Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[never_give_up]

Yay!!!! So freaking excited for you!!!!! It's so nice to see positive things happening to other women my age!

Thank-you twiggers!!

Do all you ladies remember when I told you that RE said my first was a fluke? He said it was impossible for us to conceive naturally that the ONLY way was IVF. I keep hearing his voice saying "Hubby's sperm would have improved over the last 2 years but your eggs have deteriorated and they are old" He said I needed DONOR egg!! I can't believe our baby will be biololgically mine as well as dh's!! That is why I can't sleep tonight. When someone tells me I can't do something I find someone who tells me I can! The only doctor who believed in us was our chinese acupuncturist. He told me I would get pregnant. He said he didn't know if it would take 1 year or 2 or 3 but it WAS going to happen! I am going to send him an email thanking him for everything. So many times he gave me extra time at no extra charge and told me lots of success stories about women conceiving who were older than me.

 

[Philomena]

Yay!!!! So freaking excited for you!!!!! It's so nice to see positive things happening to other women my age!

Thank-you twiggers!!

Do all you ladies remember when I told you that RE said my first was a fluke? He said it was impossible for us to conceive naturally that the ONLY way was IVF. I keep hearing his voice saying "Hubby's sperm would have improved over the last 2 years but your eggs have deteriorated and they are old" He said I needed DONOR egg!! I can't believe our baby will be biololgically mine as well as dh's!! That is why I can't sleep tonight. When someone tells me I can't do something I find someone who tells me I can! The only doctor who believed in us was our chinese acupuncturist. He told me I would get pregnant. He said he didn't know if it would take 1 year or 2 or 3 but it WAS going to happen! I am going to send him an email thanking him for everything. So many times he gave me extra time at no extra charge and told me lots of success stories about women conceiving who were older than me.

I do remember when you told us that. I was never fully convinced, it just didn't seem right to me. Age alone doesn't determine egg quality.... I'm 41 and my eggs are just fine. I guess I gave your RE the benefit of the doubt to know something more about your history etc, but it always seemed fishy to me. I'm so SO glad you were able to prove him wrong!
I always worry, too, that some of these doctors jump straight to IVF because its a significantly higher payout for them. Cynical, I know.....but?

Yay! For tapioca!! I still really love it!
I don't know anything about the progesterone supplements as I didn't do that, but it might be worthwhile to call or email the company and ask about taking their product after a BFP.
Before I got pregnant I loved having a VEGA shake for breakfast and stopped after I got my BFP because it said not to drink it while pregnant because of the grape seed oil in it. I could never find any definitive research that grape seed oil was bad in pregnancy, but some thought it might be a uterine contractor so I avoided it until my third trimester. When I got to the point of viability, I emailed the company and asked about it. Well, I got a response back that the product was fine to take and that they had to put the disclaimer on the package due to regulations since its a health food product.
It doesn't hurt to ask!
I'm so excited for you!

 

[Samsfan]

Chantal. I would really get good advise before continuing to take it. May I suggest that ou make an appointment with your endocrinologist for when you come back because of your immune issues. We want your levels to stay healthy. My levels are fine, but my endo says the second phone call is to him for a visit when i get a positive. I would not just rely on your obgyn at our age. You want to make sure that all your bloodwork remains steady.

And i have to say anything is possible. Im not super religious, But when God wants to put a bun in the oven it certainly happens. What a great valentines day gift!!!

I couldnt sleep last night. I was so warm and i felt like i was spinning.

 

[Samsfan]

Do we think Chantal finally fell sleep?

 

[Philomena]

Chantal won't be able to help it! I was SO tired for the first few weeks!

 

[Philomena]

Samsfan, did you test today?

 

[never_give_up]

Good morning ladies! I finally feel asleep at 1:30 AM

I made an appointment with the a specialist who treats women who are high risk with auto immune issues. I have been to her once just for a consultation and she said she was looking forward to seeing me again soon when I got pregnant. That was back in October 2010! I also am waitng on a call from the nurse from RE's office. She will tell me what to do regarding the progesterone because she had put me on it during ivf.

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for all you wonderful ladies

 

[never_give_up]

Nooooooooo!

I just did an hpt with FMU and the line is so faint even more so then the first one I got yesterday morning

It looks like this might not be a viable pregnancy. I think I got a blood pregnancy test too early. All the stress of trying to get there last night. I am so heartbroken On the positive side no spotting, just mild cramping...

I am going to go do some yoga and meditation. That is more positive than worrying...I will leave it in God's hands.

 

[alicatt]

Nooooooooo!

I just did an hpt with FMU and the line is so faint even more so then the first one I got yesterday morning

It looks like this might not be a viable pregnancy. I think I got a blood pregnancy test too early. All the stress of trying to get there last night. I am so heartbroken On the positive side no spotting, just mild cramping...

I am going to go do some yoga and meditation. That is more positive than worrying...I will leave it in God's hands.

Stay positive, visualize that little beans snuggling in! You still had a line this morning, so that means you are still pregnant. It may just have been lack of concentration. I know you said it was FMU but you didn't get to sleep until 1:30! So it might not have been as concentrated as the day prior? I'm hoping and praying that it is all good.

 

[alicatt]

AFM - I dragged myself to the office today, its cold and rainy here and I would have liked nothing more than to just stay home and not get out of bed. Alas here I am, all achy still and with a terrific migraine thanks to the cold front bringing the rain and cold weather. I just took some excedrine migraine, hoping that will help make my head stop smarting.
Looking forward to tomorrow and the Morikami Japanese gardens and ceremonial tea ceremony with my Mom, that should be fun. Then Sunday is veg day, I will probably do some cooking, and some other chores around the house, but mostly I'm going to relax and try to get better! I have 4 more provera pills, so Sunday morning is my last pill! YAYAY! Then we wait for AF. Most people say they get it within 1-3 days of stopping, so that would be Tues/Wed next week. Bring it on AF, I cannot wait to see you! LOL. I am probably the ONLY woman out there praying for AF to arrive!

 

[never_give_up]

AFM - I dragged myself to the office today, its cold and rainy here and I would have liked nothing more than to just stay home and not get out of bed. Alas here I am, all achy still and with a terrific migraine thanks to the cold front bringing the rain and cold weather. I just took some excedrine migraine, hoping that will help make my head stop smarting.
Looking forward to tomorrow and the Morikami Japanese gardens and ceremonial tea ceremony with my Mom, that should be fun. Then Sunday is veg day, I will probably do some cooking, and some other chores around the house, but mostly I'm going to relax and try to get better! I have 4 more provera pills, so Sunday morning is my last pill! YAYAY! Then we wait for AF. Most people say they get it within 1-3 days of stopping, so that would be Tues/Wed next week. Bring it on AF, I cannot wait to see you! LOL. I am probably the ONLY woman out there praying for AF to arrive!

Thank-you Ali for helping calm me down!!
Sorry you have a migraine
Hooray for last provera pill on Sunday!! Yay!

I loved the Japanese garden in San Francisco. That is so nice that you will be able to spend quality time with your Mom. I feel quilty for not having told my Mom about the pregnancy yet but I don't want to tell her too early and disappoint her again.
Hope the shows up for you! Yes it feels really weird to say that!!

 

[never_give_up]

A nurse from RE's office phoned me. She was confused because I had been assigned a new nurse for the egg donor who I never met. That's what she said was seeing in the computer system. I had phoned and left a message for the nurse who did my 2 ivf cycles. After we cleared that up she said "So are you telling me you have had a spontaneous pregnancy? You conceived on your own naturally?" I said "Yes that's correct". She congratulated me and she said I should just keep taking the progesterone cream until I see the OBGYN when I return from Barbados. She seemed a little annoyed that I just decided to take it on my own. without a Doctor's recommendation. I responded that it helped me so much when I was doing ivf because I didn't have any cramps with That made sense to her. She said she would pass on my wonderful news to my RE and nurse. Oh would I love to be a fly on the wall

 

[Philomena]

Nooooooooo!

I just did an hpt with FMU and the line is so faint even more so then the first one I got yesterday morning

It looks like this might not be a viable pregnancy. I think I got a blood pregnancy test too early. All the stress of trying to get there last night. I am so heartbroken On the positive side no spotting, just mild cramping...

I am going to go do some yoga and meditation. That is more positive than worrying...I will leave it in God's hands.

Chantal, it doesn't matter how faint the line is right now- in these early days the concentration of your urine makes a massive difference! When I was testing multiple times, the lines were all sorts of 'noticeable' the first week or so! If the line is there then you are fine! Don't assume it's not viable- that is stress you don't need!

 

[alicatt]

Nooooooooo!

I just did an hpt with FMU and the line is so faint even more so then the first one I got yesterday morning

It looks like this might not be a viable pregnancy. I think I got a blood pregnancy test too early. All the stress of trying to get there last night. I am so heartbroken On the positive side no spotting, just mild cramping...

I am going to go do some yoga and meditation. That is more positive than worrying...I will leave it in God's hands.

Chantal, it doesn't matter how faint the line is right now- in these early days the concentration of your urine makes a massive difference! When I was testing multiple times, the lines were all sorts of 'noticeable' the first week or so! If the line is there then you are fine! Don't assume it's not viable- that is stress you don't need!

I agree.. maybe you should just stop taking tests? I know that would be impossible for me too, but maybe it would help with the stress. Just keep visualizing that little bean sticking, and get ready for your wonderful trip to Barbados. Do as your RE's nurse suggested and keep using the cream!

 

[alicatt]

Thank-you Ali for helping calm me down!!
Sorry you have a migraine
Hooray for last provera pill on Sunday!! Yay!

I loved the Japanese garden in San Francisco. That is so nice that you will be able to spend quality time with your Mom. I feel quilty for not having told my Mom about the pregnancy yet but I don't want to tell her too early and disappoint her again.
Hope the shows up for you! Yes it feels really weird to say that!!

Thanks, yes, I am very excited to get off these annoying provera pills and get this show on the road!

Yes, I'm excited to go to the gardens here tomorrow, only thing is that its supposed to be cold and rainy again. So we may end up postponing it AGAIN. Either way we're going to get together. If we don't go to the Japanese gardens we'll go shopping! What a horrible back up plan!

I'm going to keep sending you positive vibes..

 

[Grey Eyes]

Wow, 4 pages ladies Now I gotta catch up

Chantal- omg, I cannot believe your doc told you to stop progesterone!!! My doc told me too that stopping could start an MC. I would encourage you to seek a 2nd opinion and get on the supps if you can! It's soOoo worth it at this point to be pushy! Keeeep taking the progesteone! And I agree w/Phil--the early days you urine concentration has a massive effect so don't worry about the hpt visuals

Ali- yay for Sunday! Get done w/provera and on to March!!

Sam- 4 dpo--yay 2WW!

Jess- how's that finger?? Have you looked into the progesterone for this cycle? Good stuff

AFM- Wow, I was crampy all evening, I am guessing ov yesterday...I did not get to check my bbt this morning because of being awakened too often Anyways, I stayed up alone late- had a glass of red wine during Aeryn's long sleep window, watched my pre-recorded Elementary, had a bubble bath...nice.

 

[mother_of2]

Welcome mother of 2!!!!!!!!

Thanks much!

 

[alicatt]

Welcome mother of 2!!!!!!!!

Thanks much!

Welcome to the group..

 

[alicatt]

Wow, 4 pages ladies Now I gotta catch up

Chantal- omg, I cannot believe your doc told you to stop progesterone!!! My doc told me too that stopping could start an MC. I would encourage you to seek a 2nd opinion and get on the supps if you can! It's soOoo worth it at this point to be pushy! Keeeep taking the progesteone! And I agree w/Phil--the early days you urine concentration has a massive effect so don't worry about the hpt visuals

Ali- yay for Sunday! Get done w/provera and on to March!!

Sam- 4 dpo--yay 2WW!

Jess- how's that finger?? Have you looked into the progesterone for this cycle? Good stuff

AFM- Wow, I was crampy all evening, I am guessing ov yesterday...I did not get to check my bbt this morning because of being awakened too often Anyways, I stayed up alone late- had a glass of red wine during Aeryn's long sleep window, watched my pre-recorded Elementary, had a bubble bath...nice.

I second/third Phil's and Coy's advice! Plus your RE's office told you to keep using the progesterone cream. The provera (progesterone pills) are the same way, you stop taking them your progesterone level drops and you get your period. So don't stop!

Coy - YAY for ovulating I'm also happy to hear you had a nice quiet time soaking in the tub and watching Elementary. I watch that AND I watch Scandal on Thursday. Last night I didn't get to watch Scandal, as I needed to sleep

 

[Grey Eyes]

heheh...yes, I have been trying to get 2-3 nights a week where I just do my thing. Sometimes only get one but it's nice! I had "the long talk" with dd's about mommy time...one night late my 3 year old storms into the family room and orders me to my bed

Whadup little girl! So I had to spell it out...if mommy wants to sit up til 4 am watching tv or working out she will...'cause mommy's a grown-up lol!

Ali- yes, if you stop provera//progesterone your uterine lining will shed...NOT what we want to have happen while implanting