys is pregnant the natural way this time, they were done with kids and tried for years before having IVF didn't think they could conceive the martial way is pregnant.

And here I am a year later no bump not even a false positive. It's so frustating I just want to cry.

 

[Armywife84]

Oh I would.love to join the party. No one knows we are ttc because after falling pregnant last year by accident and then having a mmc I didn't want to tell anyone we are trying and if we get pregnant I want to wait to tell until the chances of a miscarriage go down.
Yet I was at my parents and my mom informed me that my cousin who had to go through IVF for both her previous pregnancy first one a little girl, second one twin boys is pregnant the natural way this time, they were done with kids and tried for years before having IVF didn't think they could conceive the martial way is pregnant.

And here I am a year later no bump not even a false positive. It's so frustating I just want to cry.

Perhaps, you could find some support in your cousin when it comes to this seemingly never-ending struggle? It's nice to have someone in your family who sort of understands what you're going through..especially when you come from a fertile myrtle families. Reach out to her!

 

[ButterflyK]

Oh I would.love to join the party. No one knows we are ttc because after falling pregnant last year by accident and then having a mmc I didn't want to tell anyone we are trying and if we get pregnant I want to wait to tell until the chances of a miscarriage go down.
Yet I was at my parents and my mom informed me that my cousin who had to go through IVF for both her previous pregnancy first one a little girl, second one twin boys is pregnant the natural way this time, they were done with kids and tried for years before having IVF didn't think they could conceive the martial way is pregnant.

And here I am a year later no bump not even a false positive. It's so frustating I just want to cry.

Perhaps, you could find some support in your cousin when it comes to this seemingly never-ending struggle? It's nice to have someone in your family who sort of understands what you're going through..especially when you come from a fertile myrtle families. Reach out to her!

I would but she is my step cousin and we really aren't that close, every person in my family seems to have no problems at all and it just feels like I can't fall pregnant at all. I did get my prediction from Gail today which I can say was very hopeful so fingers crossed there. Predicting a girl and pregnant in Sept this year, thank god if that happens that's only 3 months away.

 

[Futuremommy1]

I thought about getting a Gail prediction. If I don't get a bfp this cycle I just may

 

[Ashali]

So I'm new to all this. What is a Gail prediction?

 

[Armywife84]

Oh I would.love to join the party. No one knows we are ttc because after falling pregnant last year by accident and then having a mmc I didn't want to tell anyone we are trying and if we get pregnant I want to wait to tell until the chances of a miscarriage go down.
Yet I was at my parents and my mom informed me that my cousin who had to go through IVF for both her previous pregnancy first one a little girl, second one twin boys is pregnant the natural way this time, they were done with kids and tried for years before having IVF didn't think they could conceive the martial way is pregnant.

And here I am a year later no bump not even a false positive. It's so frustating I just want to cry.

Perhaps, you could find some support in your cousin when it comes to this seemingly never-ending struggle? It's nice to have someone in your family who sort of understands what you're going through..especially when you come from a fertile myrtle families. Reach out to her!

I would but she is my step cousin and we really aren't that close, every person in my family seems to have no problems at all and it just feels like I can't fall pregnant at all. I did get my prediction from Gail today which I can say was very hopeful so fingers crossed there. Predicting a girl and pregnant in Sept this year, thank god if that happens that's only 3 months away.

It may be a long shot, but it's a support system beyond this one. I would love to have some physical support within my families. No one has had a problem getting pregnant in my family or my DH's. So I'm convinced it's not going to happen naturally at all. What's a Gail prediction?

 

[ButterflyK]

So I'm new to all this. What is a Gail prediction?

She is one of the psychics that's does pregnancy readings she seems to be the most accurate