Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[jm1355]

Thanks for being so supportive! You have all helped my 9 months fly by and given me different perspectives on everything. You always have encouraging and insightful words to post and it helps a TON, believe me! Everyday I think about you and your journeys, I worry about you, fret, etc, it's like we have our own little bnb family here! Hugs to all of you! - Thanks for being here for me

Awh! Coy...that is so sweet of you to say!! I know you will be busy when baby girl arrives, but I can't wait to meet her...even if it is just online and through pictures. Perhaps when you go to deliver, by the time you come back there will be amazing new developments in the life of TTC Over 30.

I did not test today. I have decided that I am not going to test unitl I am actually on day 29 of my cycle with no AF! It seemed to have taken some of the stress away. On top of all that, I have been working on this crazy literature review, so I didn't need the added stress of "should I test or should I wait?"

Ali...I am still praying for you. Mark 11:24 says "whatsoever you ask for in prayer and believe, you shall receive."
So lets stand in agreement that we are praying and believing for you BFP!

Baby...JUMP HIS BONES!!!!

 

[alicatt]

So I was just doing some more reconnaissance on the fertility sites...

A few women posted that around 5-6dp5dt they had super sever cramping that lasted a short while and then nothing. They were all freaked out as I am. Turns out that they all had a BFP!!! So maybe I should just relax!

I wish I could take a valium or a xanax, about now I need it! Thing is that those drugs are majorly bad for your baby. They cause birth defects and all sorts of bad. So of course I will not take it, but I wish there was something similar that was safe for babes, that and pain meds other than tylenol. Even aleve would be helpful, but NO! It is not allowed. This being PUPO (pregnant until proven otherwise) is hard stuff! Not knowing for sure, is just so difficult for me. I know all women who are TTC go through it, and I have to keep reminding myself I'm not the first woman to be going through the 2WW. That we are all in it together, and like Coy said. It is so very nice to have such amazing women to share our hopes and fears, dreams and aspirations. It certainly makes going through the 2WW much easier and way more fun

 

[Babywhisperer]

Thanks for being so supportive! You have all helped my 9 months fly by and given me different perspectives on everything. You always have encouraging and insightful words to post and it helps a TON, believe me! Everyday I think about you and your journeys, I worry about you, fret, etc, it's like we have our own little bnb family here! Hugs to all of you! - Thanks for being here for me

I smell a reality show....hmmmm, now that would be fun!

And right back at you! I have had so many questions and I'm sure I will have more. You have been a great resource for all of us, and have been so supportive and we are so excited to see pics if the newest addition to your family. And you're going to tell me that labor was nothing but sunshine, rainbows and unicorns right???

 

[Grey Eyes]

So I was just doing some more reconnaissance on the fertility sites...

A few women posted that around 5-6dp5dt they had super sever cramping that lasted a short while and then nothing. They were all freaked out as I am. Turns out that they all had a BFP!!! So maybe I should just relax!

I wish I could take a valium or a xanax, about now I need it! Thing is that those drugs are majorly bad for your baby. They cause birth defects and all sorts of bad. So of course I will not take it, but I wish there was something similar that was safe for babes, that and pain meds other than tylenol. Even aleve would be helpful, but NO! It is not allowed. This being PUPO (pregnant until proven otherwise) is hard stuff! Not knowing for sure, is just so difficult for me. I know all women who are TTC go through it, and I have to keep reminding myself I'm not the first woman to be going through the 2WW. That we are all in it together, and like Coy said. It is so very nice to have such amazing women to share our hopes and fears, dreams and aspirations. It certainly makes going through the 2WW much easier and way more fun

I know, there were days (still are) when I wanted a glass of wine sooo bad, just to relax and forget about worrying so much! But alas- you can take nothing! Only Tylenol, and I was even very conservative about that. Only recently have I allowed myself choclate (Oh, thank You God for chocolate!) , and a glass of iced coke once ina while. Oh yeah and half cup of coffee every otherd ay or so. But I am still very careful. Those first few months (first tri really) are so delicate and you have to be so careful- I am glad you are taking it all so seriously! Your baby(s) will be beautiful, strong, and smart!

 

[alicatt]

Thanks for being so supportive! You have all helped my 9 months fly by and given me different perspectives on everything. You always have encouraging and insightful words to post and it helps a TON, believe me! Everyday I think about you and your journeys, I worry about you, fret, etc, it's like we have our own little bnb family here! Hugs to all of you! - Thanks for being here for me

I smell a reality show....hmmmm, now that would be fun!

And right back at you! I have had so many questions and I'm sure I will have more. You have been a great resource for all of us, and have been so supportive and we are so excited to see pics if the newest addition to your family. And you're going to tell me that labor was nothing but sunshine, rainbows and unicorns right???

DITTO! You have truly been a godsend to me too! Having someone help me read my chart! Give me a when I was down. It has been a great help. It is wonderful that we are all here for each other. A little bnb family! That is why I feel like a bnb Auntie to this new one that is going to enter the world shortly!

Babywhisperer, aren't all labors sunshine, and rainbows?

 

[Grey Eyes]

BayWhisperer- Yep, rainbow, sushine, and unicorns! LOL! Try hurts like an S.O.B.! My mother...when I would ask her she would always smile real fakey and say "ohhh, you forget.." Bull crap! I aint forgetting anything! Contractions were like the worst surprise of my life! LOL! Nope, I am solid on my footing now, I know what I am in for, but I can face it, get through it and then it's over. In fact, right after I pushed hard the seocnd or third time and second dd popped out I was ecstatic as the contractions immediately stopped. I smiled and stated "Ohhh I feel soooo much better now!" LOL! Then of course one more to push the placenta out but it's tiny compared....

But yes. Rainbows. Unicorns. lol!

 

[alicatt]

BayWhisperer- Yep, rainbow, sushine, and unicorns! LOL! Try hurts like an S.O.B.! My mother...when I would ask her she would always smile real fakey and say "ohhh, you forget.." Bull crap! I aint forgetting anything! Contractions were like the worst surprise of my life! LOL! Nope, I am solid on my footing now, I know what I am in for, but I can face it, get through it and then it's over. In fact, right after I pushed hard the seocnd or third time and second dd popped out I was ecstatic as the contractions immediately stopped. I smiled and stated "Ohhh I feel soooo much better now!" LOL! Then of course one more to push the placenta out but it's tiny compared....

But yes. Rainbows. Unicorns. lol!

OH Boy, what have I gotten myself into? Can I do it? Sounds like you are ready Coy, I hope that it is an easy and uncomplicated delivery and you and babes are both totally healthy! If I am pregnant I will need your encouragement to get through it! Yikes!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ah, well, we have spent today trying to thwart appointments, unnecesary ones anyway. Dh got a call from a gentleman wanting to come over at 3 for a visit and dh leaves hima reply that we couldn;t do it today but Frday would be better. So the guy shows up on our doorstep at 2 pm! Dh had on his Marine-Hard face, lol, but managed to be civil. He told the man Friday or don't come 'round! Then I called and reschedules all my stuff. We are just trying to keep the week open you know? None of it is super important so we are gleaning it all away. Just irritates when people won't respect that. One is a guy from a church we don't go to and he's super pushy...he is trying to get permission to show up when babes is born I am afraid dh will just punch his face if he does!

 

[Grey Eyes]

BayWhisperer- Yep, rainbow, sushine, and unicorns! LOL! Try hurts like an S.O.B.! My mother...when I would ask her she would always smile real fakey and say "ohhh, you forget.." Bull crap! I aint forgetting anything! Contractions were like the worst surprise of my life! LOL! Nope, I am solid on my footing now, I know what I am in for, but I can face it, get through it and then it's over. In fact, right after I pushed hard the seocnd or third time and second dd popped out I was ecstatic as the contractions immediately stopped. I smiled and stated "Ohhh I feel soooo much better now!" LOL! Then of course one more to push the placenta out but it's tiny compared....

But yes. Rainbows. Unicorns. lol!

OH Boy, what have I gotten myself into? Can I do it? Sounds like you are ready Coy, I hope that it is an easy and uncomplicated delivery and you and babes are both totally healthy! If I am pregnant I will need your encouragement to get through it! Yikes!

Of course you can do it! Pushing the baby out is not the hard part- it's NOT pushing that is hard. All the nurses were freaking out and telling me "the doctors not here so you can't have the baby yet!"

Seriously? Because I think I could! lol! As soon as doc squatted down down there he said "Um,....do you want any help? " Then he yelped because babes popped out into his hands! LOL! Actually made a "popping" sound No, contractions hurt, it feels like menstrual cramps from hell for about 10 seconds then fades then comes back. They gradually get worse. I have heard that on pitocin they are just instantly bad so I never wanted that I have heard ladies speak of the "ring of fire" but never experienced that- of course there is pressure but it is litttle compared. You are super tough and determined, I know you can do it!

 

[jm1355]

OMG! Rainbows and unicorns...I remember my labor with my son and there were absolujtely NO rainbows and the only unicorn was the invisible one that was jabbing my insides trying to make my son come out!! OUCH!! Lol!

But in the end, I have that boy and he means the world to me...I would do it ten times over just to feel that level of love again! Aaahhh...can't wait!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Jess- I understand about waiting to test! Like the tww doesn't have enough pressure, right?! Lol. And charting helps but with all the workouts and variable slife throws at us it is never perfect.

How's the thesis coming along? How long does it have to be? I was going to ask you...have you decided to compete in October or is that still up the air? Last I remember you wanted to compete but BF and trainer (?) didn't want you too work too hard.. I am so glad to get a break from school even if it's just 9 days or so...then on to an easier curriculum (slightly) as a break for when babes is born. I can't fathom tacking criminal psychology with a suckling baby every 30 minutes! I think it would throw off my perspective

Oh, btw, looking at your chart and when you had ewcm, etc, and bd'd...timing looks great!

 

[Grey Eyes]

I am off to the garage!

 

[alicatt]

I am off to the garage!

Be careful and don't let it swallow you up!

 

[Grey Eyes]

I am off to the garage!

Be careful and don't let it swallow you up!

Nahhh! Gotta wear my jacket though it is serisously feeling like Autumn here! Sooo beats the heat!

Ali, I hate to do this to you but I have more questions! What exactly is the measurments in time you go by? I understand cd and dpo but you are using different references...what do they stand for?

 

[alicatt]

I am off to the garage!

Be careful and don't let it swallow you up!

Nahhh! Gotta wear my jacket though it is serisously feeling like Autumn here! Sooo beats the heat!

Ali, I hate to do this to you but I have more questions! What exactly is the measurments in time you go by? I understand cd and dpo but you are using different references...what do they stand for?

HEHE.. You are such a trooper! I hope I'm as agile and active as you are at 8.5 months pregnant!!!!!

Are you talking about the 6dp5dt thing? Its because we didn't really ovulate, so we can't really say DPO. But if you add the 2 numbers together you get the same number as I would be for DPO. So right now I'm 11 DPO, or well kinda, they retrieved my eggs that day, and I would have ovulated sometime that day. So what it literally means is that I am currently 6 days past my 5 day transfer. If you look at other sites you'll see that women sometimes have a 6dp3dt, that is because they did their transfer on day 3, not day 5.

They decide when to do the transfer based on how many embryos you have and the quality of those embryos on or around day 3. If you have lots, or they are all doing really well, they choose to take them to day 5 in the lab to see how they will grow and then they will pick the best at that time. So I got to 5 days, but only 2 embryos made it. My FS said that they were totally awesome, and he was really pleased with how good they look.

I just had another cramp that was lower and on the left, the one this morning was higher up and on the right side. Do you think that is 2 different ones implanting? OMG. Now I'm kinda excited! EEK!

 

[twotogo]

Thanks for being so supportive! You have all helped my 9 months fly by and given me different perspectives on everything. You always have encouraging and insightful words to post and it helps a TON, believe me! Everyday I think about you and your journeys, I worry about you, fret, etc, it's like we have our own little bnb family here! Hugs to all of you! - Thanks for being here for me

Thank you for being here for us! I appreciate your insight as well.

 

[Babywhisperer]

I am off to the garage!

Be careful and don't let it swallow you up!

Nahhh! Gotta wear my jacket though it is serisously feeling like Autumn here! Sooo beats the heat!

Ali, I hate to do this to you but I have more questions! What exactly is the measurments in time you go by? I understand cd and dpo but you are using different references...what do they stand for?

HEHE.. You are such a trooper! I hope I'm as agile and active as you are at 8.5 months pregnant!!!!!

Are you talking about the 6dp5dt thing? Its because we didn't really ovulate, so we can't really say DPO. But if you add the 2 numbers together you get the same number as I would be for DPO. So right now I'm 11 DPO, or well kinda, they retrieved my eggs that day, and I would have ovulated sometime that day. So what it literally means is that I am currently 6 days past my 5 day transfer. If you look at other sites you'll see that women sometimes have a 6dp3dt, that is because they did their transfer on day 3, not day 5.

They decide when to do the transfer based on how many embryos you have and the quality of those embryos on or around day 3. If you have lots, or they are all doing really well, they choose to take them to day 5 in the lab to see how they will grow and then they will pick the best at that time. So I got to 5 days, but only 2 embryos made it. My FS said that they were totally awesome, and he was really pleased with how good they look.

I just had another cramp that was lower and on the left, the one this morning was higher up and on the right side. Do you think that is 2 different ones implanting? OMG. Now I'm kinda excited! EEK!

Omg I'm pulling for 2!! That would be so awesome! Positive visualization and being relaxed should be your focus now. I'm praying for you!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ah, well that makes total sense now! I couldn't figure it out! I could have googled it I guess And yes that sounds like it could be two diff implantation sites! High right and lower left sounds perfect too! That IS exciting! So...if you are implanting now or at least burrowing deeper in the implantation process. But things may be different with transfer than the usual like bd'ing or IUI...Either way from what I have read everything that is going on with you is totally normal and to be expected! So when can you officially test? I bet you get twins!!!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

OMG, I am just about at the end of my patience today....so I have been washing clothes and dishes like crazy and my fingers are bandaged because they have cracked, dried, split from all the washing! Plus I just went out and washed the truck we will be taking to the hospital...inside and out! It was totally gross (a work truck you know? but big enough for five of us OMG 5!!!)) Anyway, my family all decided to eat soup, ice cream, etc etc, and dirty all the bowls...well I am busy and don't get to the dishes right away (usually as soon as one hits the sink I wash it) and dh starts grumping about no clean bowls! Grrrr! Anyway so I take my umpteenth load of clean folded kid clothes in to the girls room and set it down on their bed for a minute. When I turn around the girls came running in yelling it had started to rain and they were all muddy. They knock the clean folded laundry down on to the floor and jump into it like it's a leaf pile! O my hell, then when I shout at my oldest to stop, she looks down at it like "what's the big deal?" and turns this nice muddy circle on top of the clean pillow cases.

I think I am done for the day.

I think I am going to bake myself a nice warm chocolate cake, smother it in frosting and EAT.

Then I am going to use up all the hot water taking a nice bath!~

Ahh, thanks for letting me rant. Oh. And I am serious when I tell my dd's if the toys don't get picked up this time they go to the garbage. Permanently. After babes is born I won't have time to be on them to keep their stuff picked up so I'm just gonna trash it....

 

[Grey Eyes]

TwoToGo-- I was just checking out your chart...so you are 4dpo right? Perfect timing on bd btw! Nice temp climb happening! Got my fx'd for ya this month When will you test -- or will you? Maybeeeeee, like Sunday or Monday?