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I just went through a loss at 29 weeks and 1 day on November 23, 2016 and ive heard so many of those lines plus some. Does make it hurt alot worse. Id rather silence, a hug or simply say im sorry for i dont know what your going through, or what a few have said to me.. "Ive never had your loss, for there are no words to say."
This has been very hard to cope with. I just dont know... i know nothing anymore.
I am sorry for your loss. Life is very cruel and unfair. I'm glad blue pointed you into the direction of the stillbirth and neonatal loss section, there and SANDS forum are the place that I couldn't have got through my first stillbirth without (I have had two and sixteen miscarriages but already had the support I needed for the second and miscarriages). Almost a decade on and they're still my closest friends. Surround yourself with people who "get it", no explanation needed.
There are support groups on Facebook too. SANDS also offer face to face support groups and a phone line. The hospital may have one too and a service at this time of year too.
Also I am here to talk to, as someone who has been there. Just message me any time xx