Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[Babywhisperer]

DH even agreed that there is a second line on my 3am test!!! We are cautiously optimistic. It's 6dp5dt = 11DPO, so still a big chance of it not sticking. Either way, I can't sleep.

Holy crap that's a BFP!!!!

That's amazing! Congratulations! FX'd it's a sticky bean!

 

[Philomena]

DH even agreed that there is a second line on my 3am test!!! We are cautiously optimistic. It's 6dp5dt = 11DPO, so still a big chance of it not sticking. Either way, I can't sleep.

Squee! fingers crossed!! Looking good!!!

 

[alicatt]

DH even agreed that there is a second line on my 3am test!!! We are cautiously optimistic. It's 6dp5dt = 11DPO, so still a big chance of it not sticking. Either way, I can't sleep.

Squee! fingers crossed!! Looking good!!!

FirstTry! That is a BFP, you did it!!!

 

[FirstTry]

Thank you, everyone! You guys are awesome

It hasn't really sunk in yet, which is good, because it's still way too early to be confident. But at least we finally have a chance!!!

 

[alicatt]

Morning ladies!

So my parents went into the hospital yesterday and they ran all sorts of tests, and the only thing they found was a 9mm nodule on his lung. So from my reading there are 2 things that combine a nodule and night sweats. 1) Tuberculosis, and 2) Cancer. Thing is that if its cancer its most likely spread from somewhere else I think its more likely to be TB, not that I want him to have TB but that is a better option! The reason why I think its TB is because he fell last week, tripped over a rope and fell on his golf bag. That is when all of this started. TB apparently can go into remission, your body wraps it in a cocoon so to speak, and stop it from being harmful and it can be like that for years. Until something jostles it like falling on your golf bag! Then it starts to activate again, and you start having symptoms. So that is my theory. They are to call Monday morning and get in for a CAT scan to get a better look at the nodule. So from what I was reading its a 50/50 chance its cancer.

As for my dog situation, I have decided to get a bark collar for Zoe, she is the barker in the family. It is not a shock collar (I would never do that to my baby) this just emits a vibration and with each successive bark the vibration gets worse. I think this is my best option as I really don't know what else to do The next few weeks I will be in the office more and the dogs need to be able to go outside, so I won't be here to control it. I hope that the bark collar does the trick, as I don't see there being any other options. Poor Zoe.

AFM - I am achy and bleh. I spent yesterday basically reading, watching TV and napping. I have to get some stuff done today, like cooking, and laundry and so on. So I have a lot to do! I'll probably run out and get some errands done too. Looking forward to thanksgiving an 4 days off (well I have to work Thursday, but only if my phone rings).

How is everyone else doing?

 

[Babywhisperer]

TwoToGo- I still think you are not responsible for the billing...just my opinion but maybe you should get a consultation on that? I think the church insurance should cover it ... How do you feel (re:the mammogram and check-up)? I agree with FirstTry- medicaid should help cover this, in fact if you aopply they will cover retro 2-4 months also, e.g., your dh, mammo, etc...

Babywhisperer-lol @ "fertile Myrtle"! no, I'm not sure where the idea came from...yes we bd'd a couple times (we have never waited the full 6 weeks .....) once the bleeding waned...I think because my usual AF would be approaching soon so hormones are crazy, plus residual hormones, plus I felt all moody and bloated. TBH it'd be waaaay too soon for me! I want to be bada$$ for awhile again, maybe get some skiing in, and some weight training, box some more Dh can teach me some tiger-style fighting....How are you feeling? How's the neighborhood? : I bet it seems like it is taking forever to regain some normalcy in that regard Oooooh, important day ?! Fill us in later? Yay! Oh re:bd timing...only takes once I have my fx'd for you!!! You are oficially in the 2WW

Ali- I don't see any dirty laundry lol! I don't blame you though, what a bunch of nonsense that would be to deal with! Did your doc suggest why you may be getting hives?? Obviously you are reacting negatively to something, that worries me a bit Oh I hope your mom gets your Stepdad in asap!


FirstTry- sometimes the cbe digi's are very demanding of absolute perfect circumstances iykwim. I don't know about the pink line- you are 10dpo (or is it dpt?)? Trigger is all gone, right? You could def have a bfp! fx'd!

Jess- where are you?

Terri-Tracey!!!-- where are you?

Angel, Babydust, Alin, Georgiabelle-

AFM- this is what I am doing today And this is how I feel lol!

I hear you about wanting to do things before getting prego. We are planning a ski trip to Vail for dh's 35th bday. He hates his bday so I thought this might be a way to get him to look fwd to it...say, a kind of bday aversion therapy. His family used to have a condo there and sold it years ago which made him very sad as he had a lot of memories of his Dad there. He even lived in CO for 2 years in between college and law school. I need to get into shape before getting prego so I have been going to the gym 2-3x a week just starting doing interval cardio workouts but I will be adding weights this week as cardio is aggravating my foot. I went to physical therapy last Monday after working out on Saturday and riding bikes with dh and my foot hurt a lot. It's very tight and the scar tissue needs to be broken up...which is a painful process of the therapist using a plastic scraper on the area I had surgery...it is MOST unpleasant.

Coy, any sign of af? How are the dd's doing? It seems like you jump thru hoops all day long for them and dh. We were at a museum benefit last night and met this young couple and the husband said to make sure we have everything non-baby out of our system because kids suck everything out of you. It was not the best endorsement and it made me think about how we will juggle 2 intense careers and kids. I really am in awe of you and how you do it with school too. I think that's why I want to stay close to my parents as we will need their help. I don't know how I will swing getting up as early as I do already and commuting into the city, I'm tired when I get home as it is! Yikes.

Ali - how are the hives? Have you ever had them before this? As far as the HOA complaint, look into your county's laws about a thing called Quiet Enjoyment or Nuisance laws. I think Quiet Enjoyment is for renters. You might need to show that you are doing things to reduce the barking. Maybe get rid of the doggie door and get a dog walker. I know it's an added expense, but the person complaining every day will probably complain every day even if you and the dogs left for 2 weeks. They are doing it out of spite. Maybe when your family comes they can keep track as to how much they bark and when. Maybe then you can take steps to curb it. How are they on the weekends?

Jess - congratulations! The invitations are lovely, I hope you save one and frame it. What an amazing accomplishment...now go test!!! 8 days of cramps, go test!!!!! No spotting...please test!!!

Angel - I hope things settle down for you, but feel free to lurk or vent. That's what we are here for.

Twotogo, how are you? Any updates from the hospital? I agree on the advice of the Church insurance covering it and seeking medicaid. I know it sucks, but you need to be an advocate for yourself and your family. NY had a plan called Healthy NY that cover people who makes less than a certain amount for as little as $160/month.

How is everyone else?

Afm me and dh, yesterday was a big day. We had an interview for a club he wants to join. I am very hesitant as it is literally a caricature of clubs and the people are too...think Mr. and Mrs Howell from Gilligan's Island, or Judge Smails from Caddyshack. The people are stiff and judgmental...and very very blond. Any skinny! The wives don't work since they don't have to. They or their dh's come from old money and name their kids with ridiculous names like Winslow or Kinsgley...seriously. It's important to dh as he would be the 4th generation of his family to be members. I am not very enthused since I know I will not be accepted. I didn't go to private school from the womb, I'm brunette, and oh yeah I WORK! And I eat more than a Tic Tac for lunch. I know it is important for dh's career to network, but I also know how much social pressure these places have. You have to wear the right thing, send your kids to private school, drive the right car, usually an old Range Rover or old Mercedes station wagon...full on WASP culture, nothing flashy, just old old money style. I told DH we will have the No Money style and I should have come into the interview room on roller skates wearing hot pants to give them a heart attack. Needless to say I am not fully on board with this. Sure we'll have a nice club, but we will be living in a van down by the river eating government cheese!!! So instead of being a negative Nelly I booked an appt to look at a house that came on the market. DH keeps saying this area is too expensive, but to be close to a good train for my commute everything is expensive, and the schools are the best on LI. It is expensive to buy, but it's great for our resale value as the demand to live here is huge. In seeing the house and the cost maybe he will rethink the stupid club. Maybe we will get denied membership b/c I am not part of the Mayflower Society or Daughters of the American Revolution! I just don't deem these clubs as important in the grander scheme of life...that and when will we have time to go to this friggin place? Some of them actually talk with the affected speech of lockjaw! Not kidding...and they wear critter pants, tweed blazers with elbow patches, and ascots...ASCOTS! I keep dangling the idea of moving to Colorado as dh loves it there. No clubs, no pretentious people, and there a few firms with offices in Denver where I can work and it's affordable! To make matters worse at the museum benefit last night dh bid on a vacation and won. I'm not being ungrateful, the cost was absurd. At this rate the trip to Vail, the one he won, the stupid lame club, a house...I will be working until I am 100 and strangers will be raising my children. I wanted a more simple kind of life and less financial stress. We need to be saving not spending! How do I drive home that point when our expenses are so little right now, but it won't always be that way. If we had a mortgage and kids he wouldn't be thinking of 2 expensive trips or a club. Sorry for the rant, it's just that I've owned a place before so I know the cost and I feel like a house is more important than the other stuff. We should be saving for those expenses instead of putting it off until it's upon us. I don't want to doubt his ability to afford things or question his future success as a lawyer, but I am much more conservative when it comes to spending.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Morning ladies!

So my parents went into the hospital yesterday and they ran all sorts of tests, and the only thing they found was a 9mm nodule on his lung. So from my reading there are 2 things that combine a nodule and night sweats. 1) Tuberculosis, and 2) Cancer. Thing is that if its cancer its most likely spread from somewhere else I think its more likely to be TB, not that I want him to have TB but that is a better option! The reason why I think its TB is because he fell last week, tripped over a rope and fell on his golf bag. That is when all of this started. TB apparently can go into remission, your body wraps it in a cocoon so to speak, and stop it from being harmful and it can be like that for years. Until something jostles it like falling on your golf bag! Then it starts to activate again, and you start having symptoms. So that is my theory. They are to call Monday morning and get in for a CAT scan to get a better look at the nodule. So from what I was reading its a 50/50 chance its cancer.

As for my dog situation, I have decided to get a bark collar for Zoe, she is the barker in the family. It is not a shock collar (I would never do that to my baby) this just emits a vibration and with each successive bark the vibration gets worse. I think this is my best option as I really don't know what else to do The next few weeks I will be in the office more and the dogs need to be able to go outside, so I won't be here to control it. I hope that the bark collar does the trick, as I don't see there being any other options. Poor Zoe.

AFM - I am achy and bleh. I spent yesterday basically reading, watching TV and napping. I have to get some stuff done today, like cooking, and laundry and so on. So I have a lot to do! I'll probably run out and get some errands done too. Looking forward to thanksgiving an 4 days off (well I have to work Thursday, but only if my phone rings).

How is everyone else doing?

I'm so sorry about your Step-Dad, I will say prayers for him. I hope it's not Cancer, but if it is a very close friend of our family lived with lung cancer for 20yrs. He had nodules removed and had some radiation. It would come back, but he fought it each time for 20yrs. It even spread to his liver, but they removed the tumors and he continued to live, travel, even work. Don't project too much, I hope the CT reveals good news.

A bark collar is a great idea! Make sure the HOA knows the measure you are taking to improve the situation so they can communicate them to the person who constantly complains. Maybe they will appreciate it and calm down. Some people are never happy though and will complain if they hear a car door shut. Good luck with everything. Isn't it amazing, when it rains it pours right? It can never b just one thing on your plate, it has to be 3 or 4 things all in a crazy stressful work week of deprived sleep right? I'm sorry you have to have this on your mind, please try and relax as your body needs to be in the best possible state for this process. Just imagine having to juggle all of this while being pregnant...as I know you will be very very soon. You can do it though, women were made to handle all of it. Let us know how things go at the hospital. FX'd that all will be all right.

Btw, how funny were those chairs I posted! I walked by and had to walk back to take a pic since I immediately thought of you!

 

[alicatt]

Morning ladies!

So my parents went into the hospital yesterday and they ran all sorts of tests, and the only thing they found was a 9mm nodule on his lung. So from my reading there are 2 things that combine a nodule and night sweats. 1) Tuberculosis, and 2) Cancer. Thing is that if its cancer its most likely spread from somewhere else I think its more likely to be TB, not that I want him to have TB but that is a better option! The reason why I think its TB is because he fell last week, tripped over a rope and fell on his golf bag. That is when all of this started. TB apparently can go into remission, your body wraps it in a cocoon so to speak, and stop it from being harmful and it can be like that for years. Until something jostles it like falling on your golf bag! Then it starts to activate again, and you start having symptoms. So that is my theory. They are to call Monday morning and get in for a CAT scan to get a better look at the nodule. So from what I was reading its a 50/50 chance its cancer.

As for my dog situation, I have decided to get a bark collar for Zoe, she is the barker in the family. It is not a shock collar (I would never do that to my baby) this just emits a vibration and with each successive bark the vibration gets worse. I think this is my best option as I really don't know what else to do The next few weeks I will be in the office more and the dogs need to be able to go outside, so I won't be here to control it. I hope that the bark collar does the trick, as I don't see there being any other options. Poor Zoe.

AFM - I am achy and bleh. I spent yesterday basically reading, watching TV and napping. I have to get some stuff done today, like cooking, and laundry and so on. So I have a lot to do! I'll probably run out and get some errands done too. Looking forward to thanksgiving an 4 days off (well I have to work Thursday, but only if my phone rings).

How is everyone else doing?

I'm so sorry about your Step-Dad, I will say prayers for him. I hope it's not Cancer, but if it is a very close friend of our family lived with lung cancer for 20yrs. He had nodules removed and had some radiation. It would come back, but he fought it each time for 20yrs. It even spread to his liver, but they removed the tumors and he continued to live, travel, even work. Don't project too much, I hope the CT reveals good news.

A bark collar is a great idea! Make sure the HOA knows the measure you are taking to improve the situation so they can communicate them to the person who constantly complains. Maybe they will appreciate it and calm down. Some people are never happy though and will complain if they hear a car door shut. Good luck with everything. Isn't it amazing, when it rains it pours right? It can never b just one thing on your plate, it has to be 3 or 4 things all in a crazy stressful work week of deprived sleep right? I'm sorry you have to have this on your mind, please try and relax as your body needs to be in the best possible state for this process. Just imagine having to juggle all of this while being pregnant...as I know you will be very very soon. You can do it though, women were made to handle all of it. Let us know how things go at the hospital. FX'd that all will be all right.

Btw, how funny were those chairs I posted! I walked by and had to walk back to take a pic since I immediately thought of you!

Thanks BabyWhisperer!

I've just been a little down since I read that letter. I know Zoe goes out side and barks for no reason, but I have tried literally everything but the bark collar, and nothing has worked. Just making her stay inside, and that is no life for a doggie! Funny you should say that, my neighbor is a dog walker, I wonder if they are the ones that complained so I would ask them to walk them? HMMMM.. I also find it odd that this is the first ever notice, after 5 years. Additionally, I think that every single family breaks the rules in some way or form (because our rules are stupid). Things like, no parking on the street, no for sale signs on the yard, no political signs on the yard. You can't build or add onto the outside of your house or yard without an approved plan by the HOA. Hurricane shutters cannot go up too early before a storm and must come down no more than 3 days after a storm. I do not believe we have a dog barking rule, and the city rule is no barking between 10pm and 6am, and my dogs are NEVER outside at that hour. I take them out on leashes at night to potty before we go to bed, not because of the barking but because there are critters in my back yard, like tree rats, raccoon's and bufo toads that are so poisonous they would kill my dogs in 20 minutes. So I really don't get this whole thing. I've ordered the bark collar for Zoe as Zach tends not to be the barker. He will bark 3-5 times and then stop, which I feel is normal and acceptable. Unfortunately Zoe will stand out there and just bark for 20 minutes straight, and I run out there and grab her when I'm home, but fear she must be doing it when I'm not, and I agree, that is excessive. So bark collar it is!

So hoity toity club eh? They aren't so bad, my family are members at the local clubs where I grew up. They are pretentious and snobby and all of those things. My Mom has enjoyed many friendships through her clubs and golfs regularly with these ladies. I understand the expense of them though, they aren't cheap! I guess you'll just have to wait to see whether you were accepted or not. One thing I would say though is that you are right, that you need to have a list of things and prioritize them accordingly. House, baby, 1-2 vacations a year, then club. Getting a solid ground under you is way more important then some hoity toity club! If your DH really needs the club, then have him get a 'social' membership which are often cheaper. You can still go there to wine and dine clients, but you can't use all the facilities, etc. Is it possible that it could be a tax writeoff as a work related expense? IDK. I come from that lifestyle and moved away to get away from it, as I didn't like the fakeness of it all, but my Mom loves it and they have a very active golf and social life through it. Personally, I'd rather stay home and watch a movie, or curl up and read a book instead of going to the club where I have to spend 2 hours getting ready and put on some new designer dress and high heels that will kill my feet all night!

Move to Colorado! Once my parents stop coming to FL and I can actually sell my house, I plan on moving back to Denver. I loved it there, and my soul mate is there too.

PS. I've been taking benadryl at night and that seems to curtail the hives. I still don't like this medicine, it makes me feel grumpy and sad and give me headaches too. I have to keep taking it at this dose for another 8 days, then we switch to me starting the stims, and I will continue to take lupron, but only 1cc instead of the 3cc's I'm taking now. I have to keep taking it during stims as it will stop me from ovulating early. We don't want that!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Morning ladies!

So my parents went into the hospital yesterday and they ran all sorts of tests, and the only thing they found was a 9mm nodule on his lung. So from my reading there are 2 things that combine a nodule and night sweats. 1) Tuberculosis, and 2) Cancer. Thing is that if its cancer its most likely spread from somewhere else I think its more likely to be TB, not that I want him to have TB but that is a better option! The reason why I think its TB is because he fell last week, tripped over a rope and fell on his golf bag. That is when all of this started. TB apparently can go into remission, your body wraps it in a cocoon so to speak, and stop it from being harmful and it can be like that for years. Until something jostles it like falling on your golf bag! Then it starts to activate again, and you start having symptoms. So that is my theory. They are to call Monday morning and get in for a CAT scan to get a better look at the nodule. So from what I was reading its a 50/50 chance its cancer.

As for my dog situation, I have decided to get a bark collar for Zoe, she is the barker in the family. It is not a shock collar (I would never do that to my baby) this just emits a vibration and with each successive bark the vibration gets worse. I think this is my best option as I really don't know what else to do The next few weeks I will be in the office more and the dogs need to be able to go outside, so I won't be here to control it. I hope that the bark collar does the trick, as I don't see there being any other options. Poor Zoe.

AFM - I am achy and bleh. I spent yesterday basically reading, watching TV and napping. I have to get some stuff done today, like cooking, and laundry and so on. So I have a lot to do! I'll probably run out and get some errands done too. Looking forward to thanksgiving an 4 days off (well I have to work Thursday, but only if my phone rings).

How is everyone else doing?

I'm so sorry about your Step-Dad, I will say prayers for him. I hope it's not Cancer, but if it is a very close friend of our family lived with lung cancer for 20yrs. He had nodules removed and had some radiation. It would come back, but he fought it each time for 20yrs. It even spread to his liver, but they removed the tumors and he continued to live, travel, even work. Don't project too much, I hope the CT reveals good news.

A bark collar is a great idea! Make sure the HOA knows the measure you are taking to improve the situation so they can communicate them to the person who constantly complains. Maybe they will appreciate it and calm down. Some people are never happy though and will complain if they hear a car door shut. Good luck with everything. Isn't it amazing, when it rains it pours right? It can never b just one thing on your plate, it has to be 3 or 4 things all in a crazy stressful work week of deprived sleep right? I'm sorry you have to have this on your mind, please try and relax as your body needs to be in the best possible state for this process. Just imagine having to juggle all of this while being pregnant...as I know you will be very very soon. You can do it though, women were made to handle all of it. Let us know how things go at the hospital. FX'd that all will be all right.

Btw, how funny were those chairs I posted! I walked by and had to walk back to take a pic since I immediately thought of you!

Thanks BabyWhisperer!

I've just been a little down since I read that letter. I know Zoe goes out side and barks for no reason, but I have tried literally everything but the bark collar, and nothing has worked. Just making her stay inside, and that is no life for a doggie! Funny you should say that, my neighbor is a dog walker, I wonder if they are the ones that complained so I would ask them to walk them? HMMMM.. I also find it odd that this is the first ever notice, after 5 years. Additionally, I think that every single family breaks the rules in some way or form (because our rules are stupid). Things like, no parking on the street, no for sale signs on the yard, no political signs on the yard. You can't build or add onto the outside of your house or yard without an approved plan by the HOA. Hurricane shutters cannot go up too early before a storm and must come down no more than 3 days after a storm. I do not believe we have a dog barking rule, and the city rule is no barking between 10pm and 6am, and my dogs are NEVER outside at that hour. I take them out on leashes at night to potty before we go to bed, not because of the barking but because there are critters in my back yard, like tree rats, raccoon's and bufo toads that are so poisonous they would kill my dogs in 20 minutes. So I really don't get this whole thing. I've ordered the bark collar for Zoe as Zach tends not to be the barker. He will bark 3-5 times and then stop, which I feel is normal and acceptable. Unfortunately Zoe will stand out there and just bark for 20 minutes straight, and I run out there and grab her when I'm home, but fear she must be doing it when I'm not, and I agree, that is excessive. So bark collar it is!

So hoity toity club eh? They aren't so bad, my family are members at the local clubs where I grew up. They are pretentious and snobby and all of those things. My Mom has enjoyed many friendships through her clubs and golfs regularly with these ladies. I understand the expense of them though, they aren't cheap! I guess you'll just have to wait to see whether you were accepted or not. One thing I would say though is that you are right, that you need to have a list of things and prioritize them accordingly. House, baby, 1-2 vacations a year, then club. Getting a solid ground under you is way more important then some hoity toity club! If your DH really needs the club, then have him get a 'social' membership which are often cheaper. You can still go there to wine and dine clients, but you can't use all the facilities, etc. Is it possible that it could be a tax writeoff as a work related expense? IDK. I come from that lifestyle and moved away to get away from it, as I didn't like the fakeness of it all, but my Mom loves it and they have a very active golf and social life through it. Personally, I'd rather stay home and watch a movie, or curl up and read a book instead of going to the club where I have to spend 2 hours getting ready and put on some new designer dress and high heels that will kill my feet all night!

Move to Colorado! Once my parents stop coming to FL and I can actually sell my house, I plan on moving back to Denver. I loved it there, and my soul mate is there too.

PS. I've been taking benadryl at night and that seems to curtail the hives. I still don't like this medicine, it makes me feel grumpy and sad and give me headaches too. I have to keep taking it at this dose for another 8 days, then we switch to me starting the stims, and I will continue to take lupron, but only 1cc instead of the 3cc's I'm taking now. I have to keep taking it during stims as it will stop me from ovulating early. We don't want that!

Have you read the reviews on the bar collar? Do many claim that it works? Is there anyone new that has moved into your area that might be complaining? Is there any way to find out who is complaining to see if it is the dog walker next door? That would be very clever. Do you know how they handle complaints if the situation continues and the complaints don't stop? Is there a precedent set?

As far as the club, I grew up at one too and when I was young I didn't realize the pretentiousness or how lucky I was to have a place to swim, learn hot to play tennis and golf since all my friends did the same thing. But I was never the worst of the girls running around asking what label were you wearing or being super spoiled. My parents are not like that and my Mom has always worked and I know how she was treated for having a career. Other women looked down on her and while she had a great circle of friends, most of the club was so snobby and flashy thinking they were the biggest thing since sliced bread. I just don't want to go thru that judgment or have the pressure to keep up with the Jones's as my Aunt and Uncle do down in Palm Beach. It's a full time job with an intense social calendar and you have to go to all these benefits and charities, dinner parties and then reciprocate. We don't come from the Standard Oil family or the Phipps which my dh grew up with and went to school with. I know not all of the people are like this, but it's more the rule less the exception. Every wife is a size 0 and blond, doesn't work and lives in huge homes without a care in the world. I cannot identify with that. I just don't want to have our kids be treated differently since they likely won't be going to 20k a yr private schools from kindergarten on, or taking private jets and helicopters to go boar hunting in the Everglades. That's not reality, at least one I don't want our kids to think is pervasive in this world. Like dh has the most entitled and spoiled friend who doesn't work or at least what we call work. He moves to Bali for a year to do "real estate", or works for a bank for 6mos and either quits or gets fired. He has a trust fund larger than what most people make in a 10 lifetimes, a lot of these kids do and it's not reality. It's a ridiculous circle of people who grew up together, went to the same private schools, got placed into crazy jobs making crazy money by their connections or parents and they buy gigantic homes with family money and it is a circle of people that don't have a clue what life is like for the other 99.9%. I wish you could have seen the people in this interview room, it was surreal. I won't get into detail but one older woman mentioned she knew dh's great grandmother and as we were leaving they mentioned a not to well know fact about dh's family and it made us feel really uncomfortable, and it reaffirmed that these people only care about money and status footnotes. I didn't say anything to dh about it, but we stopped at his parents house and talked about the interview and some of their questions, including asking about his great grandmothers collection and his parents were taken aback. What was the purpose of asking that question? I thought that would be deemed gauche to ask about material things and their value. That is a big wasp no-no not to mention rude!

 

[Grey Eyes]

DH even agreed that there is a second line on my 3am test!!! We are cautiously optimistic. It's 6dp5dt = 11DPO, so still a big chance of it not sticking. Either way, I can't sleep.

OMG!! That sure looks like a to me! Congrats!

 

[alicatt]

BabyWhisperer - yep, you just re-affirmed why I had to move far far away! LOL. It just isn't my style either. I just want to live my life and do as I please and not have to worry that people are gossiping about me or looking down their nose at me. It just isn't me either!

So I'd just have a conversation with your DH and discuss the options and the timeline for things. Babies need places to live that are conducive to family living. Also, if you do end up needing IFV (hopefully not), then that is going to be an added expense too. So I guess you guys just need to decide what is most important, a stable home and a place to have a family or an exclusive and pretentious club that yo guys will likely be too busy to go to? HMM.. sounds like a no brainer to me! Maybe once the kids are a little older you guys can think about getting a membership at a more family oriented club where the kids can learn to play tennis and golf and swim, etc.

I meant to say that yes those chairs were awesome!!! Too funny, and that you would think of me

Here is a picture of my little doggies being angels..

 

[Babywhisperer]

BabyWhisperer - yep, you just re-affirmed why I had to move far far away! LOL. It just isn't my style either. I just want to live my life and do as I please and not have to worry that people are gossiping about me or looking down their nose at me. It just isn't me either!

So I'd just have a conversation with your DH and discuss the options and the timeline for things. Babies need places to live that are conducive to family living. Also, if you do end up needing IFV (hopefully not), then that is going to be an added expense too. So I guess you guys just need to decide what is most important, a stable home and a place to have a family or an exclusive and pretentious club that yo guys will likely be too busy to go to? HMM.. sounds like a no brainer to me! Maybe once the kids are a little older you guys can think about getting a membership at a more family oriented club where the kids can learn to play tennis and golf and swim, etc.

I meant to say that yes those chairs were awesome!!! Too funny, and that you would think of me

Here is a picture of my little doggies being angels..

This is why I want to move out of the metropolitan area. In Boulder no one cares what you drive, wear, where your kids go to school!! I want a more simple life than the one my dh had growing up. I don't have the need to be super social, having just my dh and our family and a few close wholesome friends is enough. The thing is if we join before dh's bday in jan we get a deep discount. Ugh, me and Muffy and Buffy oh joy!

 

[AngelSerenity]

FirstTry , praying this is your time.



Jess... I'm also so excited for you, your chart is looking so promising - . Many congratulations on the Masters graduation, I missed mine (the silly buggers forgot to send me details )



Ali... thinking of you, you are having a challenging time at the moment, you're in my prayers. I hope your family and dog issues settle shortly. So what's the plan of action re the dogs? Write back to state your case? I've heard the bark collars are good and dogs are usually trained very quickly to stop barking using it xo


Coy... Remember your muscles are still at the soft stage so that probably explains why you were sore so easily. And what are families like, I don't know how you do it. Really, you are not long after giving birth and everybody still expects 100% attention and demands followed. Time for the penalty spot I think.


Babywhisperer... I hope your DH sees sense soon . Like some I was brought up in a comfortable environment and then I met a guy who was from the pretentious class, and for my madness we went out for 5 1/2 years. Now while I met some lovely people I do have to agree that the stereotype is true and I am now so glad to be away from those kind of people. The kind of people who sneer at us mortals having to go to the cheap high street shops.

I have to admit that it did influence me and it is probably one of the reasons why I have pushed myself so much to get where I am now in my career etc.


AFM..Which leads me on to asking a bit of advice from you all, Jess and Coy especially as the current studious heads. I'm thinking about giving it all up, the high flying job, the nice house and car and study for a PhD full-time on a studentship. An opportunity has become available in England so it would mean moving but if I dont get it I could apply for a similar project and funding here at home. The money is ok for a PhD (about £15k p.a.) and I know I'll pick up lecturing along the way but am I mad even thinking about it? With a 2-year old and wanting to expand my family? We would have to flog the house and rent.

But then again I need to find work and it may be an option to have some money, avoid unemployment, not be on government handouts and also be following a dream??????? In the meantime I'm applying for jobs for the sake of it as I cant break into the circle I want to, this PhD could help with that. I'd never be earning again what I am now but to be honest since DS came along I dont care about money, I'd be happy living in a council house.

SO CONFUSED, please somebody wave a magic wand and tell me what to do.

Evening everybody else, just popped on just before completing a few job applications and got carried away there, sorry.

 

[alicatt]

BabyWhisperer - yep, you just re-affirmed why I had to move far far away! LOL. It just isn't my style either. I just want to live my life and do as I please and not have to worry that people are gossiping about me or looking down their nose at me. It just isn't me either!

So I'd just have a conversation with your DH and discuss the options and the timeline for things. Babies need places to live that are conducive to family living. Also, if you do end up needing IFV (hopefully not), then that is going to be an added expense too. So I guess you guys just need to decide what is most important, a stable home and a place to have a family or an exclusive and pretentious club that yo guys will likely be too busy to go to? HMM.. sounds like a no brainer to me! Maybe once the kids are a little older you guys can think about getting a membership at a more family oriented club where the kids can learn to play tennis and golf and swim, etc.

I meant to say that yes those chairs were awesome!!! Too funny, and that you would think of me

Here is a picture of my little doggies being angels..

This is why I want to move out of the metropolitan area. In Boulder no one cares what you drive, wear, where your kids go to school!! I want a more simple life than the one my dh had growing up. I don't have the need to be super social, having just my dh and our family and a few close wholesome friends is enough. The thing is if we join before dh's bday in jan we get a deep discount. Ugh, me and Muffy and Buffy oh joy!

Boulder is the exact opposite, but don't think that they won't be judging you out there either. Boulder is granola capital of the world where everyone wears hemp clothing and drives subaru outbacks or hybrid cars. They are ultra eco-friendly and ourdoor enthusiasts. Not that this is a bad thing, but they still judge!

I enjoyed living in the S/SE burbs of Denver. There are great parks and the houses are affordable, the school systems are good, etc. I would move back to this area in a heartbeat!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- don't be "bleh"! NEVER be bleh! Aw, poor baby Zoe But I think it is a much better option than a shock collar. I would never do the shock collar either. Our little Boston Terrier is such a good puppy (K, except for the fact that she's a trash digger when she can be ) but she absolutely hates our neighbors...When she was a puppy the old guy next door got mad when we bought her and yowled about "too many blankety-blank dogs in the neighborhood!" and such- and he started throwing plums at her when she was out in the fenced yard- yeah! Right over the fence he would throw them at her. Then he advanced to rock throwing. Then he started throwing lighted fireworks. That's when dh got law involved and we made another enemy lol. Anywhoo he died but his son has decided to carry on the fight I guess and Rocky barks at him every time he steps out in his back yard So we've gotten our share of complaints. PEOPLE! Oh yeah - you have a soul mate in Colorado? wth are you doing in FL!!

FirstTry- I am so happy for you! It's amazing isn't it? Yay! Fx'd! When will you test again so you can see that beautiful line getting darker !!

Babywhisperer- yes, kids can be hard work but nothing compares to being a mom! You'll be an awesome mother Your friends comments were a bit out of line I'd say- I think you and your dh will do great at being parents! It takes some changing and juggling and nothing is ever exactly the same again but you don't lose anything Movies for instance- dh and I used to attend the occasional movie together, but when T was born we stopped until she was old enough to attend with us (3-4 years old) and the same with Katana. Now we have the new born so we'll just wait again, lol! And no harm done, we just got an awesome flat screen (naturally dh made that decision LOL!) and watch at home with popcorn and the works. We still have fun I guess is what I am trying to say. As far as work- when T was born I had 3 jobs (yes 3!) at one time. My routine was this :nurse T until she fell asleep at 11 pm, jam into my uniform and badge get my thermos and hit the road, commute 40 miles to work. Work the night shift until 8 am and drive home and be there to make T breakfast at 9:30. Then I'd go to bed until about 12:30 or so (noonish), get up, shower, get my other uniform on and go to my part time job. I'd work from 2-6 pm. Then I'd jam from there to my other part time job from 6-10 pm. Etc lol! Then I got a better job- just one I know your schedule is hectic but it can always work Just takes strategic planning and always sacrifice from mom and dad Wow is all I can say re:the topic of house, vacation, and spending. And YAY!for Colorado You are used to the cold anyway, maybe that would be better....I understand your wanting to support your dh on this club issue too as it is his family tradition, but I also understand your concerns and view- hope you two manage to work it out



Jess-
I was going to sleep, honest! I popped on to post my school assignment and had to check bnb lol! Did you test today? I'm gonna go check your chart and see ........

 

[twotogo]

DH even agreed that there is a second line on my 3am test!!! We are cautiously optimistic. It's 6dp5dt = 11DPO, so still a big chance of it not sticking. Either way, I can't sleep.

I am soooooo excited for you!!!! That's a great BFP!!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Angel- hm, life always throws tough choices at us! Here's my advice- if it's your dream to go back to school and you want to jump at this opportunity to go to England- go for it! What is life without some challenges and excitement? BUT do it smart- I would maybe consider leasing out the house so you still have it if you need it, and setting everything up prior to your move so nothing too stressful for ds. How does dh feel about it? Personally I went back to school because I had the rare opportubity and it is something I've always dreamed of doing I don't regret it!

 

[twotogo]

TwoToGo- I still think you are not responsible for the billing...just my opinion but maybe you should get a consultation on that? I think the church insurance should cover it ... How do you feel (re:the mammogram and check-up)? I agree with FirstTry- medicaid should help cover this, in fact if you aopply they will cover retro 2-4 months also, e.g., your dh, mammo, etc...

Babywhisperer-lol @ "fertile Myrtle"! no, I'm not sure where the idea came from...yes we bd'd a couple times (we have never waited the full 6 weeks .....) once the bleeding waned...I think because my usual AF would be approaching soon so hormones are crazy, plus residual hormones, plus I felt all moody and bloated. TBH it'd be waaaay too soon for me! I want to be bada$$ for awhile again, maybe get some skiing in, and some weight training, box some more Dh can teach me some tiger-style fighting....How are you feeling? How's the neighborhood? : I bet it seems like it is taking forever to regain some normalcy in that regard Oooooh, important day ?! Fill us in later? Yay! Oh re:bd timing...only takes once I have my fx'd for you!!! You are oficially in the 2WW

Ali- I don't see any dirty laundry lol! I don't blame you though, what a bunch of nonsense that would be to deal with! Did your doc suggest why you may be getting hives?? Obviously you are reacting negatively to something, that worries me a bit Oh I hope your mom gets your Stepdad in asap!


FirstTry- sometimes the cbe digi's are very demanding of absolute perfect circumstances iykwim. I don't know about the pink line- you are 10dpo (or is it dpt?)? Trigger is all gone, right? You could def have a bfp! fx'd!

Jess- where are you?

Terri-Tracey!!!-- where are you?

Angel, Babydust, Alin, Georgiabelle-

AFM- this is what I am doing today And this is how I feel lol!

Coy, our treasurer just handed us a denial letter from the insurance company for the accident. She had received it the first part of May, but forgot to give it to us. So, we were waiting for no reason, and had we known that it would have been denied, we would have gone on to set up a payment arrangement with the hospital. Oh, well.... But no, the insurance will not cover it. If the church carried workman's comp on Tim, then it would have been covered. We also found out that Tim is not covered ANYWHERE on church property, so if he gets hurt while he's at the church he's not covered. Our whole family is not covered if we get hurt here at the house - like if we get hurt because none of the house was built to code. Nope, we are out of luck.

And.... I also found out that you can be sent to collections even if you are making payments to the hospital (although we weren't because we thought the church's insurance was covering) because the whole amount is due. And the collection agency can pursue litigation even if you have been making payments (which we have) because the whole amount is due. So, we are getting an attorney. I hope. We are applying for legalaid.

As far as the the mammo and check up, I'm doing okay. I'm still not looking forward to the ductogram. Since I have had the consult, I am having fluid coming out of two of the ducts now instead of just one, so I don't know if they will be able to do the ductography on both ducts or if I have to come back and have the other one done at a different time.

Other than all this crap going on, I'm doing great. I have a great husband, wonderful kids, and a supportive family. This is so much more than most people have, so I consider myself extremely blessed.

 

[Grey Eyes]

TwpToGo- wow, you have a platefull for sure It is hard, especially dealing with crap like insurance and collections (been there ) it is tough. I am glad that you are getting an attorney, I hope legal-aid will be able to help you Free is the way to go baby! What all happens during the ductogram? I am going to go research it...... Just know you have a support team here no matter what

 

[Grey Eyes]

Jess- have you tested or are you thinking of waiting? Temp still looks great! What is the asterisk on your chart for? Is that spotting, or...? Hm.....