When did you tell others?

[BlueWater]

So how far along were you when told family / friends that you were pregnant?
Did you have a reason for it?


I know people who tell others straight away and then those who wait until the 12 week scan.

 

[krissie328]

My mom was at 4 weeks, my sister 6 and I have a close couple friends I told at 7 weeks.

Everyone else was after the 12 week scan.

I've had early losses and felt it was important to have a support system. The later people were those that either wouldn't be supportive or I'm not as close to.

 

[Bonnie11]

Totally up to you. We told close family and close couple of friends at 8 weeks, rest of family and few more friends at 13 and rest of the world at 21. I've had miscarriage before and I regretted telling a couple of people that I then had to explain I had lost the baby. My rule is only tell people that you would want support from if something happened! X

 

[Kiram]

We told my family around 6-7 weeks, and then we posted the FB announcement after my first sonogram at 8 weeks once we knew everything was off to a good start.

 

[Bevziibubble]

We told family straight away but announced on Facebook to friends at 12-13 weeks after the scan

 

[JessyG]

1st - my mum as soon as i found out and my boss at 6 weeks due to being off work with bleeding. Everyone else at 16 weeks.

This time - mum at 6 weeks and everyone else after 12 week scan. Couldnt keep the bump under wraps much longer

 

[Abii]

1st: We told everyone pretty much right away, but I was already 9 weeks by the time I found out.
2nd: Waited until 12 week scan then announced with professional pictures.
3rd: Waited until 15 weeks then announced with a handmade announcement.

With this one, idk if we will announce because someone always has something to say so I would rather just avoid that entirely. Of course we will tell everyone who we feel like telling but I will probably just surprise my fb and post after the birth lol. Idk we will see. As of right now I want to wait until at least 12 weeks before we tell anyone at all.

 

[VieraSky]

I told my mom, mother in law and best friend right off the bat. For everyone else we waited for 12 weeks.

 

[george83]

Ds1 - we had a private scan done at 11 weeks and then told close family on Christmas Day, everybody else we told after our nhs scan

Ds2 - we’d not long had a miscarriage and then had more bleeding with ds2 so told close family at about 9 weeks, then everybody else after our scan

Ds3 was a surprise so told close family at about 7 weeks as we were supposed to be going on a big family holiday. We then didn’t tell many people until quite late.

I love hearing other people’s answer to this though

 

[Palladium]

With DD1 we told most people, including our families, at around 13 weeks after we got the results of the 12w scan and screening tests. But we did tell one couple (very good friends of ours) at 8 weeks because we all went on holiday together, it was Christmas/New Year and there was no way we could hide that I wasn't drinking, was avoiding certain foods and needed naps every afternoon (1st trimester fatigue hit me like a brick, especially in the Australian summer). They were sworn to secrecy until we announced to everyone else later.

With this one we told our families at around 6-7 weeks, after we'd seen a good heartbeat. My mother and sister had moved to our city when DD1 was about 9 months old, so were around regularly and knew we were trying for a second, so hiding it for long wasn't going to work, especially since I had morning sickness for this one. Then I started telling my coworkers at about 8 weeks for safety reasons because I'd been put on insulin for early onset GD. We told our other friends as we saw them after that, and did a facebook announcement after the 12w scan again.

 

[MindUtopia]

I told a close friend and my mum pretty much the day I found out. I'd had a mc the month before and they had both been a massive source of support for me going through that so I wanted them on board from the beginning again.

We started to tell close friends and family at 12 weeks after my scan. I'd had 2 scans before this though and felt pretty good about everything (which I never did with the pregnancy I mc). This one felt very different physically and emotionally, so I wasn't hesitant to tell anyone.

We announced it more widely to everyone probably around 13/14 weeks.

Mostly, I just wasn't in a hurry to tell most people. It was nice to have a few people close to me who knew who I could depend on if I needed them, but mostly if I'd had another mc, I didn't want to have to chase down everyone in the family to tell them what had happened. That worked for us.

 

[Sinclair]

Hmm, with our son we totally everyone not long after we found out. Same day.

Number two, I found out around 4 weeks and we told everyone the following week I was pregnant.

Our first pregnancy we lost at 18weeks and we waited a long time to even say anything about it. Within a months time we went from having everyone knowing and excited to finding out she had passed away.

 

[wantingagirl]

Told everyone about 13+5

 

[jessmke]

With all 4 pregnancies (first two were miscarriages) I told my best friend and sisters pretty much the same day I got my BFPs. Told my parents and inlaws whenever we happened to speak to them, I think my mom found out last both times because I don't speak to her very often. Otherwise we never did an "announcement", everyone else just found out if/when we saw them or they heard from other people, saw a pic of me with a bump, etc.

 

[fxmummyduck]

With ds we told everyone after the 12 week scan (apart from my sil who is a Dr so I wanted her to know so I could ask advice etc!)

This pregnancy we were struggling to conceive so everyone knew we were seeing a specialist and about to start treatment, so when we found out we just told everyone straight away. By everyone I mean parents, in laws, sil and sister, my bff and a friend/neighbor who was the only person living nearby who could watch my ds for appointments etc. so both very different! This time I’m not announcing on Fb, will pm friends or they’ll find out other ways. I found fb so crushing when we were ttc, so I don’t want to do that to others.

 

[laura109]

Family around five weeks and close friends as I had bleeds and sickness. Everyone else I was 12 weeks 2 days (after the scan) its good to share it early on if you feel unwell or down or simply leave key you want them to know. Obviously just limit it unless you want to shout from the rooftops lol

 

[laura109]

No idea why that says leave key my phone buts in and adds stuff sorry x

 

[Missbb2591]

We told my family pretty much straight away then the kids at about 8 weeks but that’s only coz I was being so sick. Everyone else got told after our 12 week scan.