We have completely fallen in love...

[SaraVO]

I had a doctor's appointment a couple of days ago and since we have absolutely decided to only have one I asked her about getting a tubal ligation at delivery. Her response was great but she mentioned how a lot of her patients wait for awhile to not make permanent decisions because of sids. I hadn't really thought about that. I don't see the point and I would much rather obsess over things I can control. But I looked over at my husband and I could see on his face that he was coming unglued. As soon as we got home he just grabbed onto me for awhile and didn't say anything. I think I realized that I'm not the only one who is very attached to our little man. Somewhere in the last couple of months my husband and I have both completely fallen in love with this baby. Him. With his kicks and his mooning the ultrasound technician and his love of everything jazz, he is real and tangible and as much as I can see his little face and almost feel him in my arms I'm not the only one. We did talk about her advice to wait but my husband's response was that he is irreplaceable and the idea that he could be was just wrong. Anyway, just a strange unexpected moment and as wonderful as my husband has been I really didn't expect this of him just yet.. I guess my manly unemotional husband is going through some emotions and changes too.

 

[Misscalais]

Aww your post made me teary.

 

[LaughOutLoud]

Awwwww

 

[gina236]

Teary over here too. That's so sweet

 

[biscuits104]

 

[Nibblenic]

Very sweet post.

I think there are so many option for birth control these days that having something permanent done isnt necessary.

Im not saying you will change your mind, or that any child can be replaced like a hamster or goldfish.

However I was only ever having 'the one' and we did consider permanent birth control. However we eventually decided to wait as we were young and I am glad we did. Funnily enough it was a situation where we had a serious RTA and our well any one of us could have died that eventually made us decide we should have another.

 

[SaraVO]

Very sweet post.

I think there are so many option for birth control these days that having something permanent done isnt necessary.

Im not saying you will change your mind, or that any child can be replaced like a hamster or goldfish.

However I was only ever having 'the one' and we did consider permanent birth control. However we eventually decided to wait as we were young and I am glad we did. Funnily enough it was a situation where we had a serious RTA and our well any one of us could have died that eventually made us decide we should have another.

There is a lot of thought behind it. We are both the oldest of four and because of that there were opportunities that we just didn't have because resources weren't available and financially there was just no support from either of our parents. Me, because my other siblings had more pressing needs and my husband because in our culture men should do for themselves. Even a nineteen year old who wants to go to college but has to pay his own way. We are not complaining we are independent self sufficient strong people because of the way we were raised, but I would have loved living in a dorm room, and going to college like my friends. But it wasn't an option, we are also not rich and don't anticipate being rich and we want to give him every opportunity that neither one of us had.

We also aren't terribly young. Most of our friends and family started their families over ten years ago. My husband would be forty by the time a second baby would come and I would be in my late thirties and we have had losses getting to this point. I just don't think I would want to try to go through that again. The time between miscarriages and the grief that we go through each time. One healthy happy little boy sounds like such a beautiful way to spend our lives... I am grateful and happy and very content.

 

[hellojello25]

Awww that's so cute! My BF hasn't shed any tears yet (that I know of), but he makes sure to go to every prenatal appointment with me and just loved it when we had ultrasounds. I can tell that he not only cares about me, but our baby as well. He's even researched things by himself that I never though in a million years he would be looking at, such as the benefits of breastfeeding. AND he quit smoking. He's been smoking since he was 14, which was 16 years ago. He's so serious about becoming a daddy and it just makes me so happy.

 

[SaraVO]

Awww that's so cute! My BF hasn't shed any tears yet (that I know of), but he makes sure to go to every prenatal appointment with me and just loved it when we had ultrasounds. I can tell that he not only cares about me, but our baby as well. He's even researched things by himself that I never though in a million years he would be looking at, such as the benefits of breastfeeding. AND he quit smoking. He's been smoking since he was 14, which was 16 years ago. He's so serious about becoming a daddy and it just makes me so happy.

that's impressive. the quitting smoking part. my husband quit when we moved in together.. he gave me one asthma attack and that was that. it's funny isn't it? I really envisioned him not being that emotionally invested until he was actually here. You hear women say that their husbands had to meet their children before a bond was formed. But, my husband was the first one sharing the news, and sending ultrasound pictures to people, even though at the time I was pretty mad about it. It makes it easier somehow, knowing that he is right there with me.