Well here i am i guess :(

[sam#3]

I think i need to face facts thats its def over for me and OH. Its been 4 weeks since he left and since then its been so up and down and up and down its been torture.
One day im in tears constantly then we will have a good talk and ill be on cloud 9 for a day then something will happen and im back down again......... its literally been like this everyday since he left and i cant take much more.

Today/tonight things have turned really nasty again and i think i really need to try and gain some strength from somewhere and realise this is doing more harm than good. I cant keep begging him to love me.

Its my scan tomo morning and as it stands ive got no idea if he is going to bother turning up or not.

Sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I hate that this is happening when i need him the most

 

[Rhio92]

Stay strong hun x

 

[lal]

In my experience, ending the up and down was waaaay better, even though it was hard.

 

[xJG30]

 

[jen1604]

I agree that it's better to be on your own than do all that arguing up and down nasty stuff.

I know being a single parent must seem like the hardest thing in the world but it's really not.

Hope your scan goes well xxxx

 

[Sweet_Mama]

I just wanted to offer a big hug. I've been where you are with my first born. It does get better, I promise. As the others have said, it is much easier once you stop with the up and down of it all. I eventually learned that and when my DS was 3 found a wonderful man who I've now been married to for nearly 13 years and we are expecting our 3rd daughter together (that's baby 4 for me). You can do it.

PS. My DH is from Northampton as is most of his huge family, lol, though I am American and we now live in California.

 

[mamashakesit]

That sounds like my entire pregnancy! Elated when he was speaking to me, miserable and sad when he wasn't. I had every excuse in the book for him. His childhood was awful, he'd be a great father when LO arrived, he's scared of finally having the family he's wanted all his life...blah freaking blah!

Save yourself a lot of stress and pain and anguish NOW. Cut ties, unless you feel it necessary to inform him of Dr. appointments or childbirth classes, etc. If he doesn't make the time and put in the effort for any of that, he won't put in the time and effort of being a parent. If he can't treat you, the mother of his child, with respect and dignity then you are better off not talking to him, seeing him, etc. It's very hard, but worth it in the end.

Please trust me on this...I didn't do it because I thought he had special circumstances and the only thing it did was bring me and my child waaaayyy more stress and way more pain and humiliation then anyone - especially a pregnant woman - should go through...and I don't think I will ever, ever get over it. It wasn't just cruel, it was TRAUMATIZING.

 

[himandi89]

im basically going thru the same thing hun... IF you ever need to share to vent or whatever we can vent together .. ha.ha.

 

[MelanieSweets]

hey sweetie,

also going through this we have been up and down for months and I have one little one only problem is ... I am pregnant with no2 and we've called it a day but doesnt stop me feeling angry cause he isnt here with me supporting me .... we are both pretty confused so def taking some time out away frm each other is the best thing its all a bit raw if I am honest.

If you need to chat please feel free to PM me x

 

[Mumof42009]

Stay strong hun xx