Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[TerriLou]

Hey everyone,

Nothing to report again today, still no ovulation happening.

Ali, so sorry you've been visited by the she has no business being around you, I wish I could scare her away for you. Hopefully the water is clearing up there. We have had rain all day today again, but it hasn't caused any flooding, thankfully. Have you avoided the winds?

Angel, I hope the next few days go really quickly for you up until your appointment, in the mean time, please look after yourself and your little developing emby. xx

Coy, careful of all that . Hopefully you're managing to get some sleep and your DD is getting some too, in her own bed.

Jess, hows it going? The rate you seem to be keeping yourself busy, the tww will go by in a flash, hopefully within another week, you'll know whats going on. Hopefully you'll find a there.

Twotogo, hopefully we'll be hearing from you occasionally over the next week or so, if you can get online. Look forward to seeing a on your return.

Everyone else,

 

[AngelSerenity]

Ali... and more
Is your headache gone? And has the weather settled a bit? I heard things are over Louisianna now?


Jess... sent you a friend request on FB. Love your pics. I'm feeling ok today thanks, a bit more content than my panic over progesterone yesterday! I'm speaking to my GP on the phone tomorrow about my test results from my last MC so I'm going to mention my BFP just in case she is able to give me anything else before my appointment with the RMC specialist on the 6th, only a week to go.

Coy... I love reading your posts, they cheer my day up

Twotogo... GL for this month!

Firsttry... thanks for the wishes, I've only a week to go till my appointment with the specialist so hopefully the next week will fly by and I can get progesterone then.

GNCope, lovely to hear from you. Just take one day at a time honey xo

Hi to everybody else, Babywhisperer, Terri,

 

[Grey Eyes]

Heloooo!

Ali- 'Sup Lady? Can't wait to hear how your visit with FS goes tomorrow Keep us posted! Hope your head is better

Jess- have you tried testing yet? Oh, I meant to ask you- you are competing soon, right? What's your routine involve now as far as excersize? Workin' your butt off still no doubt Try to take it easy once in awhile

Terri- you're getting the rains and wind too? WHERE'S MINE???!! Let me give you some of my hot hot sunshine

Babywhisperer- how are you?

Alin- where are you?


Everyone-

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi ladies

AFM- Wow, what a day! Started early, about 5 am for dh and I…well, okay, while he showered I sorta dozed… Anyway, huge stress reliefs today, on a few points. 1) We now have our winters worth of fire wood, which is a huge relief to us, especially since we wanted it before babes is born. Here’s the thing- we always end up paying at least $680-700 a year for wood, and this year we only had to spend $300! What an amazing blessing! Also we got it delivered by dump truck so no hand-unloading! Also instead of dumping it in piles that we had to hand stack we got it in huge wooden crates So no stacking lol, anyways, I am really happy about that

Then I contacted my Academic counselor and got my college all straightened out for the next 25-35 weeks, and I am doing an average of 400 scale courses and these next 30 weeks I am at 100 level- all electives which hould be both fun and easy. We did it this ay because it will be so much easier for me to keep up once babes is born! No hard concentrated courses for the first few months of “new-born-ness” lol! Also, spoke with my finance counselor and managed to rework finances to save about $2,000 in the next year! Wow, it pays to double check things….

Also, got the girls started on school and have managed to set a fairly easy method of scheduling so I can handle a days worth of schooling in just a couple hours Phew!

And I found a pair of comfy air-cushioned sandals for a $1.00 So I can ditch the heeled boots that are currently killing my feet and back

Wow, anyway, that’s enough amazing good news (especially the shoes ). Now I am cooking pork steaks for dinner and thinking rice or salad? I have had rice the last few days as my energy seems to have bottomed out and I thought it might help. Don’t want my, um, back end growing though so gotta be careful

 

[Babywhisperer]

Hi ladies

AFM- Wow, what a day! Started early, about 5 am for dh and I…well, okay, while he showered I sorta dozed… Anyway, huge stress reliefs today, on a few points. 1) We now have our winters worth of fire wood, which is a huge relief to us, especially since we wanted it before babes is born. Here’s the thing- we always end up paying at least $680-700 a year for wood, and this year we only had to spend $300! What an amazing blessing! Also we got it delivered by dump truck so no hand-unloading! Also instead of dumping it in piles that we had to hand stack we got it in huge wooden crates So no stacking lol, anyways, I am really happy about that

Then I contacted my Academic counselor and got my college all straightened out for the next 25-35 weeks, and I am doing an average of 400 scale courses and these next 30 weeks I am at 100 level- all electives which hould be both fun and easy. We did it this ay because it will be so much easier for me to keep up once babes is born! No hard concentrated courses for the first few months of “new-born-ness” lol! Also, spoke with my finance counselor and managed to rework finances to save about $2,000 in the next year! Wow, it pays to double check things….

Also, got the girls started on school and have managed to set a fairly easy method of scheduling so I can handle a days worth of schooling in just a couple hours Phew!

And I found a pair of comfy air-cushioned sandals for a $1.00 So I can ditch the heeled boots that are currently killing my feet and back

Wow, anyway, that’s enough amazing good news (especially the shoes ). Now I am cooking pork steaks for dinner and thinking rice or salad? I have had rice the last few days as my energy seems to have bottomed out and I thought it might help. Don’t want my, um, back end growing though so gotta be careful

Umm seriously? I'm tired just reading that. You do more in a day than I do all week. I have an hour door-to-door commute from LI to my office in NYC and it's high stress all day, although the market is quiet this week with the Labor Day weekend coming up. Nice score on the sandals! Cooking dinner...hahahaha, I get home after 6 and it's either soup, frozen pizza or take out...hubbs works late a lot so cooking and eating solo isn't fun.

I am feeling blah. I was exhausted yesterday, maybe from all the Idk.
I came home, ate some organic cheddar bunnies and some hummus and was in bed by 9ish and asleep by 10. I felt good this morning, cramping had subsided so I was pumped. I got home tonight and was drained, I'm beginning to think it's my adrenal glands as I've had issues with them in the past and needed hydrocortisone and I can't take that while ttc. Basically I wake up feeling like I didn't get restful sleep, feel energy later then crash in the afternoon only to get another surge some nights before I go to bed. But now I'm just feeling very dull and muted aches and I just want to roll up into a ball on the couch...oh wait, I'm already doing that

Bottom line, work is stressful and a change might be on the immediate horizon...and since change always comes in waves for me, I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if I became pregnant b/c the timing wouldn't be ideal with a possible work change...that being said, screw timing, we make plans and God laughs...bring me my 1st BFP please!!!!!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Babywhisperer- isn't that the truth about making plans! It seems like we have a plan and then it only works out for us when the timing couldn't be worse LOL! Wow, your commut sounds like a nightmare, I hated communuting I haven't worked for a while now though as I was terminated for being pregnant (yes, helacious lawsuit underway ) and my company (well, former company) bad-mouthed me so bad in my local area no one will hire me So anyway, I miss working, but it has givenn me time to get my degree and I am psyched about that!

Your symptoms could be bfp symptoms...lemme take a look at your chart....hang on....wtf?! NO CHART! K, how come no chart? LOL! I forgot you didn't have one......Anyway, what cd are you? Hmmm........Yep, you could be prego especially with all that LOL! Tired, no energy, eating wierd stuff for dinner JK! What is a chedder bunny btw?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Sorry for all the typos, I'm beat tonight ...

 

[Babywhisperer]

Babywhisperer- isn't that the truth about making plans! It seems like we have a plan and then it only works out for us when the timing couldn't be worse LOL! Wow, your commut sounds like a nightmare, I hated communuting I haven't worked for a while now though as I was terminated for being pregnant (yes, helacious lawsuit underway ) and my company (well, former company) bad-mouthed me so bad in my local area no one will hire me So anyway, I miss working, but it has givenn me time to get my degree and I am psyched about that!

Your symptoms could be bfp symptoms...lemme take a look at your chart....hang on....wtf?! NO CHART! K, how come no chart? LOL! I forgot you didn't have one......Anyway, what cd are you? Hmmm........Yep, you could be prego especially with all that LOL! Tired, no energy, eating wierd stuff for dinner JK! What is a chedder bunny btw?

Sorry to hear about your unfortunate former employer...I worked for a large investment bank that has a class action lawsuit over that exact thing...nothing surprises me.

Idk if it's bfp symptoms, I def haven't implanted yet as I'm cd16, I got a darker line on my opk on cd 11 and the morning of cd 12...so maybe 4dpo? I got symptoms last month, and even suspect dark brown spotting 2 days before AF (12dpo) and I cramped for 8days straight before AF. I was crampy last night, like dull aches, and despite not having anything to drink after 7pm except for 3oz of prune juice to take my prenatals and CoQ10, I got up to pee 4x last night, I'm still feeling some pressure down yonder but not as bad as yesterday...could this all still be from ovulation? My coffee is saving people's lives today...seriously.

 

[jm1355]

Good Morning everyone!!

I hope everyone is already having a fantastic day.

Ali...did your headache ever go away? I am anxious to hear about your appt with the FS!

Coy...are you staying cool? You asked about me competing and my exercise routine. Yes, I am getting ready to compete. Originally, I was going to compete September 15 AND October 13. But now it is just October 13. So right now, my weights are heavy with a medium rep count of 12-15. I am still doing an hour and a half of cardio everyday (1 hour on the bike--and sometimes I just want to run over my trainer and a half hour of running). But next week the cardio goes up to two hours. I have lost 10 pounds over the last 5 weeks and will probably lose another 15 before I compete in October. I will gain it all back as soon as I get some and !! I did shoulders last night and I feel like my shoulders are going to fall off! AND, my BF had me do an insane ab routine...right at 900 reps ...needless to say, when I had to sneeze this morning--it HURT! Lol! But I must admit, my six-pack is coming along nicely. For anyone who is my FB friend, I think I have a few competition pics up there.

BabyWhisperer...I hope your BFP comes this month!! I am almost at the point where I don't really want to "try" anymore (even though I really do). But I do love coming on here and hoping and praying for everyone here!! And by the way, I am so jealous of all your ...I wish me and BF had more time...and were not so tired. Maybe AFTER I compete in October, things will slow down a bit.

Terri...where is your big O? Hmmmm...do you do your OPK more than once a day? I heard that sometimes women can miss their surge and sometimes it is best to test atleast every 12 hours. But I don't know how true that is.

OK...so I am still crazy busy at work...I DON'T like my job, and I am praying to be able to teach next school year...in the meantime, I better get to work!

Have a great day everyone!!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Sorry for all the typos, I'm beat tonight ...

Oh btw, Annie's Cheddar Bunnies are like Pepperidge Farm cheddar goldfish crackers...they're just bunnies instead, and organic.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Good Morning everyone!!

I hope everyone is already having a fantastic day.

Ali...did your headache ever go away? I am anxious to hear about your appt with the FS!

Coy...are you staying cool? You asked about me competing and my exercise routine. Yes, I am getting ready to compete. Originally, I was going to compete September 15 AND October 13. But now it is just October 13. So right now, my weights are heavy with a medium rep count of 12-15. I am still doing an hour and a half of cardio everyday (1 hour on the bike--and sometimes I just want to run over my trainer and a half hour of running). But next week the cardio goes up to two hours. I have lost 10 pounds over the last 5 weeks and will probably lose another 15 before I compete in October. I will gain it all back as soon as I get some and !! I did shoulders last night and I feel like my shoulders are going to fall off! AND, my BF had me do an insane ab routine...right at 900 reps ...needless to say, when I had to sneeze this morning--it HURT! Lol! But I must admit, my six-pack is coming along nicely. For anyone who is my FB friend, I think I have a few competition pics up there.

BabyWhisperer...I hope your BFP comes this month!! I am almost at the point where I don't really want to "try" anymore (even though I really do). But I do love coming on here and hoping and praying for everyone here!! And by the way, I am so jealous of all your ...I wish me and BF had more time...and were not so tired. Maybe AFTER I compete in October, things will slow down a bit.

Terri...where is your big O? Hmmmm...do you do your OPK more than once a day? I heard that sometimes women can miss their surge and sometimes it is best to test atleast every 12 hours. But I don't know how true that is.

OK...so I am still crazy busy at work...I DON'T like my job, and I am praying to be able to teach next school year...in the meantime, I better get to work!

Have a great day everyone!!

That's some routine...I'm jealous of your dedication. I haven't been to the gym since I had my foot surgery in April. I have gained 10+lbs and am out of shape. I used to be such a gym rat...5days a week of weights and cardio, and tabata type routines. I'm thinking of starting the Insanity workout or P90X...but I have never been successful with at home workouts. I wish I had the energy! And as far as our bd'ing...we have only been married since Dec, so we better be getting it on a lot!

 

[alicatt]

Sorry for all the typos, I'm beat tonight ...

Oh btw, Annie's Cheddar Bunnies are like Pepperidge Farm cheddar goldfish crackers...they're just bunnies instead, and organic.

I knew exactly what you were talking about. I eat those things with hummus too! LMAO! Or I get the slim pretzel 'everything' chips, mmm.. they are good with the olive hummus!

 

[alicatt]

Hi All,

I have been insanely busy at work.. Boss was away, and I have 5 other co-workers, plus we had 2 new hires this week. Of the 5, there was me and David that were actually in the office. Greg left in a tizzy on Tuesday because his wife was having contractions. Kyle left Wednesday on vacation, and Chaitan is far too new to be able to do anything. So that left me and David to basically man the office (and David works remotely). So that left ME to keep things going, AND take the random questions that my boss normally gets AND train 2 new hires, AND do my normal assignments! OMG it was crazy nutty.

So this morning I had my FS appt. As I expected he said that he felt that my only chance was IVF. He co-authored a study of women over 40 that were doing IUI, and the study had over 700 women in it, all with varying issues, and of those women only 5% were successful in getting pregnant, and of those 5% a whopping 73% had miscarriages. So the end result is 1.25% of those pregnancies actually were successful, and for $4000 a month, those odds are not great.

So he had me redo my labs to make sure that things are still good there. He did an US and my left ovary looked awesome and my right ovary was hiding and barely seen. There weren't any cysts so all of that was good. He then wanted to do a trial embryo transfer. This is done to make sure that there are no issues getting the catheter up inside me. Well guess what? He couldn't do it. He said, nope its not going to happen, so we need to do surgery on you to get your cervix to open, the exact term was stenosis of the cervix. YA.. I'm like what? Is it closed or is the opening really small? Then I was thinking 3 things.. 1) no wonder I have never been pregnant on my own, and 2) how the heck is the baby going to come out if it is so tiny? well and 3) where the heck were you putting the when we were doing the IUI? Like really?

Then the more complicating factor is that this all has to be done BEFORE they will put me on meds, which I need to be starting ASAP. So we had to schedule the procedure for 7am tomorrow morning. EEK!

Costs so far:

$1600 for the procedure tomorrow morning ($1500 deductible) so I have to pay that plus a 20% co-insurance.

$4000 for all the injectible medications for the month - and that is with some of it being covered by my FS

$5000 deposit for the other procedures that will be done. I believe the total is going to be somewhere in the $12000 range.

OMG this is insanity! I better get twins!

I feel like the MasterCard commercial.. with the punchline.. and holding my twins.. priceless.

So sorry I have been MIA.. I hope you are all doing well, I did skim all of your posts, but I'm kind of whacked out between the 15 hour work days and the news from today, that my brain isn't functioning. So to you, and hopefully my brain will co-operate more tomorrow!

Ali

 

[Philomena]

Hi All,

I have been insanely busy at work.. Boss was away, and I have 5 other co-workers, plus we had 2 new hires this week. Of the 5, there was me and David that were actually in the office. Greg left in a tizzy on Tuesday because his wife was having contractions. Kyle left Wednesday on vacation, and Chaitan is far too new to be able to do anything. So that left me and David to basically man the office (and David works remotely). So that left ME to keep things going, AND take the random questions that my boss normally gets AND train 2 new hires, AND do my normal assignments! OMG it was crazy nutty.

So this morning I had my FS appt. As I expected he said that he felt that my only chance was IVF. He co-authored a study of women over 40 that were doing IUI, and the study had over 700 women in it, all with varying issues, and of those women only 5% were successful in getting pregnant, and of those 5% a whopping 73% had miscarriages. So the end result is 1.25% of those pregnancies actually were successful, and for $4000 a month, those odds are not great.

So he had me redo my labs to make sure that things are still good there. He did an US and my left ovary looked awesome and my right ovary was hiding and barely seen. There weren't any cysts so all of that was good. He then wanted to do a trial embryo transfer. This is done to make sure that there are no issues getting the catheter up inside me. Well guess what? He couldn't do it. He said, nope its not going to happen, so we need to do surgery on you to get your cervix to open, the exact term was stenosis of the cervix. YA.. I'm like what? Is it closed or is the opening really small? Then I was thinking 3 things.. 1) no wonder I have never been pregnant on my own, and 2) how the heck is the baby going to come out if it is so tiny? well and 3) where the heck were you putting the when we were doing the IUI? Like really?

Then the more complicating factor is that this all has to be done BEFORE they will put me on meds, which I need to be starting ASAP. So we had to schedule the procedure for 7am tomorrow morning. EEK!

Costs so far:

$1600 for the procedure tomorrow morning ($1500 deductible) so I have to pay that plus a 20% co-insurance.

$4000 for all the injectible medications for the month - and that is with some of it being covered by my FS

$5000 deposit for the other procedures that will be done. I believe the total is going to be somewhere in the $12000 range.

OMG this is insanity! I better get twins!

I feel like the MasterCard commercial.. with the punchline.. and holding my twins.. priceless.

So sorry I have been MIA.. I hope you are all doing well, I did skim all of your posts, but I'm kind of whacked out between the 15 hour work days and the news from today, that my brain isn't functioning. So to you, and hopefully my brain will co-operate more tomorrow!

Ali

Hi Ali! What a journey for you! I'm trying to wrap my head around what your doc has told you. It doesn't make sense to me. If you are bleeding each month, then your cervix can't be closed. So it must only be restricted, or 'stiff' then, yes? For three months they have been able to insert the catheter for the IUI since by its name, we must assume they were able to get past the cervix to deposit the sperm into the uterus. So is your doctor saying the catheter for IVF is larger than what's used for IUI? That is the only logical answer, yes?
So on to the next level for you, then! Good luck with all this- your baby will make it all worthwhile- and in the end the money you spent wont matter a whit. Much baby dust to you- I am so hoping this all works out for you!
Phil.

 

[alicatt]

Hi All,

I have been insanely busy at work.. Boss was away, and I have 5 other co-workers, plus we had 2 new hires this week. Of the 5, there was me and David that were actually in the office. Greg left in a tizzy on Tuesday because his wife was having contractions. Kyle left Wednesday on vacation, and Chaitan is far too new to be able to do anything. So that left me and David to basically man the office (and David works remotely). So that left ME to keep things going, AND take the random questions that my boss normally gets AND train 2 new hires, AND do my normal assignments! OMG it was crazy nutty.

So this morning I had my FS appt. As I expected he said that he felt that my only chance was IVF. He co-authored a study of women over 40 that were doing IUI, and the study had over 700 women in it, all with varying issues, and of those women only 5% were successful in getting pregnant, and of those 5% a whopping 73% had miscarriages. So the end result is 1.25% of those pregnancies actually were successful, and for $4000 a month, those odds are not great.

So he had me redo my labs to make sure that things are still good there. He did an US and my left ovary looked awesome and my right ovary was hiding and barely seen. There weren't any cysts so all of that was good. He then wanted to do a trial embryo transfer. This is done to make sure that there are no issues getting the catheter up inside me. Well guess what? He couldn't do it. He said, nope its not going to happen, so we need to do surgery on you to get your cervix to open, the exact term was stenosis of the cervix. YA.. I'm like what? Is it closed or is the opening really small? Then I was thinking 3 things.. 1) no wonder I have never been pregnant on my own, and 2) how the heck is the baby going to come out if it is so tiny? well and 3) where the heck were you putting the when we were doing the IUI? Like really?

Then the more complicating factor is that this all has to be done BEFORE they will put me on meds, which I need to be starting ASAP. So we had to schedule the procedure for 7am tomorrow morning. EEK!

Costs so far:

$1600 for the procedure tomorrow morning ($1500 deductible) so I have to pay that plus a 20% co-insurance.

$4000 for all the injectible medications for the month - and that is with some of it being covered by my FS

$5000 deposit for the other procedures that will be done. I believe the total is going to be somewhere in the $12000 range.

OMG this is insanity! I better get twins!

I feel like the MasterCard commercial.. with the punchline.. and holding my twins.. priceless.

So sorry I have been MIA.. I hope you are all doing well, I did skim all of your posts, but I'm kind of whacked out between the 15 hour work days and the news from today, that my brain isn't functioning. So to you, and hopefully my brain will co-operate more tomorrow!

Ali

Hi Ali! What a journey for you! I'm trying to wrap my head around what your doc has told you. It doesn't make sense to me. If you are bleeding each month, then your cervix can't be closed. So it must only be restricted, or 'stiff' then, yes? For three months they have been able to insert the catheter for the IUI since by its name, we must assume they were able to get past the cervix to deposit the sperm into the uterus. So is your doctor saying the catheter for IVF is larger than what's used for IUI? That is the only logical answer, yes?
So on to the next level for you, then! Good luck with all this- your baby will make it all worthwhile- and in the end the money you spent wont matter a whit. Much baby dust to you- I am so hoping this all works out for you!
Phil.

Yes, I think that there must be some opening, but it is tilted downwards, and is difficult to get through. The issue I think is that yes the catheter is bigger, as we are talking a fertilized 3 day old embryo, so it needs to be bigger than what they use to put the up there. The other issue is that with the IUI it is OK to have a little cramping and for the uterus to spasm a little as that helps the get where they need to go, but that is not good when you are talking about trying to get the embryos to implant. So it has to be a smooth entry. When I had the IUIs done in Canada the Dr there used a clamp of some sort to help hold it open, which was OK for IUI, but would be a bad thing for IFV. I am still concerned about how the baby will fit out of there if they can barely get a catheter up there? OMG!

Thanks so much for your dust and kind words

 

[Philomena]

Hi All,

I have been insanely busy at work.. Boss was away, and I have 5 other co-workers, plus we had 2 new hires this week. Of the 5, there was me and David that were actually in the office. Greg left in a tizzy on Tuesday because his wife was having contractions. Kyle left Wednesday on vacation, and Chaitan is far too new to be able to do anything. So that left me and David to basically man the office (and David works remotely). So that left ME to keep things going, AND take the random questions that my boss normally gets AND train 2 new hires, AND do my normal assignments! OMG it was crazy nutty.

So this morning I had my FS appt. As I expected he said that he felt that my only chance was IVF. He co-authored a study of women over 40 that were doing IUI, and the study had over 700 women in it, all with varying issues, and of those women only 5% were successful in getting pregnant, and of those 5% a whopping 73% had miscarriages. So the end result is 1.25% of those pregnancies actually were successful, and for $4000 a month, those odds are not great.

So he had me redo my labs to make sure that things are still good there. He did an US and my left ovary looked awesome and my right ovary was hiding and barely seen. There weren't any cysts so all of that was good. He then wanted to do a trial embryo transfer. This is done to make sure that there are no issues getting the catheter up inside me. Well guess what? He couldn't do it. He said, nope its not going to happen, so we need to do surgery on you to get your cervix to open, the exact term was stenosis of the cervix. YA.. I'm like what? Is it closed or is the opening really small? Then I was thinking 3 things.. 1) no wonder I have never been pregnant on my own, and 2) how the heck is the baby going to come out if it is so tiny? well and 3) where the heck were you putting the when we were doing the IUI? Like really?

Then the more complicating factor is that this all has to be done BEFORE they will put me on meds, which I need to be starting ASAP. So we had to schedule the procedure for 7am tomorrow morning. EEK!

Costs so far:

$1600 for the procedure tomorrow morning ($1500 deductible) so I have to pay that plus a 20% co-insurance.

$4000 for all the injectible medications for the month - and that is with some of it being covered by my FS

$5000 deposit for the other procedures that will be done. I believe the total is going to be somewhere in the $12000 range.

OMG this is insanity! I better get twins!

I feel like the MasterCard commercial.. with the punchline.. and holding my twins.. priceless.

So sorry I have been MIA.. I hope you are all doing well, I did skim all of your posts, but I'm kind of whacked out between the 15 hour work days and the news from today, that my brain isn't functioning. So to you, and hopefully my brain will co-operate more tomorrow!

Ali

Hi Ali! What a journey for you! I'm trying to wrap my head around what your doc has told you. It doesn't make sense to me. If you are bleeding each month, then your cervix can't be closed. So it must only be restricted, or 'stiff' then, yes? For three months they have been able to insert the catheter for the IUI since by its name, we must assume they were able to get past the cervix to deposit the sperm into the uterus. So is your doctor saying the catheter for IVF is larger than what's used for IUI? That is the only logical answer, yes?
So on to the next level for you, then! Good luck with all this- your baby will make it all worthwhile- and in the end the money you spent wont matter a whit. Much baby dust to you- I am so hoping this all works out for you!
Phil.

Yes, I think that there must be some opening, but it is tilted downwards, and is difficult to get through. The issue I think is that yes the catheter is bigger, as we are talking a fertilized 3 day old embryo, so it needs to be bigger than what they use to put the up there. The other issue is that with the IUI it is OK to have a little cramping and for the uterus to spasm a little as that helps the get where they need to go, but that is not good when you are talking about trying to get the embryos to implant. So it has to be a smooth entry. When I had the IUIs done in Canada the Dr there used a clamp of some sort to help hold it open, which was OK for IUI, but would be a bad thing for IFV. I am still concerned about how the baby will fit out of there if they can barely get a catheter up there? OMG!

Thanks so much for your dust and kind words

Don't worry about how the baby will get out! We all have that concern! The hormone that relaxes all the ligaments etc helps with the cervix too! Also, with the cervical dilation and effacement at birth, the depth of the cervix flattens out to just about nothing.
I have a good friend who had to go the IVF route, and now that you mention it, I think she and her hubby were forbidden to do any bd'ing for the tww for just those same reasons!!
Good luck and much constant baby dust!
Phil.

 

[gncope]

Best of luck Ali! I am sure it was a very overwhelming day. Hang in there and let's see some twins for you

Hi All,

I have been insanely busy at work.. Boss was away, and I have 5 other co-workers, plus we had 2 new hires this week. Of the 5, there was me and David that were actually in the office. Greg left in a tizzy on Tuesday because his wife was having contractions. Kyle left Wednesday on vacation, and Chaitan is far too new to be able to do anything. So that left me and David to basically man the office (and David works remotely). So that left ME to keep things going, AND take the random questions that my boss normally gets AND train 2 new hires, AND do my normal assignments! OMG it was crazy nutty.

So this morning I had my FS appt. As I expected he said that he felt that my only chance was IVF. He co-authored a study of women over 40 that were doing IUI, and the study had over 700 women in it, all with varying issues, and of those women only 5% were successful in getting pregnant, and of those 5% a whopping 73% had miscarriages. So the end result is 1.25% of those pregnancies actually were successful, and for $4000 a month, those odds are not great.

So he had me redo my labs to make sure that things are still good there. He did an US and my left ovary looked awesome and my right ovary was hiding and barely seen. There weren't any cysts so all of that was good. He then wanted to do a trial embryo transfer. This is done to make sure that there are no issues getting the catheter up inside me. Well guess what? He couldn't do it. He said, nope its not going to happen, so we need to do surgery on you to get your cervix to open, the exact term was stenosis of the cervix. YA.. I'm like what? Is it closed or is the opening really small? Then I was thinking 3 things.. 1) no wonder I have never been pregnant on my own, and 2) how the heck is the baby going to come out if it is so tiny? well and 3) where the heck were you putting the when we were doing the IUI? Like really?

Then the more complicating factor is that this all has to be done BEFORE they will put me on meds, which I need to be starting ASAP. So we had to schedule the procedure for 7am tomorrow morning. EEK!

Costs so far:

$1600 for the procedure tomorrow morning ($1500 deductible) so I have to pay that plus a 20% co-insurance.

$4000 for all the injectible medications for the month - and that is with some of it being covered by my FS

$5000 deposit for the other procedures that will be done. I believe the total is going to be somewhere in the $12000 range.

OMG this is insanity! I better get twins!

I feel like the MasterCard commercial.. with the punchline.. and holding my twins.. priceless.

So sorry I have been MIA.. I hope you are all doing well, I did skim all of your posts, but I'm kind of whacked out between the 15 hour work days and the news from today, that my brain isn't functioning. So to you, and hopefully my brain will co-operate more tomorrow!

Ali

 

[alicatt]

Off to bed.. my friend is going to be here to pick me up in 6 hours! EEK!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- oh wow, that is some news! I bet you are reeling from it somewhat but I am so glad that you talked to your FS and he spoke freely and openly about it. It makes sense a little bit about the cervix...I am a bit unclear the exact process of um, "squirting" sperm up in there the IUI way but I can see if your cervix is stiff or has a super tiny opening that'd explain things. I sooo have my fingers and toes crossed for you!!


Ladies Sorry my post is so short tonight I am literally beat. Hot but VERY productive day working the garage crap today OMG, almost enough room to park the car. ANother day r two like this one and Plus my crazy child kept me up till 430 this morning! So bad I made her get up, go the living room, and sit on the couch with lights on while I did school work. I told her if she wanted to be awake so bad we'd be awake! Then I did alittle research about this kind of issue and found I cannot relent even a little bit or she;ll just demand more (which she has been doing). So this morning she was very apologetic and sad about the whole event and promised (yeah yeah ) tonight she would sleep. Sigh. Fx'd for me, lol!

 

[jm1355]

Happy Friday Everyone!!

Ali...I'm so glad your appt went well and you got some answers. I feel so uninformed because I don't know anything about all that stuff. But after I compete in October, if I am not pregnant by then, I plan on finding out...I will be in that FS office like a mad woman trying to figure it all out and get my baby!

Coy...stay out of that HOT garage! I certainly hope you are drinking lots of fluids...maybe you should try relaxing on the couch and reading a book! That is probably like telling me not to workout! Lol! Just be careful!

AFM...one of my friends that I have known since we were 12 just delivered a healthy baby boy! I am so excited for her...she just turned 41 and conceived naturally. I am so happy for her but perhaps a bit on the jealous side too...I WANT A BABY!!!!!!!!!!
ALSO, one of my BF's clients brought her 6 week old baby in to the gym yesterday...I wasn't there to see the gorgeous little tyke, but my BF had someone take a picture of him holding the baby! It was SO SO SO adorable!! Yesterday he moved one step closer to getting that SA done! Lol!
As far as my body goes...I am on CD25. I am not sure when I ovualted (my fault for not testing or doing consistent temping) and I have NO symptoms whatsoever! Not even AF symptoms. I had a little spotting a few days ago, but that went away. My BBs are usually sore by now, and they are not. I have no out of control cravings (which I usually get the week before AF shows up). I have nothing!! Oh well, I will just keep praying and pressing!!