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[babydust2me]

we this afternoon dh came home for lunch I used one of those cups afterward and I really think that they worked super well! Also used the preseed. DH was not really in the game for some odd reason lol. He said we need to figure out a way to spice things up. I gotta go get a brazilian...that always does the trick BUT it hurts like hell! but it is worth it...lol. Anyone else going to brazil??

Ouchie! I've only gone to Brazil once (well maybe I went to Mexico) cause I didn't go all the way. I just can't handle the issues after it happens. My hair grows in all backwards, and ingrown and its just an ugly mess about a week later. Not worth it for me. You could go buy some lingerie? Or maybe take one of the more tame chapters from 50 shades?

lol...mexico!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Aw, you ladies make me laugh!

Babydust- doesn't matter if he's in the mood JUST POUNCE lol! I don't go to Brazil per say but I do stay very clean shaven, more a preference than anything....maybe try that instead? Less painful

Ali- what in heck is Mexico (dare I ask)

Alin- yes it def counts. Dh emphatically insists it, um, "leaks like crazy" so he said that pulling out method for contraception is (in a cleaned up version of Marine talk) Total Crap.

 

[alicatt]

Aw, you ladies make me laugh!

Babydust- doesn't matter if he's in the mood JUST POUNCE lol! I don't go to Brazil per say but I do stay very clean shaven, more a preference than anything....maybe try that instead? Less painful

Ali- what in heck is Mexico (dare I ask)

Alin- yes it def counts. Dh emphatically insists it, um, "leaks like crazy" so he said that pulling out method for contraception is (in a cleaned up version of Marine talk) Total Crap.

Well Brazilian is bare, and have tried that but not quite (so I said I went to Mexico) since I didn't quite make it to Brazil!

I keep it trimmed, and clean, but I can't wax.. its a horrendous mess. Plus it kind of creeps me out. If a guy insists on it it makes me wonder if he wants little girls? Gross! EWW! I'm sure it has to do with being less messy for them, but it still creeps me out a little bit.

 

[alicatt]

UGH.. So I'm on another thread a Sept/Oct thread for IVFs and I think it was a pretty positive thread, and I'm fairly sure that at least 75% of the women on that thread got their BFPs. It just makes me sad that I wasn't one of them!
I think there were only 2-3 of us that didn't get a BFP. Of course it is still early, not all of those will go to term (course I hope they all do)! I just wonder what it is that makes some of us successful and others not so successful?
How did I make 2 perfect embryos and neither of them work?

 

[Grey Eyes]

UGH.. So I'm on another thread a Sept/Oct thread for IVFs and I think it was a pretty positive thread, and I'm fairly sure that at least 75% of the women on that thread got their BFPs. It just makes me sad that I wasn't one of them!
I think there were only 2-3 of us that didn't get a BFP. Of course it is still early, not all of those will go to term (course I hope they all do)! I just wonder what it is that makes some of us successful and others not so successful?
How did I make 2 perfect embryos and neither of them work?

That's a tough question...In reading about IVF I have found there are somany variables, including implantation. Even with just regular method implantation is not always an absolute. So I think getting evrything fine tuned perfectly is key. What with the sperm not being "up to par" so to speak it makes me wonder if that was the whole problem all along. Have you considered an IUI with different donor sperm or are you going straight to IVF again? I am thinking chances are greater with IVF just because a few steps are eliminated. One you don't make those poor little sperms work so hard!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- thought just occured to me. ...Are you alllowed to use different sperm with multiple eggs? In other words if you have 3 eggs that you intend to implant can you use a different sperm on each of them?

Re: the Brazilian. Ew, you just creeped me out with that remark about little girls! I stay clean shaven just because if they have to stitch or something I have an issue with some dumb nurse shaving me

On that note my wonderful dh used to hunt those sick bast#@!%! down when he was a bounty hunter. He also owned his own security company and was telling me this morning he witnessed a man walk into a place of business he was in..the man had a little boy with him about 12 years old. Dh said something about the guy didn't seem right so he called pd and the man matched a pedophile description...Dh pulled his weapon, handcuffed the guy and police came. The man had raped over 20 children and was luring the little 12 year old boy! He had just been released fom prison an hour (ONE HOUR!) before. My dh the hero again! Anyway it just reminded me.....there are a lot of sick folks out there, it makes me crazy thinking how close my girls were to that guy a few weeks ago.

 

[babydust2me]

Ali- thought just occured to me. ...Are you alllowed to use different sperm with multiple eggs? In other words if you have 3 eggs that you intend to implant can you use a different sperm on each of them?

Re: the Brazilian. Ew, you just creeped me out with that remark about little girls! I stay clean shaven just because if they have to stitch or something I have an issue with some dumb nurse shaving me

On that note my wonderful dh used to hunt those sick bast#@!%! down when he was a bounty hunter. He also owned his own security company and was telling me this morning he witnessed a man walk into a place of business he was in..the man had a little boy with him about 12 years old. Dh said something about the guy didn't seem right so he called pd and the man matched a pedophile description...Dh pulled his weapon, handcuffed the guy and police came. The man had raped over 20 children and was luring the little 12 year old boy! He had just been released fom prison an hour (ONE HOUR!) before. My dh the hero again! Anyway it just reminded me.....there are a lot of sick folks out there, it makes me crazy thinking how close my girls were to that guy a few weeks ago.

WOW! How amazing!! Thank the Lord for your husband. The guy needs to be castrated. I have zero tolerance for those sickos. ugh.

Just to clarify, it's a cleanliness thing for my dh...not some sick perversion. And he doesn't demand it, I just surprise him on occasion

 

[alicatt]

Ali- thought just occured to me. ...Are you alllowed to use different sperm with multiple eggs? In other words if you have 3 eggs that you intend to implant can you use a different sperm on each of them?

Re: the Brazilian. Ew, you just creeped me out with that remark about little girls! I stay clean shaven just because if they have to stitch or something I have an issue with some dumb nurse shaving me

On that note my wonderful dh used to hunt those sick bast#@!%! down when he was a bounty hunter. He also owned his own security company and was telling me this morning he witnessed a man walk into a place of business he was in..the man had a little boy with him about 12 years old. Dh said something about the guy didn't seem right so he called pd and the man matched a pedophile description...Dh pulled his weapon, handcuffed the guy and police came. The man had raped over 20 children and was luring the little 12 year old boy! He had just been released fom prison an hour (ONE HOUR!) before. My dh the hero again! Anyway it just reminded me.....there are a lot of sick folks out there, it makes me crazy thinking how close my girls were to that guy a few weeks ago.

WOW! How amazing!! Thank the Lord for your husband. The guy needs to be castrated. I have zero tolerance for those sickos. ugh.

Just to clarify, it's a cleanliness thing for my dh...not some sick perversion. And he doesn't demand it, I just surprise him on occasion

Oh I know.. most men just like the smoothness and cleanliness, and I totally understand that

Coy.. so glad you have an awesome DH!!!

 

[alicatt]

So I've decided to work from home again tomorrow. I got a ton of work done today, and this way I can get a few more things done around the house. I doubt I will get much more beyond laundry done tonight. I made the mistake of taking the cough medicine around 6pm and since then I can barely get off the couch! It just makes me that sleepy. Part of me thinks that its probably a good thing that I relax, so I can get better faster.

Coy.. your question about multiple sperm. I don't see why I couldn't use multiples. I'm just not sure I want to? I wouldn't know which donor was the father!! LOL!!

What do you guys think.. I need to decide what kind of donor I want.. one that is an ID Disclosure, or one that wants to remain anonymous? I think if it were me, I would want to know who my 'dad' was. I know he wouldn't ever be part of my childs life, but I still think that I would want to know who my parent was. But then again, I'm adopted and I haven't searched for my birth parents (but I have a Mom and Dad). So maybe it isn't that important? I think there are way more donors that are anonymous, and I'm wondering if I should open myself up to those as well. Since I'm having so much trouble finding someone that has an ID disclosure.

 

[twotogo]

Evening Ladies (well, it is here anyway). Again, its a flying visit, just read through the last days posts, but I'm off swimming in about 20 minutes, so haven't got much time.

Ali, it sounds like you're on the mend, hopefully its all out of your system soon, flu really gets you down. Lots of people around me have been really poorly over the last couple of weeks, its spreading through schools at the moment.

alenasuna, welcome and congrats on the BFP, hopefully your luck will rub off on these deserving ladies on here. Please send some my way.

Yep, my temp definitely jumped up this morning, hopefully it will again tomorrow. I never used to get sore boobs, but they got really painful when I got pregnant, then every cycle since then, a day or so after AF, they are killing, that then lasts all the way up to the next AF. One thing is that once I finally Ov, my LP is pretty normal, so I still get the TWW like everyone else, its just the bit before Ov that I'm not sure about.

Well, my Fertili Tea arrived yesterday, any suggestions on when I should start taking it? I opened the packet and you can really smell the mint. It seems to be cut up quite small, so I hope it won't come out of the infuser.

Coy, Your belly must be so comfy, I really thought it sounded like you would have had buba way before now, I can't believe she's holding on so long. When is your next doc visit?

I got the date through for my ultrasound, its the 27th, so plenty of time to know if this was a successful cycle before going. I have the blood test on Monday, I'll ask them then if they know what its checking for. I don't think they will though as they just take the blood, label them up and send them off. I think I was just so happy that my doc was going to do something that I didn't think to ask him what they would be testing for. :doh:

Everyone else, Hope you are all doing well.

Terri - You could go ahead and start drinking the FertiliTea. Since you O'd, I would stop drinking it once you get a possible implantation dip. If you don't get your BFP, then start taking it the first day of AF. I would drink 3 cups a day. I think it should be fine in your infuser. If you have any tea bits in your tea, you could run it through a coffee filter. Fx'd that you caught the egg this month, though.

 

[alicatt]

Terri - You could go ahead and start drinking the FertiliTea. Since you O'd, I would stop drinking it once you get a possible implantation dip. If you don't get your BFP, then start taking it the first day of AF. I would drink 3 cups a day. I think it should be fine in your infuser. If you have any tea bits in your tea, you could run it through a coffee filter. Fx'd that you caught the egg this month, though.

Really? I was going to suggest that she wait until after this cycle. Maybe I'm not sure what the FertiliTea does? If it is supposed to help regulate the cycle then its the period between when you get your period and you Ovu that you are trying to regulate, so I would wait until you know whether this current cycle worked or not. Then start it. (that is based on the assumption that its supposed to help regulate the cycle). If it is supposed to improve your CM and implantation, then yes, I'd take it now until you get an implantation dip or until you get a BFP!!!

 

[twotogo]

AFM- wow, Kat slept ALL NIGHT LONG and didn't wake up even once And wouldn't you know it I had to wake up and go check them at least 3 times Then I had very vivid nightmares all night which kept waking me up. I did have some sharp contraction-like pains though which got me all hopeful!.......Then they went away

.........................lol! Here I was apprehensive about labor pain- now by delaying it I am all wanting it to happen!

It rained all night so I lit the fireplace this morning. Then I made coffee, made breakfast, let the dog out, lysoled the kitchen and laundry room, bathed the girls and washed their hair, now I am wondering what to do with myself ...

Wanna come clean my house?? LOL. It is a bit of a mess. I am going to have to work on it tonight. Maybe doing more work will shake babes loose?

I think I will start stimming around 11/24, so another 5 weeks?

O my gosh only another 5 weeks?! Time flies, huh! What is your first regiment with the stimming? I hope you can get this crazy flu out of your system in the next day or so and get rested up properly. COme clean oyur house? Obviously you haven't seen MY house I didn't say I cleaned only that I Lysoled Oh, but I guess I did clean the tub and sink and toilet....and yes I swept...but no deep cleaning for me lol! I would love to have that all done

Maybe today I can do some of that since it is rainy out. I have to help T build a bunch of crap for her science projects YUK lol! I am not feeling very creative today. Anybody wanna do science??Plus I have Kat who is severely jealous of T's school so every time I sit down to teach T Kat throws a big fit and demands my attention Makes me want to give in and throw some candy and a movie at them and go take a nap But that would be being a bad mom lol!

Ooohhhh, science projects! Love them. What is she doing? What curriculum are you using?

About dingbat.... no, you shouldn't have to be nice and call him back. Why is he so concerned about when you have babes anyway? I kind of find that very odd.

AFM - I have another interview tomorrow at 10:30. It's the third interview for the job, so I'm feeling pretty good about my chances.
I'm feeling a bit better. Still have a headache, but it's no longer migraine status.

 

[alicatt]

Ooohhhh, science projects! Love them. What is she doing? What curriculum are you using?

About dingbat.... no, you shouldn't have to be nice and call him back. Why is he so concerned about when you have babes anyway? I kind of find that very odd.

AFM - I have another interview tomorrow at 10:30. It's the third interview for the job, so I'm feeling pretty good about my chances.
I'm feeling a bit better. Still have a headache, but it's no longer migraine status.

Oh ya, dingbat needs to go take a hike! Talk about creepy people!

TwoToGo.. best of luck on your interview tomorrow! I wonder if your migraine is caused by stress? I get them on occasion, usually they are caused by stress, hormones, or weather fronts. Sometimes its food related, but that doesn't happen as often for me. The worst is when stress, hormones AND weather all happen at once! OMG, that is horrible.
I hope you feel better soon.. migraines are horrible.

 

[twotogo]

Ooohhhh, science projects! Love them. What is she doing? What curriculum are you using?

About dingbat.... no, you shouldn't have to be nice and call him back. Why is he so concerned about when you have babes anyway? I kind of find that very odd.

AFM - I have another interview tomorrow at 10:30. It's the third interview for the job, so I'm feeling pretty good about my chances.
I'm feeling a bit better. Still have a headache, but it's no longer migraine status.

Oh ya, dingbat needs to go take a hike! Talk about creepy people!

TwoToGo.. best of luck on your interview tomorrow! I wonder if your migraine is caused by stress? I get them on occasion, usually they are caused by stress, hormones, or weather fronts. Sometimes its food related, but that doesn't happen as often for me. The worst is when stress, hormones AND weather all happen at once! OMG, that is horrible.
I hope you feel better soon.. migraines are horrible.

Thanks, Ali. Unfortunately, I think my migraines are due to mold in our house. This parsonage sat empty for 9 years because the previous pastor owned his own home. It was not well maintained during that time, and the roof leaked. We used to put buckets on top of the stove, in the dining room, and in the living room because water would pour in when it rained. Fortunately, the roof has now been replaced. You wouldn't believe the mold that is in the attic and ceiling tiles! The church does not have the money to fix the problem at this point, but it really does need to be taken care of soon.

 

[alicatt]

Ooohhhh, science projects! Love them. What is she doing? What curriculum are you using?

About dingbat.... no, you shouldn't have to be nice and call him back. Why is he so concerned about when you have babes anyway? I kind of find that very odd.

AFM - I have another interview tomorrow at 10:30. It's the third interview for the job, so I'm feeling pretty good about my chances.
I'm feeling a bit better. Still have a headache, but it's no longer migraine status.

Oh ya, dingbat needs to go take a hike! Talk about creepy people!

TwoToGo.. best of luck on your interview tomorrow! I wonder if your migraine is caused by stress? I get them on occasion, usually they are caused by stress, hormones, or weather fronts. Sometimes its food related, but that doesn't happen as often for me. The worst is when stress, hormones AND weather all happen at once! OMG, that is horrible.
I hope you feel better soon.. migraines are horrible.

Thanks, Ali. Unfortunately, I think my migraines are due to mold in our house. This parsonage sat empty for 9 years because the previous pastor owned his own home. It was not well maintained during that time, and the roof leaked. We used to put buckets on top of the stove, in the dining room, and in the living room because water would pour in when it rained. Fortunately, the roof has now been replaced. You wouldn't believe the mold that is in the attic and ceiling tiles! The church does not have the money to fix the problem at this point, but it really does need to be taken care of soon.

YIKES! Yes I'm sure mold would do it! I am allergic to mold too. I hope its not the toxic kind? Do you know if it is? Well I hope you get better, and get your mold issue fixed too!

 

[Grey Eyes]

hi ladies

Ali- I kind of was on the same track as you are about the tea...I thought Terri should wait too as I am not sure what all is in it? And in a few days she'll know yes or know on her bfp, so....If it were me I'd wait Re: ID disclosure on sperm donor. Since you were adopted I think you come from a place to know more about it than any one else. Did oyu have a desire to know who your biological parents were? What they looked like? I know my dh's dad died when he was only 10 years old and he can barely remember what he looked like...it really bothers him and his mom didn't save any photo's so he has no way of knowing. So yeah, in a way I think if I was a child who's dad was a donor I'd want to know, iykwim? Maybe just to keep that option open. But if it's a matter of cost and it comes between you and getting a bfp- it doesn't matter. This baby(s) will be a whole new life and you'll be a mother! That's the REALLY important stuff!

 

[alicatt]

hi ladies

Ali- I kind of was on the same track as you are about the tea...I thought Terri should wait too as I am not sure what all is in it? And in a few days she'll know yes or know on her bfp, so....If it were me I'd wait Re: ID disclosure on sperm donor. Since you were adopted I think you come from a place to know more about it than any one else. Did oyu have a desire to know who your biological parents were? What they looked like? I know my dh's dad died when he was only 10 years old and he can barely remember what he looked like...it really bothers him and his mom didn't save any photo's so he has no way of knowing. So yeah, in a way I think if I was a child who's dad was a donor I'd want to know, iykwim? Maybe just to keep that option open. But if it's a matter of cost and it comes between you and getting a bfp- it doesn't matter. This baby(s) will be a whole new life and you'll be a mother! That's the REALLY important stuff!

I think my issue is that I am having trouble finding a donor that has open ID, so I'm wondering if I should look at anonymous ones. The cost is a little higher for open ID, but its not much, like $50 more. I would prefer to have an open ID, simply because I do think that my child(ren) will want to have the option to know who he is, and what he looks like. As an adopted child, I do wonder about my birth parents, but my Mom (and Dad) are awesome, and I haven't looked because I was worried it would hurt them. It still doesn't stop me from wondering though!

 

[Grey Eyes]

So not too much extra for ID then, but fromt he perspective you have painted- a loving home really is key and that's what really matters. So I guess what I would advise is: get ID if you can but the ultimately important thing is quality sperm Don't sacrifice any bit of quality for ID And try not to stress too much about it .... Something is telling me the cough syrup has already whisked you away (for a few hours) Aargh, I wish I had something that could make me sleep that good

Dh is now comparing this pregnancy to when I was prego with Kat....that sounds ominous on the front of time, lol, I hope Aeryn doesn't decide to snuggle int here for another two weeks but I guess we'll find out! Tomorrow is my appointment, I wonder if doc will do another cervical exam?

 

[alicatt]

So not too much extra for ID then, but fromt he perspective you have painted- a loving home really is key and that's what really matters. So I guess what I would advise is: get ID if you can but the ultimately important thing is quality sperm Don't sacrifice any bit of quality for ID And try not to stress too much about it .... Something is telling me the cough syrup has already whisked you away (for a few hours) Aargh, I wish I had something that could make me sleep that good

Dh is now comparing this pregnancy to when I was prego with Kat....that sounds ominous on the front of time, lol, I hope Aeryn doesn't decide to snuggle int here for another two weeks but I guess we'll find out! Tomorrow is my appointment, I wonder if doc will do another cervical exam?

I'm still awake.. barely.. yes your insight makes a lot of sense!

Come on babes! Hurry up! Do not settle in like Kat did! Nooooo!!! I hope your Dr Apt goes well and babes is finally ready to make her appearance!

 

[twotogo]

Terri - You could go ahead and start drinking the FertiliTea. Since you O'd, I would stop drinking it once you get a possible implantation dip. If you don't get your BFP, then start taking it the first day of AF. I would drink 3 cups a day. I think it should be fine in your infuser. If you have any tea bits in your tea, you could run it through a coffee filter. Fx'd that you caught the egg this month, though.

Really? I was going to suggest that she wait until after this cycle. Maybe I'm not sure what the FertiliTea does? If it is supposed to help regulate the cycle then its the period between when you get your period and you Ovu that you are trying to regulate, so I would wait until you know whether this current cycle worked or not. Then start it. (that is based on the assumption that its supposed to help regulate the cycle). If it is supposed to improve your CM and implantation, then yes, I'd take it now until you get an implantation dip or until you get a BFP!!!

If it just had vitex in it, then I would wait, but it also has herbs in it to help tone and strengthen the uterus and cervix, so that's why I would go ahead and drink it a for a few days until the implantation dip. Anything to help.