What a friggin waste of time that weekend trip was

[Shadowy Lady]

eeeek I would not be visiting again The drinking and making noise is especially annoying

I hate when ppl judge my parenting styles. I get comments all the time on how early I put Sofia to bed (she's asleep by 7:30 pm, wakes up at 6:30 am). If she goes to sleep any later, she will be cranky and overtired.

 

[pinklightbulb]

Omg your MIL is a first-class flogstain, you poor thing! Sorry your weekend sucked

 

[Tasha]

Just awful. She is the one missing out though x

 

[ChimChims]

What an awful thing! Thank goodness you have the wits to be a different (read that better) influence in their lives. You're grandbabies will be very blessed!

 

[Larkspur]

Urrrgh, she sounds like a proper pain in the ass.

Next time she starts up with the posting of photos, you could start making sweet little comments on them like, "Aw, nice pic of Philippe! Hope you can find time to visit soon!" or "The kids say 'Hi', Grandma! They'd love to see you again one day!"

 

[onetwothreebp]

That sounds like a horrible weekend Thank God she lives far away and you only have to see her once a year!

That's horrible that she puts them all over Facebook though, it's like she is using them for attention for herself and that's just really unsettling as the parent. My mother does that a bit, she likes to brag about Asher but when she's with him, she's never happy with his behaviour, regardless of what he does.

 

[Snow Owl]

Omg I know this!!

We see her every few weeks but she's the 'perfect grandma' until he cries, needs a feed or needs a clean nappy. Then she passes him straight back. Then the complaining that at 7 he's tired and falls to sleep, when we don't get there till 7. So normally he's down for the night when we arrive.

Then she sulks and stomps around the house slamming doors and shouting. It's obvious she hopes to wake him. She did once and as soon as we'd calmed him down she appeared and said 'now he's awake I can play'. Uhhh no you can't.

But at our engagement party she refused to put him down and played the doting grandma to her friends. She actually twice took him off people saying she needed him meaning my cousins only saw him across the room. My friends / family didn't want to make a big deal of it so didn't mention it till after. But she actually snatched him from one friend and said 'who are you? Just a silly friend, I'm his grandma' and walked off!?

 

[aliss]

We're boring because we do not adhere to the French stereotype of sitting around drinking wine all day and having luxury dinner parties into the night. My French kids throw food, apparently. It's a case of someone with agoraphobia (and I mean that genuinely) losing touch with reality after 10 years of not leaving the house and forgetting what non-retired people who have kids and work have to live like. She only saw her niece once because they refused to go back too.

 

[twobecome3]

ugh



didn't you guys move there so MIL could be involved with LO's?

my grandpa does the showoff thing too. I send him updates and pics of LO and no response. I wasn't even sure if he was getting them as he uses his wifes (not my grandma) email. my mum visited him recently and said all he can talk about it my LO! he's printed off pictures and shows them to random ppl like grocery clerks has never even met LO tho and certainly could at any time, money is not an issue for him to travel here at a moments notice.

arghhhh family....

 

[twobecome3]

another vent along the same lines (thread hijack alert )

my aunts been on and on about coming to see LO. first she was going to come stay with me for a week when LO was born. then that kept getting pushed back because she had things come up. finally she came down to visit for this past week and decided to stay at my moms instead fine, an hourish a way, no biggie, they planned to come up for several day visits. they only ended up coming up twice, both times at like 4 in the afternoon, which is circa LOs bedtime and her fussytime, and they stayed for about an hour. WHAT THE FUCK. the whole point of my aunts trip was to hang out with my LO but my stupid mom took the reigns and filled her trip up with dumb plans that didn't involve us (like spending a day teaching her how to crochet? REALLY??)

PISSED. cant figure out why my mum cockblocked the visiting. mebbe jealous gramma syndrome?? when she comes up by herself she stays the day and holds LO the whole time.

 

[july2013]

Wow! Your MIL sounds like a proper pain in the @ss. I wouldn't bother visiting again! I feel sorry for any of you who have family like this! Hopefully I won't have to deal with anything of the sorts... hopefully.

 

[AngelofTroy]

Urrrgh, she sounds like a proper pain in the ass.
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Next time she starts up with the posting of photos, you could start making sweet little comments on them like, "Aw, nice pic of Philippe! Hope you can find time to visit soon!" or "The kids say 'Hi', Grandma! They'd love to see you again one day!"

Definitely do this!!!!! I bet you're so glad to be home! Xx

 

[Indigo77]

That sucks...

So sorry...

 

[Bevziibubble]

That sounds like a nightmare! I wouldn't bother making all that effort for your mil in future if she's going to make things so difficult when you're there!

 

[aliss]

Believe me I wouldn't be going if it didn't cause a domestic dispute everytime with my OH!! If he got hit by a bus tomorrow, I'd never be back!

 

[Amy2701]

I never understand MILs who don't adore their grandkids. My mum is so close to our kids.. But my MIL has met Lily about 3 times in her whole life, and she has yet to meet Connor. Oh yeah, feel I should add... She lives about 15 minutes away from us!! X