We were not prepared for how we felt (sorry)

[wannabmum]

Sorry to be such a downer but really needed to get this out, as u know we have been ttc since Nov 04 we have had 3 Christmas with empty arms before this one and tbh never thought anything of it and never even gave it a thought this year would be any different how wrong were we, from the moment oh and I got up yesterday we were really down we felt like there was no point to christmas for us this year we just felt empty and incomplete after all christmas is about family and we still don't have our own I really wasn't prepared for how lonely we would feel even watching soaps on telly with the fake familys and there children reduced me to tears, the strange thing is we never have had our family so why yesterday did it feel so strange without them!! I would like to say thanks again to wobbles for her message I just read at least I'm not going mad and thanks in advance to anyone who takes the time to read this sorry agian just felf I had to get it out.


xx

 

[jo27]

don't know what to say hun except i suppose this time of year is particularly hard i hope 2008 brings good news for you x

 

[Tiffers]

I am sorry hun. I can't imagine how hard that must be to ttc without luck for so long. My heart aches for you luv. I hope that 2008 brings and that next christmas you will be crying tears of joy.

 

[lilmumma]

im really sorry this way, i would love to be able ti understand how you feel, and im not going to pretend to, but i'm here if you ever need to chat. Im a new person so it might be easier to talk to, [email protected] if you wanna just xhat even if you want to vent off hun, im here.

I'm hoping things are a little easier for you today, sending love hugs and millions of particles of baby dust your way, Sammie x

 

[skiwi]

i just want to give you a big hug, and keep every thing cross that 2008 is going to bring you that baby...... hope you are feeling better hun x x x x x x

 

[Arcanegirl]

 

[justme00]

I will admit yesterday I was a little down myself. I tried to hide it from OH but he knew something was wrong. My friend just gave birth too and she got her present why can't we get ours? I hope you feel better soon.

 

[aimee]

i know sorry dont do much but i really am sorry hun

 

[FJL]

Don't EVER appologise for letting your feelings out hun

I think you and DH are incredibly strong and a big inspiration to have the strength to get through this difficult journey.

Unfortunatley we can't pick and choose our feelings or when they arise, they just come when they feel like it and we have to deal with it. You just can't help how you feel so don't ever appologise for it!

My thoughts are with you sweety, I hope you feel a little better soon and I hope more than anything that you get your much deserved and long awaited BFP next year.

xoxo

 

[NeyNey]

My Mum made a comment on Christmas morning which kind of upset me, I know she didn't mean any harm by it at all....but she said (while opening presents) - "I think kids make Christmas" See, completely harmless, but it had me sobbing on the loo by myself out of ear shot. It's hard this time of year, because christmas focus' on kids so much.

I just wanted to offer a hug and I hope 2008 will be your year.

 

[Suz]

 

[Mango]

What your feeling seems completely understandable. The holidays do bring around those kinds of feelings. Hang in there hun, I hope 2008 bring you many blessings. Stay strong.

 

[Amanda]

Oh hunnie, don't apologise for being down. It's completely understandable. You and your OH are an inspiration to others who have been ttc a while.

You've made me realise that I should stop wallowing in my own self-pity. AF arrived yesterday and I've been so down since, but I am so lucky to already have 2 lovely kids. I don't know how long-timers like yourselves cope during the holidays. You're right in that the focus is all on the kids, and that's not right.

And NeyNey, my MIL did a similar thing. She sat there and said "Next year we're really going to struggle for space aren't we?". When I asked why she said that she would have another grandchild by then wouldn't she? I also went and had a little cry in the loo. People can be so insensitive sometimes, and it's hard to bite your tongue. We'll show them all when we get our BFP's.

 

[Sweetie]

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I wish I had something more constructive to say tho. And I'm going to side with the others tho that said it's certainly not wrong to want to let your feelings out, this is a good place to do it.