AerisandAlex
Mommy to 3!!
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I love my OBGYN, she's a great Dr, but she's so cold.... I remember when I had the MMC, I refused to do anything to end the pregnancy even when she tried to convince me the baby was gone... she even walked into the office at one point and said 'The sac hasn't grown so it's not viable.' I argued with her for a short second that the Hospital did in fact find a fetus in the gestational sac and she countered with 'Oh, yes I see it here on the chart, but there's no heartbeat so it's not viable.'
No, "I'm sorry for your loss' not a single comforting word... I know she's just doing her job but sometimes I feel like I have no business even TTC because of my OB's reactions to it...
Even when I found out I was pregnant with DD, my OB then (a different Dr) shook his head at me and told me I should have abstained after my D&E to avoid getting pregnant at all!
I was thrilled to have the chance to have a child, but my age at the time (19) and being in college made them treat me like a child...
I've tried, nicely, to tell my current OB that we're trying again, but she seems to have no interest in helping us TTC! She won't even look into why it takes us soooo long to TTC! I practically had to beg for her to do an ultrasound to see if she saw something wrong with my ovaries when I was having a lot of lower abdominal pain. She's been my doctor since I was a young teen, so I'm a little afraid of changing but I don't feel like anything's going to change with her and I'm almost even ashamed to talk to her about anything!
Just, ugh! So irritated right now, and could really use some advice, I mean, I feel like the only answers I get are from you ladies right here, doctors seem to do nothing for me! I mean, after a year of TTC, aren't doctors supposed to help you look further into why you aren't getting pregnant?
Also, will changing OBs even change their bias towards me and DH? Our financial status isn't the best and I swear my doctor is thinking of that based on the insurance that I have... I mean, the insurance pretty much gives away that I'm not even close to the middle class... but I'm not a child, I understand what it means to have a child, to take care of them, I have 2 already! I understand what adding a 3rd child would do, why do my docs have to be so mean? So irritating!
No, "I'm sorry for your loss' not a single comforting word... I know she's just doing her job but sometimes I feel like I have no business even TTC because of my OB's reactions to it...
Even when I found out I was pregnant with DD, my OB then (a different Dr) shook his head at me and told me I should have abstained after my D&E to avoid getting pregnant at all!
I was thrilled to have the chance to have a child, but my age at the time (19) and being in college made them treat me like a child...
I've tried, nicely, to tell my current OB that we're trying again, but she seems to have no interest in helping us TTC! She won't even look into why it takes us soooo long to TTC! I practically had to beg for her to do an ultrasound to see if she saw something wrong with my ovaries when I was having a lot of lower abdominal pain. She's been my doctor since I was a young teen, so I'm a little afraid of changing but I don't feel like anything's going to change with her and I'm almost even ashamed to talk to her about anything!
Just, ugh! So irritated right now, and could really use some advice, I mean, I feel like the only answers I get are from you ladies right here, doctors seem to do nothing for me! I mean, after a year of TTC, aren't doctors supposed to help you look further into why you aren't getting pregnant?
Also, will changing OBs even change their bias towards me and DH? Our financial status isn't the best and I swear my doctor is thinking of that based on the insurance that I have... I mean, the insurance pretty much gives away that I'm not even close to the middle class... but I'm not a child, I understand what it means to have a child, to take care of them, I have 2 already! I understand what adding a 3rd child would do, why do my docs have to be so mean? So irritating!