xpinkyperkyx
mother of 1 and pregnant!
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You're exactly like me hun.
My MIL is nice but she really annoys me when it comes to LO.
She always comes in and says "hello my baby, my/granny's little angel, my darling, my sweetpea etc. etc." I just feel like she's MINE (and OH's) not anyone else. I can see her itching to hold her when she's sleeping and when I'm feeding her she always distracts her and ruins the feed (Macy has significant reflux and a cow's milk allergy and feeds are very stressful and difficult, I'd rather do them on my own). She also tells me what to do with her, how to hold her etc. and if I'm playing with her and her t-shirt is riding up her back or something she has to come and fuss and fix it. Also how to dress her, I just want to shout "I've had her for 3 months, I know how to ****ing look after her you moron".
She also has an opinion on everything - her reflux, milk allergy, her weight gain, her immunisations, TV, weaning etc. She's MY child and I'll do things my way not hers!!
I know it's ridiculous but I can't help that it really really annoys me.
I also get jealous when MIL holds her or gets smiles from her or anything, I often wonder if she gets them easier than me lol.
Weirdly, I don't feel this way about my own Mum at all and I love seeing my Mum giving Macy cuddles and playing with her :-S
I find myself getting really defensive and not wanting her involved which I know is unfair.
this was exactly what hwppened/how i felt when molly was born-soooo hard to keep my mouth shut!! our problem was that we only had tiny house and DH has 4 children that we have every weekend so had to go to MIL's as not enough room at ours so she was always poking her bloody nose it and over-riding us when we saif the kids had to fininsh meals or weren't allowed to have a second choc bar-just little things but it drove me crazy!
in the end i got DH to have a word with her to back of and she did for a while, but then she started on at me once molls was around 4 months becuase she kept sucking her fists-MIL would say 'ah you're starving that poor little mite' or 'give her some water love' or she much be hungry lookat her sucking her hands.' and i was like 'no, she's just fed an hour ago, she's playing!'
now we have charlie it's stareted again, i feel like of she makes one more comment about feeding i'm gonna scream#! for gods sake i work in a nursery with babies and i have 2 children i know how to look after them!!!!
so you're not alone and thank god for forums like this where we can all rant and scream together! x