What should I expect?

[Lazy Leo]

I started bleeding and cramping today, red blood which is getting thicker as the day goes on. The EPAU won't see me till Friday.

I'm 99% sure I'm miscarrying my baby, but I don't know what to expect. Will it be really painful, or just like a period? Will I bleed heavily, or just in my underwear? I am picking my hubby up at the airport tomorrow, will I be able to drive? (assuming I stop crying long enough!)

I'm only around 6 weeks, so I'm presuming I won't need any medical intervention.

Sorry, this is just a list of questions really, but my head's not in a very good place at the moment x

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry you are going through this and have to wait until you know for sure what is happening.

I had a 'completed' miscarriage at 9 weeks. I started having brown discharge of which got heavier through the day. I did not start having red bleeding until the next day. I then started getting cramps that same evening. By early morning the following day, I had very heavy bleeding (like a very heavy period), with very bad cramping. The cramps continued until early morning when they subsided. I then had more heavy bleeding until I passed everything. I took some pain killers when the cramps were in full force. By that time, I was in the bath and this was the only thing that actually helped with the pain.

I was not told what to expect when I went to A&E and could not get scanned until the following week by which time, the miscarriage had finished.

My heart goes out to you my darling and if this is a miscarriage, I can only offer you virtual sympathy and hugs.

Take very special care of yourself.

 

[Lazy Leo]

Thank you

 

[miel]

anybody close to you Nick who could come to be with you ? i wish i could be at your side right now....taking care of you

 

[Pyrrhic]

Oh God Nic I am so sorry, I nearly cried reading your post I was so hoping that this was a sticky bean for you.

When I had my miscarriage it was red blood straight away, but I never had any cramps. Unfortunately I had a very bad experience, so I won't go into details.

Thinking of you and your OH and praying everything is ok.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Sorry to hear this sweetie. Do you not have anyone else who can come and be with you?

 

[Lucy_lu_84]

Firstly *big hugs* Sorry that you're going thru this!

I started bleeding on a tuesday ...and then I miscarried fully on the thursday. I had no idea what to expcet- A&E ahd been completely unhelped. I Bled very heavily...like literally I soaked a pad in seconds! Was bleeding like this for an hour (dunno if this is normal) and I was getting realy bad cramps! ibrufen, and a hot water bottle helped to ease them!
Two weeks later and i am still bleeding very slightly!

Dunno how normal an eperience this is - but I thought I would share anyway!

Have you got someone who can come and be with you?! *hugs*

 

[Suz]

 

[Faerie]

Oh Nic darling! I am so sorry and my heart goes out to you.

When I've had early mcs it's been like a really bad period, you might need to change the pad quite regularly and the cramping can be really very painful, I'm not sure I would recommend driving, either from the physical or emotional side. In my experience it tends to get lighter after a day or two, but you can carry on bleeding for a long time, I've had an injection to stop it before.

Once again Nic I'm so so sorry, pm me if you want to talk, big hugs chick xxxxx

 

[NikiJJones]

Hi Nic,
So sorry about all of this. I've just been through it, and it was all awful. Everyone on here has been so supportive though, and it has really helped me start to get over it.
My LO was dead at 6 weeks and I bled at 7 weeks. It started with spotting but by the second day was really heavy and painful. I didn't try to drive, but wouldn't have managed it I think. Be careful if you do have to drive, or get someone to go with you. I was in a lot of pain for a couple of days until I passed the egg sack. Flow was really heavy, especially when I went to the loo. After these two days it was lighter, but still worse than a normal AF. Passing the egg sack was emotionally awful, but the emotional healing started after that I would say.
I'm thinking of you, and we are all here for you anytime.
, and more
xxxx

 

[SwissMiss]

Ah Nic, I was hoping to find better news from you this morning. I'm really so sorry hon. I do know how you feel, its horrible. I m/c REALLY early - just past 5 weeks, so I'm not sure my experience applies to you...
However... I had brown spotting for 5 or 6 days (started on a Tuesday) and the first red blood was the following Monday. Cramps were actually worse with the spotting than the red blood, once I was actually doubled over, it was as if someone stuck a needle in my side... but my bleeding wasn't heavy at all (like a slightly heavier af) but VERY clotty. I also did feel/see the sac cry and I bled for... maybe 4 days and spotted for another 3 and that was that... AF took 35 days to come again...
I so wish I could get to you Nic. You shouldn't be alone...

 

[jacky24]

Im so sorry for your the pain and sadness you are feeling right now.

 

[Lazy Leo]

Hi girls, thanks for the information. It helps to know what lies ahead.

I could call my mum or gran but I don't really want to worry or upset them. My mum's at work and my gran is such a terrible worrier at the best of times. Oddly enough they've both been smothering the last two days - do I need help with this that and the other. We are all extremely close so it wouldn't surprise me if they knew.

My husband will be home in a few hours now so I won't be alone. I'm lying in bed using the logic that if I don't get up the baby will stick. Crazy logic but its keeping me sane at the moment.

I'll take another hpt on Fri but until then Im hoping and praying that Applepip can survive this bleed and cramping. Although realistically I know its not likely

 

[tillymum]

Hi Nic, my heart is going out to you right now. You should phone your mum or gran it is such a stressful and upsetting experience you should not be going through this on your own.

I am hoping that your LO will survive

 

[em1]

Hi

I'm currently going through the same so I feel for you.

I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago, then a week later I started to spot brown blood. I got an early scan booked as I was quite concerned but 2 days before I was due to go the bleeding got worse. I has no pain what so ever but went straight to A&E. They sent me home and told me i'd have to wait for the scan. The next morning the bleeding got worse (still no physical pain) so I went back to the hospital. They gave me a scan but unfortunely I was told that although they could see something they were unsure as to what it was (I was told it could be either the sac or a blood clot). I am now having to wait until next monday for another scan. The bleeding has since slowed down but I have come to excepted that I have most likely miscarried. (My pregnancy symptoms were there one day and gone the next so I know myself it's not good news).
The emotional pain has got easier each day but the wait to be given a definate answer is agonising.

I am finding it a great help being on this forum.

 

[owo]

So Sorry you are going through this. I suffered a miscarriage 4 weeks ago.
You could try seeing your GP and get them to refer you for a scan. It might speed the scan up, so you'll know earlier. I saw my GP one day and got a scan for the next morning. I was ten weeks and was told that my LO stopped growing at 6. I started bleeding quite a lot of brown blood on the Tuesday and then Wednesday Morning it was loads of red blood. It was just like a period accompanied by cramps. They were no worse than AF cramps. The Thursday morning i had my scan and then the Sunday morning i passed the sac. It didn't really hurt, i just felt a lot of pressure like you do when you need a bowel movement. I had lots of heavy bleeding for a day after i passed the sac and then it tappered off to spotting and had stopped after a couple of days. I then had a second scan a week after my first one to check i had passed everything.
no matter what happens we are all here for you. Don't be on your own, call your Mum or Nan they would want to know and it helps to have someone with you.
Take Care
xx

 

[NikiJJones]

Nic,
I worried about telling my Mum and Gran for exactly those reasons, but once the hospital confirmed that my LO was gone, I told them, and they have been great. My Mum was upset, but I don't know what I'd have done without her this last few weeks. My Granny surprised us by sharing that she went through exactly this before she had my Mum, and she has been such a support to me. I've found that all the hugs and support from both of them have been so invaluable, but I did worry so much initially about how they would react.
Thinking of you loads, and sending more hugs.
xxxx

 

[em1]

I also felt worried about telling my family. I had told them the week before that I was pregnant and then the following week had to tell them that there was a very high chance that I was miscarrying.

I knew that my mum had had a miscarriage and an eptopic pregnancy before having me but had never really spoken about it much until now. She has been so supportive over the past couple of weeks and she knows exactly how I am feeling. She's always there when I need a chat which really helps. It's definatley what you need right now.

 

[Farie]

Nic, thinking of you honey

 

[Omi]

Oh, Monkey!

I hope your hubby is there with you now giving you some well deserved cuddles..someone who understand how you feel and will help you through this- if it really is the worst case scenario.

I hope not, and keep on keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you. I wont give up hoping until you tell me to!!

Omi xxx