Linzi
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Had a fall out with my parents over this... just wondering what you girls think...
Basically, Matt and I are on a really tight budget for our wedding, so we decided just to have the service and thats it, but my Dad offered to pay for the evening do, so we accepted.
Problem is, they think I should have some sort of champagne reception, or wedding meal or something. which I probably would do if I had the money. But I dont.
The wedding service is booked at 1145am, and the evening do will start at about 7pm. Most of the people who are coming live in Leeds, but there are a few from Newcastle, London and the Isle of Wight who are coming.
My mother thinks that people wont come if they know they have to wait a few hours in the afternoon. She said if she got an invitation that said that, she wouldn't go to the wedding! She also says that she wont send the invitations out from them (because they usually say "Mr & Mrs x invite you to the wedding of their daughter... etc") because she thinks its rude or something?
My only thought would be to go back to the hotel where the evening do is, and where the guests are staying, and sit in the bar for drinks. But she also thinks its rude asking people to pay for their own drinks, even though we arent having a gift list?
Does ANY of that make sense? Im so confused, we never wanted a big do but i kind of feel like Im being forced into it now...
And you deserve a medal if you read this lol
xxx
Basically, Matt and I are on a really tight budget for our wedding, so we decided just to have the service and thats it, but my Dad offered to pay for the evening do, so we accepted.
Problem is, they think I should have some sort of champagne reception, or wedding meal or something. which I probably would do if I had the money. But I dont.
The wedding service is booked at 1145am, and the evening do will start at about 7pm. Most of the people who are coming live in Leeds, but there are a few from Newcastle, London and the Isle of Wight who are coming.
My mother thinks that people wont come if they know they have to wait a few hours in the afternoon. She said if she got an invitation that said that, she wouldn't go to the wedding! She also says that she wont send the invitations out from them (because they usually say "Mr & Mrs x invite you to the wedding of their daughter... etc") because she thinks its rude or something?
My only thought would be to go back to the hotel where the evening do is, and where the guests are staying, and sit in the bar for drinks. But she also thinks its rude asking people to pay for their own drinks, even though we arent having a gift list?
Does ANY of that make sense? Im so confused, we never wanted a big do but i kind of feel like Im being forced into it now...
And you deserve a medal if you read this lol
xxx