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[JenSC]

Hm. I know dh is in pain, but that is not my fault.
He was in pain before we got married! But it seems now that when his pain is elevated he gets angry with me. He says he's not but he plays with the dd's and acts all happy and when I walk in he glares at me. WTF ?! I guess a little bit like a kid, just has to have someone to get mad at and I'm IT?

I handle this crap the best I can but there are times when it really gets to me. Sorry ladies!!

Yeah, it is unfair. I understand he feels bad, but it is not your fault and he shouldn't be taking it out on you! Maybe you can get a little you time tonight? A bath and a glass of wine?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Heheh...well at least Aeryn gets to have a bath! She loves it

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[alicatt]

Geesh! What did you guys do in 12 hours? There are 3 pages of updates!

I still have noob training.. but today is the last day! YAY!

Went to the Dr this morning about my migraines.. they prescribed something that has barbituates in it? I need to research this drug more. Not sure I want to start taking it? Or maybe I do.. He knows I'm TTC but I let him know that about 2 weeks before transplant I stop all non-pregnancy OK things. So he was OK with letting me take this for now. I will pick it up from the pharmacy tonight. I have a migraine now and it is annoying. Took some excedrine migraine for now.

I wanted to update you on the NK cells.. they came back elevated. So I think we found the culprit. I'm killing my embryos I go in Friday to discuss with the FS how to stop this from happening.

I will write more later.. but noob (training person will be back in a min).

2 1/2 of those pages are my manifesto. Jennifer: The Miniseries. Eeesh. I have been chatty today and am home alone.

What is the name of the migraine medication? You mentioned in an earlier post that you have some Xanax. For me, Valium is the only thing that will get rid of a migraine. A pain killer-Valium cocktail works the best (though it does make me woozy for a whole day, I will take that over a migraine any day! God they are miserable!) Have you tried taking the Xanax when you have the migraine? I have not found Xanax to be effective, but maybe that is just me.

I think it is great news that they have round the reason your little blasties are not implanting. Now they can fix it and get you knocked up!

Xanax with excedrine migraine and melatonin has been my cocktail at night recently. It has been somewhat effective. I need the melatonin to counteract the caffeine as I'm hyper sensitive to caffeine.

The new drug he gave me is called fiorinal. Don't know much about it other than it has a barbituate in it? I'm like really? Anyway, I will see what it is about when I pick it up this eve.


Coy - I haven't forgotten about you.. I have some ideas for you and your family! More later..

I thought you were going to say fiorinal. I tried it once and it did not work for me, and it made me feel weird. Hopefully it will work beautifully for you. I feel so bad for you, as I know how miserable migraines are. When I have one, I walk around and around and around outside, because it distracts me. If I sit still, I feel so awful I can't stand it. The nausea is the worst part, I think. Well, a tie with the pain. I have had major, major abdominal surgeries, a blocked bile duct, and other fun stuff, so I have a super high pain tolerance, but migraines make me want to die.

Well we'll see how it goes. For me it is the dizziness, and the feeling of floating that freak me out. That and the inability to concentrate. I just have to do something that doesn't require thought. Like reading a book, that is the thing that helps me the most. I can concentrate on the words, no loud noises, or flashing screens, just quiet and a book that is really easy to read. I find useless trashy novel the best. Just enough to keep you turning the page, but not anything that you have to really think about. I read an entire book from 9am-5pm yesterday.. all 400 pages! It was Stuart Woods, his novels are interesting but not rocket science.

I just looked on Walgreen's website and they don't have it ready. In fact I don't even see it as being in my list of drugs! I hope my Dr put it through!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- time to "woop-a$$" on those meds! lol! Call them and find out what's going on! I hate the inability of others sometimes.....not so much inability as laziness.

Funny. Today I called in on dh's meds. They told me "you don't need a paper script, we just call it in. It is at the pharmacy waiting for you". So I called the pharmacist to confirm it. Then I told dh. He arued with me! "You NEED tha paper script" he tells me...so I tell him no, I called, it's ready. Finally I gave up and told him to call the doc himself- which he promptly does. Then he hangs up, turns to me, and says "why did you let me call? I looked stupid". LOL! I love my dh but sometimes...MEN! Sheesh. Anyway I love the idea of online pharmacy!!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Jen- Oh, you mentioned alcohol during pregnancy. Odd! When pregnant I always crave beer but of course have none of it! I think it is the carbs in it??

 

[alicatt]

Coy -

I know your DH is disabled, but he seems to have time to play with the girls and so he probably has the ability to do more around the house. My guess is that he is like most men and just doesn't want to do it! They get like that, so I've been told.

I would see what you can do to get your DH more involved in the day to day chores. Maybe discuss it with him and say that you are drowning, and need him to do some stuff, and see what things are things he could do? Look at the things you do daily, and see if there are things that he could do, give him the choice of what to take off your list, that way he can choose something he can do, and its lightening your load.

Then you need to have a discussion with your DH about the DD's and put up a united front, and be really hard on them. It is not cool that they are not using the garbage, and are making a mess of the kitchen like they are. The more you both let this occur the worse it is going to be. Your eldest is now of the age that she needs to be stepping up and doing daily chores, and your middle DD will learn by example and she can start doing little things too. I bet it will be hard, and you are going to be met with loads of resistance, but change is good, and in time they will automatically start doing these things on their own. You and your DH have to lead by example though. That means he needs to start picking up after himself, and put things in the garbage and he has to call them out when they don't to it either. I think I've suggested it in the past, but creating a list of the 'chores' for each DD and giving out stickers for when they complete things, successfully, so that it is shown as a positive thing, would be a great way to motivate them!

You can do it!!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Coy -

I know your DH is disabled, but he seems to have time to play with the girls and so he probably has the ability to do more around the house. My guess is that he is like most men and just doesn't want to do it! They get like that, so I've been told.

I would see what you can do to get your DH more involved in the day to day chores. Maybe discuss it with him and say that you are drowning, and need him to do some stuff, and see what things are things he could do? Look at the things you do daily, and see if there are things that he could do, give him the choice of what to take off your list, that way he can choose something he can do, and its lightening your load.

Then you need to have a discussion with your DH about the DD's and put up a united front, and be really hard on them. It is not cool that they are not using the garbage, and are making a mess of the kitchen like they are. The more you both let this occur the worse it is going to be. Your eldest is now of the age that she needs to be stepping up and doing daily chores, and your middle DD will learn by example and she can start doing little things too. I bet it will be hard, and you are going to be met with loads of resistance, but change is good, and in time they will automatically start doing these things on their own. You and your DH have to lead by example though. That means he needs to start picking up after himself, and put things in the garbage and he has to call them out when they don't to it either. I think I've suggested it in the past, but creating a list of the 'chores' for each DD and giving out stickers for when they complete things, successfully, so that it is shown as a positive thing, would be a great way to motivate them!

You can do it!!!

Aaahhh! So true, all of it! And yes, dh "hates" to do dishes, etc, and the one time he vacuumed in 10 years he burned a hole in the carpet Seriously. Today I didn't clean the mess, I piled it nicely out of my way lol! Dh ended up cleaning it As for dd's...I have added garbage to T's list, Kat is making their beds, etc....guess we'll see? Right now I am cleaning out my closet!

 

[alicatt]

Coy -

I know your DH is disabled, but he seems to have time to play with the girls and so he probably has the ability to do more around the house. My guess is that he is like most men and just doesn't want to do it! They get like that, so I've been told.

I would see what you can do to get your DH more involved in the day to day chores. Maybe discuss it with him and say that you are drowning, and need him to do some stuff, and see what things are things he could do? Look at the things you do daily, and see if there are things that he could do, give him the choice of what to take off your list, that way he can choose something he can do, and its lightening your load.

Then you need to have a discussion with your DH about the DD's and put up a united front, and be really hard on them. It is not cool that they are not using the garbage, and are making a mess of the kitchen like they are. The more you both let this occur the worse it is going to be. Your eldest is now of the age that she needs to be stepping up and doing daily chores, and your middle DD will learn by example and she can start doing little things too. I bet it will be hard, and you are going to be met with loads of resistance, but change is good, and in time they will automatically start doing these things on their own. You and your DH have to lead by example though. That means he needs to start picking up after himself, and put things in the garbage and he has to call them out when they don't to it either. I think I've suggested it in the past, but creating a list of the 'chores' for each DD and giving out stickers for when they complete things, successfully, so that it is shown as a positive thing, would be a great way to motivate them!

You can do it!!!

Aaahhh! So true, all of it! And yes, dh "hates" to do dishes, etc, and the one time he vacuumed in 10 years he burned a hole in the carpet Seriously. Today I didn't clean the mess, I piled it nicely out of my way lol! Dh ended up cleaning it As for dd's...I have added garbage to T's list, Kat is making their beds, etc....guess we'll see? Right now I am cleaning out my closet!

So it sounds like they are making progress.. just baby steps! You will conquer them Sounds like you were just having a rough day. So vent!

No migraine medication for me. The pharmacy is insisting that they didn't receive the requisition. I call BS, but what can I do? So I will have to call my Dr's office in the morning and get them to re-send it. I was wondering if it is a schedule 2 drug? If so I have to have a paper script, and that may be the issue? IDK? I should have looked it up in our drug database to see if it was a schedule drug before I left work. I can do that, and also find out what the drug costs to purchase. probably an abuse of our database.. naughty Ali!

 

[JenSC]

[QUOTE/]No migraine medication for me. The pharmacy is insisting that they didn't receive the requisition. I call BS, but what can I do? So I will have to call my Dr's office in the morning and get them to re-send it. I was wondering if it is a schedule 2 drug? If so I have to have a paper script, and that may be the issue? IDK? I should have looked it up in our drug database to see if it was a schedule drug before I left work. I can do that, and also find out what the drug costs to purchase. probably an abuse of our database.. naughty Ali![/QUOTE]

It is a C3 drug.

 

[alicatt]

[QUOTE/]No migraine medication for me. The pharmacy is insisting that they didn't receive the requisition. I call BS, but what can I do? So I will have to call my Dr's office in the morning and get them to re-send it. I was wondering if it is a schedule 2 drug? If so I have to have a paper script, and that may be the issue? IDK? I should have looked it up in our drug database to see if it was a schedule drug before I left work. I can do that, and also find out what the drug costs to purchase. probably an abuse of our database.. naughty Ali!

It is a C3 drug.[/QUOTE]

Do you know if it has to be a paper prescription? I know Xanax does. He gave me a paper prescription for that. IDK, but my head is killing me and at the moment I'm cursing my Dr and the Pharmacy. I am attempting to determine what the options are for my NK issues.

Looks like I have 3 options:

1) Steroids (prednisone)
2) IVIG ( IV immunoglobulin)
3) Anti-immune type drugs like Humira and Remicade

Nothing is ever easy is it?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- Nothing ever seems easy! Def get hold of your doc, sounds like you need to pick up the paper script Maybe tonight have a glass of wine and soak in a hot tub --I know, I know you are not supposed to do that but Your head hurts!

AFM- made my trip to the store and got financially raped again Then came home, packed in a nights wood, and cooked dinner for everyone...Now babes is asleep, dh is babysitter I am going to take a hot shower!

Hopefully for longer than 3 minutues

 

[alicatt]

Ali- Nothing ever seems easy! Def get hold of your doc, sounds like you need to pick up the paper script Maybe tonight have a glass of wine and soak in a hot tub --I know, I know you are not supposed to do that but Your head hurts!

AFM- made my trip to the store and got financially raped again Then came home, packed in a nights wood, and cooked dinner for everyone...Now babes is asleep, dh is babysitter I am going to take a hot shower!

Hopefully for longer than 3 minutues

Thanks.. actually seems to make my head hurt more If I already have a headache that is. So I think I will stay away from that. I am going to rummage through my medicine chest, see if there is anything that is remotely decent at getting rid of migraines, and go to bed! I'm tired and the pups are getting into mischief. Zoe has decided to wedge herself under the couch and is now whining to be let out, and Zach is teasing her with the treat he just got. I swear my dogs can be just as bad as kids! They beg for attention by misbehaving too!

Sometimes I wonder how I am going to cope with 1-2 babies, a 50 hour work week and 2 dogs? OMG have I lost my mind? Plus being 40. OK I think someone should commit me!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- you are strong! You can manage 1-2 babies no problem

AFM-

BTW- To cap my day...that Loooong hot shower I was going to take?

Yeah.

My water heater just died.

 

[alicatt]

Ali- you are strong! You can manage 1-2 babies no problem

AFM-

BTW- To cap my day...that Loooong hot shower I was going to take?

Yeah.

My water heater just died.

Oh no! that is not good! I think you should jump on a leave DH in charge of the elder DDs and come see me with Aeryn! That would solve several of your troubles.. your DH would have to take care of the DDs and he would realize how important you are and you could have a break and a hot shower I know that is pretty much impossible, but it is fun to dream!

Maybe you need the ? I hope you can get your water heater fixed!

 

[daisychick]

Hello!
I'm new. I'm sorry for my bad English. I'm italian but now I live in USA (Miami Beach) for few months. I hope that these days in USA going to bring good luck in trying to conceive. A big hug

 

[Samsfan]

COY- Its nonexistent always! Only during bo do I have it. Its so weird. For the past 2 years it has been like that. I can't tell because it's not there. Being stressed and aggravated all day.. work then woman's meeting till 8pm.. then phone conversations after meeting to aggravate me even more. I think i need a new life profession!

Once again, thanks!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hello!
I'm new. I'm sorry for my bad English. I'm italian but now I live in USA (Miami Beach) for few months. I hope that these days in USA going to bring good luck in trying to conceive. A big hug

Daisychick-- Great to have you on board! How long are you in US for?? How long have you been ttc??

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- lol, I love that day dream Def some red some sunshine

Got a plumber coming soon to check it all out.

Fx'd I can afford it lol

 

[daisychick]

Hi Grey Eyes!
I will stay in Miami for 5 months. My fiancé works here and I followed him. I have been TTC for 1 year. I lost baby at 6th week in October. I need to change the environment so here we are. I'm pleased to share my experiences with you

 

[Samsfan]

Daisychick. Welcome to the board!!!! I love miami beach

Grey eyes. Sorry about the shower!!!! Yikes. Cold!!!!!