What Would You Do If Your OH ...

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  1. peanutsmommy

    peanutsmommy Mommii Of 1 & Fiance

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    My OH Has Gone Out Tonite We Agreed That He Be Home By 2am It Is Now 3am And His Phone Is Off This Would Be Ok If It Happened Once Or Twice But This Is About The 4th Time I Live In Los Angeles And He Said He Was Going To A Bar All The Bars Close At 2am So He Should Have Been Home By Now What Would You Do Ladies
     
  2. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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    i defo tell him exactley how i he was making me feel etc, there no need for it hun, especially as u cant even get hold of him on his mobile !!!! xx

    sry ur going thro this x
     
  3. cheeselover

    cheeselover Guest

    Kick him in the goolies until he cried...
     
  4. Nibblenic

    Nibblenic Well-Known Member

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    Yep this option!

    Or lock the door and leave the keys in it or something so he cant get back in. then dont answer it.
    But i supose if hes done it before he probs thinks its okay to keep doing it
     
  5. peanutsmommy

    peanutsmommy Mommii Of 1 & Fiance

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    I Keep telling Him Im Going To Leave If He Doesnt Stop But I Think He Feels Like Its Just A Big Joke ... Im Feeling That Maybe I Need To Make My Words His Reality Do You Think That Would Be An Appropriate Next Step
     
  6. craftymum

    craftymum Mum to Jacob and Jenna

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    I'd be furious too especially as it's not the first time. How far on are you? Leaving you unable to contact him while you are pregnant really isn't on. You definitely need to confront him about it as this stress isn't doing you or your baby any good :hug:
     
  7. babystar

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    lock the door. i have done this many times. My OH had alcohol problems when I was having my 1st. There were many nights like that in a week and eventually I ended up locking him out. And not answering the door all night.

    :hugs:
     
  8. peanutsmommy

    peanutsmommy Mommii Of 1 & Fiance

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    Im 7 1/2 Months & The Thing That Bothers Me The Most Is That I Have Complications Also I Get Worried Stressed & Mad And I Cant Sleep Because I Have No Idea Whats Going On
     
  9. Lucy_lu_84

    Lucy_lu_84 Pregnant with #2

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    I agree with the locking the door! Will teach him a lesson

    You need to have serious words with him though...don't shout or get mad, just tell him how your feel and thatis unacceptable not being able to contact him while you are pregnant. Make him realise you are serious and that he needs to change hi actions or you will take some action of your own!

    Hope you sort it out
     
  10. MelanieSweets

    MelanieSweets Well-Known Member

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    Hey huni, first of all soon as he is back i would confront him ask him what he has been doing ... and you said you would be back at 2am, if he sees it as a big joke then just say well its not a joke to me and i have given you plenty of chances, is there somewhere you could stay for a few days? i would pack some stuff and get away from it, it may make him realise he needs to buck his ideas up what do you think? xx
     
  11. Nibblenic

    Nibblenic Well-Known Member

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    I always think threatening men is similar to threatening toddlers, you should only threaten things you will actually do

    Ur not gonna leave over him coming in late so he wont take it seriously, but you know locking the door is something that could be a reality or well im not condoning violence, but you know!
     
  12. leighbaby

    leighbaby yummy mummy

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    I agree with kicking him in the goolies. My OH did the same thing last night to me. He went on a stag do, text me at 7pm to tell me he had a head ache (I replied of course - a nice text) then I text him when I was going to bed and got no texts back... nothing till he rolls home at 11 this morning. His excuse - 'I didn't want to wake you' Like I don't get up a million times to wee at night and check my phone!! I've told him he is having 12 hours of silence from me and see how he likes it!

    Goolie kicking AND locking out!
     
  13. peanutsmommy

    peanutsmommy Mommii Of 1 & Fiance

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    I Think Leaving Him Is My Next Step With This He hasnt Been The Most Pleasant Durning My Pregnancy And He's Actually Taken The Joy Out Of It Somewhat
     
  14. MelanieSweets

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    If you feel you are better off leaving then do so, theres nothing you cant do on your own you need to think about you and the baby, the baby should be highest priority and he should be thinking of the baby too and he obviously isnt x i hope you make the right decision let us know what you do x :hugs:
     
  15. Babydance

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    If it were me in this situation, i would pack a few things and go and stay with family friends etc for a week or more. If you feel better not having him in your life during that time apart then i think that answers your question. But hunny youre pregnant you cant let yourself get stressed!! especially as you havent had an easy pregnancy! We're all here for you! xxx
     
  16. Tammi

    Tammi New Mommy

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    I ve been through all that and worse in previous relationships and I can tell you never again !

    If it was me hun, I would pack his stuff and set it ready at the door so that when he decides to come home , he knows what time it is.

    I would also have a girlfriend to stay over with you just in case he gets angry...

    No woman has to deal with sh** like that, not normal and defo not when you're pregnant !

    Good luck hun :hug:
     
  17. peanutsmommy

    peanutsmommy Mommii Of 1 & Fiance

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    ok so he comes home and i ask him where he's been he's drunk and he gets mad at me and locks himself in the bathroom now i think he's sleeping in there
     
  18. Tammi

    Tammi New Mommy

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    Time for some loud music then :happydance:
     
  19. MarshMellow

    MarshMellow Laura, Mark, Ben and Bump

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    Yeah and REFUSE to clean up and messes he makes in the process! Its all his own fault. What an idiot (and that is beng polite.)
     
  20. kaykay

    kaykay Well-Known Member

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    I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, An hour late is not too bad and he may have a good excuse.

    I wouldnt tolerate the mobile phone being off though especially as you have complications so for that reason alone I would kick him in the goonies lol..

    Listen to what he says and if it doesnt sound like a good enough excuse tell him exaclty how u feel..
     

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