steatite
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Hi All,
I'm just joining you at the very beginning of my first trimester (haha, can't believe I just typed that!!). Got my BFP on Friday at 12dpo, confirmed with multiple tests since! I'm only 4w 1day, so very early on. Holding my breath and crossing my legs in the hope the poppy seed will stick around. Due 28th April 2014!
My question is this:
I have a good friend who started trying for a baby a few months ago. So far nothing has happened for her...as far as I know. You see, this is the problem. We agreed to be TTC partners in crime, but made what I now realise is the mistake of not having a firm 'when to tell' pact between each other. We sort of talked about how and when we'd tell other people at 12 weeks, but not each other. Now I've had my BFP I don't know whether to tell her or not, and seeing as I haven't heard from her in a week (she should have found out either way last week) I worry that she might have had her BFP and is feeling the same, or had a BFN and doesn't like to ask me how I'm doing. I'd LOVE to have one girl friend to share the news with, especially as we've shared everything else, but I'm worried it will be an unnecessary stress if nothing's happening for her yet. This whole thing is further complicated by the fact that we only started trying this month and won the fertility lottery, so I don't want to rub it in her face if she's having a normal time of TTC (by which I mean, it taking a while to get there). Kind of feels like the pregnancy equivalent of survivors' guilt.
What should I do? I don't know whether to send her a general 'how are you doing' text and hope she responds, or wait for her to get in contact. Maybe she's sitting with a positive pee stick and thinking the same thing! Arrrgghhh!
What would you do?
Thanks for any advice, or sharing of experience from those in similar situations!
I'm just joining you at the very beginning of my first trimester (haha, can't believe I just typed that!!). Got my BFP on Friday at 12dpo, confirmed with multiple tests since! I'm only 4w 1day, so very early on. Holding my breath and crossing my legs in the hope the poppy seed will stick around. Due 28th April 2014!
My question is this:
I have a good friend who started trying for a baby a few months ago. So far nothing has happened for her...as far as I know. You see, this is the problem. We agreed to be TTC partners in crime, but made what I now realise is the mistake of not having a firm 'when to tell' pact between each other. We sort of talked about how and when we'd tell other people at 12 weeks, but not each other. Now I've had my BFP I don't know whether to tell her or not, and seeing as I haven't heard from her in a week (she should have found out either way last week) I worry that she might have had her BFP and is feeling the same, or had a BFN and doesn't like to ask me how I'm doing. I'd LOVE to have one girl friend to share the news with, especially as we've shared everything else, but I'm worried it will be an unnecessary stress if nothing's happening for her yet. This whole thing is further complicated by the fact that we only started trying this month and won the fertility lottery, so I don't want to rub it in her face if she's having a normal time of TTC (by which I mean, it taking a while to get there). Kind of feels like the pregnancy equivalent of survivors' guilt.
What should I do? I don't know whether to send her a general 'how are you doing' text and hope she responds, or wait for her to get in contact. Maybe she's sitting with a positive pee stick and thinking the same thing! Arrrgghhh!
What would you do?
Thanks for any advice, or sharing of experience from those in similar situations!