when the "30 yo ttc#1" ladies get their bfp's

[MgreenM]

We just went to babies r us and wondered around to get an idea of what all we need. Plus, I'm trying to ease dh into this whole thing as he kind of freaked out when he started looking at things online. He's headed out of town overnight for his friend's bachelor party. That's pretty much our weekend

Reggie- Target doesn't have much in the stores, but they have a whole lot online! Also, My hubby hasn't really "freaked out" but he also hasn't taken much initiative when it comes to learning what's going on with baby/my body. It's like pulling teeth. I actually asked my MIL to have my FIL call and talk to him...he didn't get very far...I think it's hard for them because they are not going through this the same way we are. Today, I finally got DH to read a couple of articles about doulas and then he had these questions like, "You expect me to understand medical stuff? I'm supposed to be your labor coach?" I was like yes..."but your medical knowledge is so much better than mine..." I told him I might not be in a rational state of mind and would need him to make decisions...he still thinks my knowledge/understanding would be better than his! I told him, that's why we will go to childbirth classes etc!

I think we just have to be patient with them...

 

[PDReggie]

Yeah. It's actually funny, the way my dh and I work is that he looks at one expensive thing and then freaks out for like a month. Meanwhile, I will go look at all the stuff and not stress. Then when we go to buy, I will find things I love but that are really expensive and not buy them because I can't justify the cost in my head. He will have spent the month screaming about how we can't afford to have a child and will go out, like the same thing I did and buy it. I said this to one of the girls I work with on Friday. While showing her a picture of the crib set that I love. And that I wouldn't buy it because we can more things for the same amount if I get cheaper stuff that is just as durable. Then today we went to the store and without me even around him, he came up and was said I found a crib I really like. It was the exact one I was showing her. I said yes, I liked that one too, but it's too expensive. He said eh, it's fine. This from the guy who wanted to buy things used. As far as what is going on in my body, he's pretty ambivalent about it. I get it though, he can't really participate so it's hard to focus. How is everybody feeling?

 

[MgreenM]

hahaha, that's funny Reggie! I told DH today that he gets to figure out which baby monitor we register for/buy. He loves to analyze stuff, so I figure, let him do all of that work!

I was thinking...you ladies are awfully quiet...but I have a feeling it's because of how much first trimester takes out of you! I know I was on here A LOT less during my first trimester. I hope you ladies are all feeling well though!

 

[trumpetbeth]

We are only 12 weeks but I think we are going today to register. My husband teaches high school band and I am sure as soon as we tell those kids they are going to want to go buy stuff.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

Yeah. It's actually funny, the way my dh and I work is that he looks at one expensive thing and then freaks out for like a month. Meanwhile, I will go look at all the stuff and not stress. Then when we go to buy, I will find things I love but that are really expensive and not buy them because I can't justify the cost in my head. He will have spent the month screaming about how we can't afford to have a child and will go out, like the same thing I did and buy it. I said this to one of the girls I work with on Friday. While showing her a picture of the crib set that I love. And that I wouldn't buy it because we can more things for the same amount if I get cheaper stuff that is just as durable. Then today we went to the store and without me even around him, he came up and was said I found a crib I really like. It was the exact one I was showing her. I said yes, I liked that one too, but it's too expensive. He said eh, it's fine. This from the guy who wanted to buy things used. As far as what is going on in my body, he's pretty ambivalent about it. I get it though, he can't really participate so it's hard to focus. How is everybody feeling?

Nice...so what kind of crib did you get if you don't mind my asking?

 

[PDReggie]

We are going to get the Baby Cache Montana in driftwood. We think it will go well with boy or girl. It will take a few weeks to get here though, so I'm waiting to order until I put a little more money away. We are still working on getting the rooms moved around so that we can start on the nursery. So I don't want to order the crib and dresser until the nursery is at least ready to be painted. Also, we don't find out what the sex is until May 30 so we are waiting on the registry until then. I figure we will order the crib and do the registry at the same time.

 

[PDReggie]

So I have to tell this funny story about DH since I said that he seems ambivalent about the body changes. I am a stomach sleeper and it has recently started to reach a point where that isn't going to work any more. I can still do it with pillows but I toss and turn a lot trying to get comfortable. So yesterday, I walked up to DH while he was on the couch and he put his hands on my belly. I thought, ah he is being sweet and starting to pay attention. Then he said, very seriously, "I am going to get you an innertube to sleep on so that you stop bouncing around the bed." ass. But I laughed. He went through a whole plan of how it was going to work. He's such a dork. But sweet in his own way.

 

[Meljenn]

Have any of you girls had to buy maternity clothes yet? I am due November 24th and I bought a long sleeved shirt that I found on the clearance rack at target today. I just wanted to look to see if they carried kacki shorts and I couldn't resist buying something.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

We are going to get the Baby Cache Montana in driftwood. We think it will go well with boy or girl. It will take a few weeks to get here though, so I'm waiting to order until I put a little more money away. We are still working on getting the rooms moved around so that we can start on the nursery. So I don't want to order the crib and dresser until the nursery is at least ready to be painted. Also, we don't find out what the sex is until May 30 so we are waiting on the registry until then. I figure we will order the crib and do the registry at the same time.

Wow this is gorgeous. Nice and sturdy and it looks like it'd be easy to clean. I'll start looking at cribs and strollers soon so at least I have something to compare to.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

Have any of you girls had to buy maternity clothes yet? I am due November 24th and I bought a long sleeved shirt that I found on the clearance rack at target today. I just wanted to look to see if they carried kacki shorts and I couldn't resist buying something.

I haven't bought maternity clothes yet, but I am wearing most of my pants unbuttoned with a belly band. So far, it's still working. My bbs are also still growing and my shirts are starting to get snug in that area. I'll probably need to go shopping soon. I'm 14 weeks...due Nov 1.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

So I have to tell this funny story about DH since I said that he seems ambivalent about the body changes. I am a stomach sleeper and it has recently started to reach a point where that isn't going to work any more. I can still do it with pillows but I toss and turn a lot trying to get comfortable. So yesterday, I walked up to DH while he was on the couch and he put his hands on my belly. I thought, ah he is being sweet and starting to pay attention. Then he said, very seriously, "I am going to get you an innertube to sleep on so that you stop bouncing around the bed." ass. But I laughed. He went through a whole plan of how it was going to work. He's such a dork. But sweet in his own way.

Bouncing around bed...lol. It's always nice to have a sense a humor about things with your DH. Makes experiences a lot more fun.

 

[MgreenM]

So I have to tell this funny story about DH since I said that he seems ambivalent about the body changes. I am a stomach sleeper and it has recently started to reach a point where that isn't going to work any more. I can still do it with pillows but I toss and turn a lot trying to get comfortable. So yesterday, I walked up to DH while he was on the couch and he put his hands on my belly. I thought, ah he is being sweet and starting to pay attention. Then he said, very seriously, "I am going to get you an innertube to sleep on so that you stop bouncing around the bed." ass. But I laughed. He went through a whole plan of how it was going to work. He's such a dork. But sweet in his own way.

That is a great story! I keep moving towards the center of the bed...good thing we are getting a king size bed! I think that will help. My cousin swears by her body pillow...don't know if I want to spend money on one...although if it helps me sleep, it may not be a bad idea...

 

[MgreenM]

Oh, and someone asked about buying maternity clothes. Since January, I actually lost about 35lbs (between walking the dog and not eating as much). As a result, my pants that were big back in October, are JUST starting to fit almost normally again...I bought one dress at a consignment shop because it was only 5 dollars andI don't really have any good dresses (I usually wear a skirt and top if I need to dress up...). My MIL is coming at the end of the month and it is rumored that she wants to take me shopping for maternity clothes...I totally can't justify it!

Amusing bra shopping story: I went to Lane Bryant to buy a couple of regular bras since I am not happy with the ones from Motherhood Maternity (I returned all but the one I took the tags off and tried again after pulling out the underwire). Anyways, I ask the woman to measure me and tell her I am pregnant so that she can measure with anticipation of growth! She does the math, looks at me and says, "Would you believe that you are measuring a DDD????" I replied "Yes!" My boobs were sooo sore for such a long time and I can tell they are significantly bigger...but she was surprised that I went from a D(borderline DD) to a DDD! She was sweet though. Had to order them because they didn't have any in store with the next band size up in order to allow for growth.

 

[HopeLove GR]

you ladies are funny, and made my day..
i am working long hours these days trying my best to be far ahead so by the time i am almost due i can take it easy.. i am due on the 20th of Nov.
as for my husband he is the other extreme.. everytime we drive by a baby shop he stopps and gets us to go and walk all around and ask questions.. i am enjoying every moment.. but i won't buy anything yet. i thing it will be too early.. and whoever in Sydney there is a baby expo at the end ot the month.. my DH booked us 2 tickets to go and start buying.
i can't wait for the end of the month.. it will be my Birthday and i have a strong feeling there is a suprise .. we are going out the week before my birthday for a fancy dinner but on the day i think he is having something done.. but i will act as i don't know
Before i fell preganant i wore alot of jeans and now they are so tight so i went to mamaway and bought some nea jeans.. However Big W got some good stuff too..

 

[Meljenn]

Oh, and someone asked about buying maternity clothes. Since January, I actually lost about 35lbs (between walking the dog and not eating as much). As a result, my pants that were big back in October, are JUST starting to fit almost normally again...I bought one dress at a consignment shop because it was only 5 dollars andI don't really have any good dresses (I usually wear a skirt and top if I need to dress up...). My MIL is coming at the end of the month and it is rumored that she wants to take me shopping for maternity clothes...I totally can't justify it!

Amusing bra shopping story: I went to Lane Bryant to buy a couple of regular bras since I am not happy with the ones from Motherhood Maternity (I returned all but the one I took the tags off and tried again after pulling out the underwire). Anyways, I ask the woman to measure me and tell her I am pregnant so that she can measure with anticipation of growth! She does the math, looks at me and says, "Would you believe that you are measuring a DDD????" I replied "Yes!" My boobs were sooo sore for such a long time and I can tell they are significantly bigger...but she was surprised that I went from a D(borderline DD) to a DDD! She was sweet though. Had to order them because they didn't have any in store with the next band size up in order to allow for growth.

I have been in sports bras for the past month. I plan on going shopping Friday for new bras that fit and I am scared of what size they may be.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

Do any of you ladies use dopplers? I have the sonoline B one and use it about once a day. I love hearing my baby's heartbeat. I plan to continue to use it until I can feel kicks. Or maybe a bit longer, until my DH can feel the kicks since he loves using it as well. Only question I have is whether there are any safety issues with using one. I asked my OB and she advised me not to get one, but she said that was because people don't know how to use it and may not hear a heart beat and then get unnecessarily worried, call their doctors, drive to the ER etc only to find that everything is fine. That wasn't enough of a reason for me so I got one.

 

[PDReggie]

As far as maternity clothes, I don't want to talk about it. I'm still bitter about that. I lost 40 pounds before I got pregnant through diet. But I knew we were going to TTC so I didn't get anything altered thinking I can just wear them for a little while so that I don't have to get maternity clothes. WRONG! I was down to a small 8 in jeans when I got pregnant. Within 4 weeks I couldn't wear my size 14 pants. My damn ass spread to twice it's normal proportions. It looks like the giant pillsbury dough boy in the Ghostbuster movie. I am 16 1/2 weeks and I've only gained 4 pounds but I have had to wear dresses since I was like 8 weeks. Now I'm at least starting to look pregnant rather than fat which is nice.

As for Doppler. I didn't get one. Mostly, because I knew I would be the crazy lady who couldn't work it and then freaked out. Plus, I was so sick that I was pretty sure everything was going ok in there. I haven't read or heard anything saying they are harmful though so I feel you are fine. Let's just say with the people I represent in court, I figure as long as I am not baking the little bun in meth or any other drugs owlet will be just fine. Although, now I wish I had a doppler because I'm starting to feel better so now I'm wondering if everything is ok in there. I really hope that I start to feel it soon.

 

[MgreenM]

Last night, and even a couple of times today, I have felt what I would probably call "kicks"! It's way more than a flutter but not painful, just definitely there and very isolated. I go for my anatomy scan tomorrow!

 

[PDReggie]

Every once in a while, I feel like my stomach drops like I'm on a rollercoaster. Dr. said it could be the baby doing somersault. But that's all I've felt so far.

I'm so excited for our first gender!

 

[MgreenM]

Reggie - before last night, all I felt was flutters/vibration. In fact, the other day I was in a patient's room and felt a strong vibration that I am pretty sure was NOT my phone...and I said out loud...something just vibrated and I have no idea what it was! LOL. My patient was very confused! Of course, I was too, at least at first!