Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[alicatt]

Ali your hair colour looks great! I tried getting that colour a year ago but mine came out reddish but yours is the colour I was after. I have too much red pigment in my brown hair.

Hey spell check on here keeps underlining colour when I type it but that is how they teach us to spell it in Barbados. I know Americans spell it color.

Colour is the English way to spell it, and so we spell it that way in Canada too. I just got sick of the US spell check telling me it was wrong and started removing the u! HAHA!

I used to do highlights in my hair and have a combination of red, brown and cold but that is expensive and difficult to keep up! So I went back to my natural color (well minus the grey) I think this is slightly redder than my natural color, but not by much. I was a strawberry blonde when I was a child.

 

[never_give_up]

Yes that is why I am keeping mine as close to my natural colour as well. With the light colour I had to retouch the roots every 3 weeks.
I am going to find a movie on Amazon Prime. I have a credit which I must use. Have a fun night Ali

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- your hair looks great!! perfect coloUr (I spell it w a "u" as well) for your eyes!! I used to have a reddish but this time-espresso! just for fun...

 

[alicatt]

Ali- your hair looks great!! perfect coloUr (I spell it w a "u" as well) for your eyes!! I used to have a reddish but this time-espresso! just for fun...

Thanks! Espresso sounds very pretty!

I'm watching the Dark Knight Rises at the moment.

 

[Samsfan]

Ali- Your hair looks great! I went to CVS today and got a bunch of hair colours for 75 percent off. I feel like I hit the jackpot! Thanks for the information! I'm so not looking forward to tomorrow. I still have some stomach bug and I'm bloated from that! So my question is ... since they do a pregnancy test before this test to make sure you are NOT pregnant, what are the chances of getting a positive this month? I feel like I'm going to be ovulating soon. Tomorrow is CD9... so do they wash out all the when they do this test? And once again I'm on antibiotics... with bloated ..test what do you think are my chances ladies??? Do we think this test is even necessary since I haven't even gone through any treatments yet?

Babywhisperer-- feel better

I'm watching the Goodwife... I love that show and tomorrow work I'm stressed... not good for

Never - yes they are testing for all autoimmune issues.. just need to wait for the tests to come back!

Samsfan - my OB gave me an RX for some prenatals but they gave me a really upset stomach. I ended up getting the Vitafusion gummies, they taste good and have the recommended amounts of all the vitamins you need. I think the issue between the different vitamins is in how they absorb, the more expensive ones probably absorb into your body better. Personally, I would rather eat healthily, and take a prenatal that doesn't upset my stomach then feel icky all the time! BTW the prenatal gummies are about $10 a bottle that lasts 45 days. Oh and they have DHA in them.

The water sono, or HSG is a little uncomfortable, but it will give your FS a looksie into your uterus, and make sure it is the right shape, free of any fibroids, polyps or any other bad things, and also see if your tubes are open. Take some Advil or Aleve before your test, it will make it a little easier to handle. Also wear loose fitting clothes, you will be bloated for a few days post HSG. That water needs to go somewhere! It will get absorbed by your body, but it takes a couple of days.

BabyWhisperer - welcome back, I hope you are starting to feel better! Your boss needs to take a chill pill, he should be glad you stayed home and didn't infect the rest of the office. Maybe you can bottle some germs and dump it on his computer or phone then when he is feeling ill he'll realize that you can't work when you are sick! I'm kidding, but when are bosses going to realize that when you are sick you need to steer clear of others, so that it doesn't spread! UGH. My office is great about that.. you just have to sneeze and you are being escorted out of the office! I don't think you have missed much. Phil is still pregnant, but that could change at any moment. Coy is trying to figure out her cycle so she WON'T have baby #4 quite yet. Samsfan is getting the initial testing done to see determine her protocol should she decide to do an IVF. I'm waiting for all my blood work results. They did autoimmune, clotting and NK testing to see what is causing me to have repeated implantation failure. I get the results on the 18th.

While I have managed to have a shower, my hair is in a bun.. I'm trying to get cleaning and laundry and work and dog washing and picture hanging done! I'll see what I can do about getting you all a picture! LOL!

 

[Samsfan]

Btw how do I had my ovulation calendar to my signature?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Btw how do I had my ovulation calendar to my signature?

I think you go to "share" and click on "get code"...I used the simple link...

If that doesn't work, then we need ALI!!!!lol!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali...re: Dark Knight Rises...have you seen the end yet? .....

 

[alicatt]

Ali...re: Dark Knight Rises...have you seen the end yet? .....

Just finished it.. setting us up for another installment of Batman with a sidekick? Or maybe just the sidekick? I love Anne Hathaway

 

[alicatt]

Ali- Your hair looks great! I went to CVS today and got a bunch of hair colours for 75 percent off. I feel like I hit the jackpot! Thanks for the information! I'm so not looking forward to tomorrow. I still have some stomach bug and I'm bloated from that! So my question is ... since they do a pregnancy test before this test to make sure you are NOT pregnant, what are the chances of getting a positive this month? I feel like I'm going to be ovulating soon. Tomorrow is CD9... so do they wash out all the when they do this test? And once again I'm on antibiotics... with bloated ..test what do you think are my chances ladies??? Do we think this test is even necessary since I haven't even gone through any treatments yet?

Babywhisperer-- feel better

I'm watching the Goodwife... I love that show and tomorrow work I'm stressed... not good for

Samsfan - they do the HSG before you ovulate so there is no chance that you are pregnant. They will likely double check that before they do the HSG, just to make sure. Usually the month that you have all of these tests done is not expected to be a good month. It is more of an exploratory cycle to make sure all of your parts are in working order. This test will make sure your tubes are open and your uterus is clear and the correct shape. You need to have this done before you spend any money on ART (either IUI or IVF). I doubt you will feel like in the days after your HSG due to the cramping and the bloating, but as I said, it is important to make sure things are all working properly before you do any ART (artificial reproductive techniques). If you want to still try this month, ask your FS after the procedure if it is OK to have and if they give you the thumbs up, then you can still get some up there before you ovulate!

Don't stress if this month ends up a wash.. pardon the pun , the months after your HSG can be considered extra fertile months, as they have swept out all the cobwebs in your tubes, and that makes it easier for the to meet the egg. Not literal cobwebs you know, but it just clears your tubes a little bit so the can make it to the egg easier.

I like the Good Wife too! Might watch that now that my movie is over. Or maybe not? I'm pretty tired! Plus my stupid head is starting to hurt again.

 

[Samsfan]

Ali. Its just so frustrating because last month I had the femvue done. I feel like two months!!! I definately didnt feel like it after that test. That was to look at my fallopian tubes!!!! Uggh

 

[alicatt]

Ali. Its just so frustrating because last month I had the femvue done. I feel like two months!!! I definately didnt feel like it after that test. That was to look at my fallopian tubes!!!! Uggh

Ya, my FS made me do the femvue too. It doesn't do
much and to be honest I wish they had just done the HSG instead. It is a much more useful test and looks at the tubes and the uterus! I know it is hard to be patient, but that is what we need to be! Good luck tomorrow!

 

[Samsfan]

Thanks!

Coy- Thanks for the tutorial on sigs.... Hope I got it right!

 

[Philomena]

Hi all,
Just a quick note- still pregnant for now... Yesterday things quieted down again and so I decided to change tactics. My friend had been over for 4 days doing my hair in a crown braid each of those days. I had the eyelash extensions, the pedicure etc.... I was ready!
The lesson is that you can't plan for these things. I took my hair down, and yesterday we all decided to ignore that I was pregnant. My mom has been here for days and my stepdad is putting pressure on her to go home. I was feeling awful that I seemed to be stuck in this cycle of early, early labour and no baby yet. I had no idea it could go on for days! So my mom and I went shopping, then we went out to a movie... We saw "the Guilt Trip" with Barbara Streisand and it was touching, and funny and lovely.... Then came home and watched an episode of Sherlock Holmes starring Benedict Cumerbatch and had a bath, and went to bed early.
Well, I woke up an hour ago with the worst aches and cramps! It's good! They've finally abated, and given me a break.... But maybe today is the day! DD has a dr appt this morning and my mom and I need to take a chair over to my Nana's and then I'm supposed to consult one more time with the original obstetrician this afternoon. We'll see if I make it that far! I'm cautiously optimistic that Babes is going to come today!

 

[Philomena]

Hi all,
Just a quick note- still pregnant for now... Yesterday things quieted down again and so I decided to change tactics. My friend had been over for 4 days doing my hair in a crown braid each of those days. I had the eyelash extensions, the pedicure etc.... I was ready!
The lesson is that you can't plan for these things. I took my hair down, and yesterday we all decided to ignore that I was pregnant. My mom has been here for days and my stepdad is putting pressure on her to go home. I was feeling awful that I seemed to be stuck in this cycle of early, early labour and no baby yet. I had no idea it could go on for days! So my mom and I went shopping, then we went out to a movie... We saw "the Guilt Trip" with Barbara Streisand and it was touching, and funny and lovely.... Then came home and watched an episode of Sherlock Holmes starring Benedict Cumerbatch and had a bath, and went to bed early.
Well, I woke up an hour ago with the worst aches and cramps! It's good! They've finally abated, and given me a break.... But maybe today is the day! DD has a dr appt this morning and my mom and I need to take a chair over to my Nana's and then I'm supposed to consult one more time with the original obstetrician this afternoon. We'll see if I make it that far! I'm cautiously optimistic that Babes is going to come today!

 

[twotogo]

Hi all. Sorry I've been 'missing in action' and when I say action, I mean any action. For some reason, over the last few weeks I totally shut down. Emotionally and physically. I completely flat-lined and withdrew from almost everything and everyone. Of course, that was easy to do since my family was out of town, and I was home alone for 8 days, without a vehicle, during sub-zero temps, and in a village that has almost nothing. That will never happen again! I also gained about 3-4 pounds during that time. I've lost 2 of them, though. I was in a total dead funk.

One thing that helped me out of it (and some of my self-pity) was on New Years Day, I was headed up the hill to our gas station to grab something to eat and one of the ladies from our church picked me up and took me to her mother's house. We spent the afternoon playing Skip-Bo and laughing. The mother has lost an eye, a breast, thyroid, and her husband to cancer, and yet she has a cheerful outlook on life. Really made me stop and think.... and be very thankful.

The other thing that helped was I sought out professional help. Last Friday I spent about an hour with a therapist. I came out of the office in a much better frame of mind.

I would like to say that I'm going to go back and catch up on everything, but I think I will just try to pick back up at this point. I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Year!

-Andra

 

[Philomena]

Hi all. Sorry I've been 'missing in action' and when I say action, I mean any action. For some reason, over the last few weeks I totally shut down. Emotionally and physically. I completely flat-lined and withdrew from almost everything and everyone. Of course, that was easy to do since my family was out of town, and I was home alone for 8 days, without a vehicle, during sub-zero temps, and in a village that has almost nothing. That will never happen again! I also gained about 3-4 pounds during that time. I've lost 2 of them, though. I was in a total dead funk.

One thing that helped me out of it (and some of my self-pity) was on New Years Day, I was headed up the hill to our gas station to grab something to eat and one of the ladies from our church picked me up and took me to her mother's house. We spent the afternoon playing Skip-Bo and laughing. The mother has lost an eye, a breast, thyroid, and her husband to cancer, and yet she has a cheerful outlook on life. Really made me stop and think.... and be very thankful.

The other thing that helped was I sought out professional help. Last Friday I spent about an hour with a therapist. I came out of the office in a much better frame of mind.

I would like to say that I'm going to go back and catch up on everything, but I think I will just try to pick back up at this point. I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Year!

-Andra

I'm glad you were able to get back on track! I've been in some dark places before, and good for you for getting help and recognizing that it's ok to get help when you need it!!
Sending you much hugs and love from Chilly Canada!!
phil.

 

[never_give_up]

We missed you twotogo! Sorry you were by yourself and not feeling good but glad you feel better about things. Sometimes it does help to talk with a therapist and there are several incidents in my life looking back now I feel I would have gotten better faster had I had talked to someone. I know exactly the feeling you were describing about withdrawing from everyone. Dh and I had only been married 3 months when I got pregnant and I had miscarried 2 months before going back for a visit to Barbados to visit my parents. I had been very withdrawn, not going anywhere. Everyone I bumped into would ask us "Any plans for a baby yet?" I felt like exploding and saying our baby is in heaven ok!". Dh would fill in my silence with "Not yet but we are having alot of fun trying." I just wanted to avoid people. The first person I tried to make friends with when I moved here was from Salvador. Her dh is a good friend of my dh. I told her I had a miscarriage and how much we wanted to have a baby. She responded "Well I had 3". She has a 5 year old and had just had a baby. I was feeling so depressed that I interpreted her comment to mean "oh 1 is nothing I had 3". I realize now that I was depressed and took everyone's comments too negatively. My sister in law (who passed away from breast cancer Sept 2011 at the age of 41) really helped me get out of my rut because with the battle she was facing she was still being optimistic and doing alot of charity work and making the most of her life.

Anyway sorry for rambling. Reading your experience Andra just brought those memories back. Like you said, make sure that doesn't happen again where you are in a situation where you have no contact with others and stuck in the middle of nowhere with no transportation. I agree it sucks.

 

[twotogo]

Hi all. Sorry I've been 'missing in action' and when I say action, I mean any action. For some reason, over the last few weeks I totally shut down. Emotionally and physically. I completely flat-lined and withdrew from almost everything and everyone. Of course, that was easy to do since my family was out of town, and I was home alone for 8 days, without a vehicle, during sub-zero temps, and in a village that has almost nothing. That will never happen again! I also gained about 3-4 pounds during that time. I've lost 2 of them, though. I was in a total dead funk.

One thing that helped me out of it (and some of my self-pity) was on New Years Day, I was headed up the hill to our gas station to grab something to eat and one of the ladies from our church picked me up and took me to her mother's house. We spent the afternoon playing Skip-Bo and laughing. The mother has lost an eye, a breast, thyroid, and her husband to cancer, and yet she has a cheerful outlook on life. Really made me stop and think.... and be very thankful.

The other thing that helped was I sought out professional help. Last Friday I spent about an hour with a therapist. I came out of the office in a much better frame of mind.

I would like to say that I'm going to go back and catch up on everything, but I think I will just try to pick back up at this point. I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Year!

-Andra

I'm glad you were able to get back on track! I've been in some dark places before, and good for you for getting help and recognizing that it's ok to get help when you need it!!
Sending you much hugs and love from Chilly Canada!!
phil.

Thanks, Phil. Do you think Babes has decided to make her appearance today?

 

[never_give_up]

Hello Phil! How are those contractions? I hope you were able to sleep well last night.