when the "30 yo ttc#1" ladies get their bfp's

[PDReggie]

Good luck. I'm sure that everything is fine. If your hospital is anything like ours they are so big it is sometimes hard to get everyone to agree on what is routine and what isn't. I have my dr. office that I go to every month, the place where I do all the bloodwork when it was needed, the ultrasound office, the hospital where I will deliver and do classes and the office where they will eventually do the sugar test. Cleveland Clinic is massive and everything is done in a different place. We have the ultrasound tomorrow. I'm nervous, but I'm nervous before every appointment. I always think that they will tell me that something is wrong or that I'm crazy and fat, not pregnant. But hopefully, I will know what gender baby is tomorrow. Or if, as I think, it's actually a velociraptor. Hope everyone is feeling well

 

[MgreenM]

Good luck. I'm sure that everything is fine. If your hospital is anything like ours they are so big it is sometimes hard to get everyone to agree on what is routine and what isn't. I have my dr. office that I go to every month, the place where I do all the bloodwork when it was needed, the ultrasound office, the hospital where I will deliver and do classes and the office where they will eventually do the sugar test. Cleveland Clinic is massive and everything is done in a different place. We have the ultrasound tomorrow. I'm nervous, but I'm nervous before every appointment. I always think that they will tell me that something is wrong or that I'm crazy and fat, not pregnant. But hopefully, I will know what gender baby is tomorrow. Or if, as I think, it's actually a velociraptor. Hope everyone is feeling well

Cleveland Clinic is a GREAT place to be! Yeah, I was just aggravated the other day! It's been a rough week for me emotionally. A lot of drama with family/recent purchases (stuff arrived broken). Everything will be fine, I just need some down time. Let us know how the ultrasound goes tomorrow!

 

[PDReggie]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I hope it gets better. Family stuff is the worst because you actually have to worry about people's feelings.

So we are officially team PINK! Baby measured well. And perfect shot to show gender. I do have to go back in a month because the placenta was low and covering part of the cervix and so they want me to come back and see if it has moved up. This can cause bleeding and other problems I guess. But no physical activity for a month. So no sex or yoga. This makes me very sad.

 

[MgreenM]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I hope it gets better. Family stuff is the worst because you actually have to worry about people's feelings.

So we are officially team PINK! Baby measured well. And perfect shot to show gender. I do have to go back in a month because the placenta was low and covering part of the cervix and so they want me to come back and see if it has moved up. This can cause bleeding and other problems I guess. But no physical activity for a month. So no sex or yoga. This makes me very sad.

yay team pink!!!!!!! boo for low placenta! So, they expect it to move up? Everything else was good though?

Also, I don't remember if I told you ladies about this, but in the United States there is a program called "Healthy Families" to provide support for first time parents. Check with your hospital/county to see what they offer. It is actually quite comprehensive where I live and they are going to even do some prenatal visits in addition to postpartum! They will work with us on swaddling, bathing, understanding developmental milestones etc. It sounds like they customize it for each family.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I hope it gets better. Family stuff is the worst because you actually have to worry about people's feelings.

So we are officially team PINK! Baby measured well. And perfect shot to show gender. I do have to go back in a month because the placenta was low and covering part of the cervix and so they want me to come back and see if it has moved up. This can cause bleeding and other problems I guess. But no physical activity for a month. So no sex or yoga. This makes me very sad.

Congratulations PD on being team pink!! Sorry on no activity but I guess we do what we have to in order to keep the little bub growing. Did u guess that it was gonna be a girl based on old wives tales?

I've been traveling and just got back from a two week vacay last weekend. Lots of jet lag to get over. It's been hard getting back to real life. I'm just glad I had no issues with the pregnancy during that time.

 

[PDReggie]

Welcome back! My husband has been convinced since we found out that it was a girl. I have gone back and forth. Really the only old wives tales that I understood were Chinese chart (wrong) and heart beat (right). Working on starting decoration ideas now. Eh is driving me nuts because I will say how do you want to decorate, name, etc. He will say I don't know, what do you think? I say I was thinking (insert idea here). He says uh huh and 20 minutes later will be like, I like something different. But I need to think about before I decide. Arrrrrgh

 

[MgreenM]

Welcome back Soon!

Ladies, I want to get your opinion on something.

I have been battling with anxiety throughout this entire pregnancy. It seems that I will be fine for 2-4 weeks and then I have a 2 week period that is absolutely awful. I am constantly anxious (often for no reason or over really stupid little things), I don't sleep well (which exacerbates the anxiety) and I have meltdowns left an right. This has been lasting on average of 2 weeks. And then, just as it comes on with no warning, it goes away without warning. DH has been wonderfully supportive and takes all sorts of crap from me (which I feel awful about). I am in the beginning of the second week of this awful anxious time. I hate it. I am constantly trying to figure out if it is severe enough to necessitate going back on meds. My ideal would be to stay off them, but it feels so awful and when it is occurring regularly and lasts for 2 weeks consistently, it worries me. I can't really take a day off from work to decompress because I need all my PTO for when the baby comes and doctors appointments. However, my other thought is, if this is really the hormones vs my regular anxiety issues, then will going on meds really make that much of a difference?

I try to do other things to cope and get through. I walk the dog at least 2x/day (although this morning she didn't want to get up with me. she is curled up on the floor by DH's side of the bed), I am reading before bed. I try to find times to do stuff with friends etc. I go to the OB next week and the psychiatrist in July. Of course, I know I can call the psychiatrist at any time. I just don't know what direction to go. As of right now, my plan is to talk to the OB when I go next week and see what he thinks and then get in touch with my psychiatrist as needed. But I hate feeling like this so much!

 

[PDReggie]

I would talk with your OB but if there is something you can take that is kind of middle of the road, I would probably take it. The anxiety doesn't help you or the baby I'm sure. But, if there isn't anything you are comfortable taking, I would recommend looking into some sort of meditation. Maybe a class or two to help out and see if you like it and then if it helps you can do it on your own. I know yoga was very good for me physically but also mentally. It's very good for kind of focusing your mind on the present and not letting it wonder to the things that stress you out. I know that clinical anxiety is not the same but it might be worth a shot. It may not help the anxiety but it might make it a little easier to deal with.

 

[MgreenM]

Yeah, I was really not in a good place this morning...I am doing better this afternoon. It is just so frustrating. I think my plan to talk to my OB when I go next week and then talk to my psychiatrist as needed is probably the best thing. I am very aware of my anxiety and I can differentiate the source (hormone, situation, vs random anxiety attack) which in some ways makes things a little worse because then I get frustrated when there is nothing I can do to resolve it and I know have to just ride it through.

I also need to try to do more with friends. Which I am working on. I signed up for a bunch of classes at the hospital and I know that will help a lot. Thank you for listening ladies! Thank you reggie for your input! I am thinking positive and hoping that since I am feeling better this afternoon, it is the start of an upswing.

I hope everyone had a good day today!

 

[Meljenn]

Congrats on team pink PD!
Mgreen, I like your plan on talking to your OB. I have been having anxiety about knowing if baby was ok. There is 12 weeks in between ultrasounds and I have been having such bad anxiety because I don't know if the turkey is ok in there.
I have been trying to distract myself and started buying things for the baby. I should not have to buy wipes for half a year now lol.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

Mgreen, sorry to hear you're having such a hard time with anxiety. I think you should talk to your OB, and maybe even your psychiatrist soon, especially if a large part of your anxiety is non-hormonal. Two opinions are better than one.

At least you can differentiate the sources of your anxiety, and the hormonal thing can be terrible. I know since being pregnant, there has been times that I got really moody and anxious as well. I like the yoga/meditation suggestion from PD. Also, treat yourself to a pregnancy massage once in a while; if you like massages, they're so relaxing and work wonders to relax your body.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Mgreen, definitely talk to your doctors.

One of my dear friends had a lot of trouble with anxiety during her pregnancy, and ended up having to medicate it. It helped her a lot, and at 4 months old, her daughter is happy, healthy, and absolutely adorable. Stress is bad for you and the baby, and there are drugs that are safe during pregnancy.

 

[MgreenM]

As of right now, my plan is to talk to DH (I think he should know what my thought process is) about it a little bit and email my psychiatrist. I don't think that an extra therapy session will make that much of a difference as most of this is unfounded and when I do the things that we have talked about in previous sessions, it does help. The problem is this has been daily for almost the past 2 weeks and sometimes like last night and this morning I just started crying for no reason. Last night, I forced myself to go out to game night (despite being exhausted) and it helped. But there isn't always that opportunity. I still maintain the question of, if this is mostly hormone related, will the medication really help? I don't know. And when I think about it, there isn't that much time left...I really am not sure what to do at this point. It's a very hard decision because my goal was reallly to be off the meds for good when I started weaning off of them a couple of years ago...I guess that's not a realistic goal.

Thank you for your support ladies, I appreciate it.

 

[MgreenM]

Unfortunately, I can't really get in to my psychiatrist before my current scheduled appointment. However, he has been great and emailed me a lot of information and answered all of our questions. He even invited my husband to come to my next appointment to ask questions. There is a reason I go to this guy! He is always so nice, helpful and uses evidence based practice. He has never tried to make me do something I am uncomfortable with. Rather, he provides me with the information/guidance to make an informed decision.

It seems like going back on the medication really would be the best plan at this point. I know the amount of anxiety/depressive symptoms I have been having can't be good for our baby girl. Plus, I believe I read that women with higher levels of anxiety/stress are more likely to deliver early. Now that DH and I have this information and have talked about it, I think we have made our decision that I will go back on my meds. I think it will be a healthy decision for all 3 of us.

Thank you again for all of your support. This is not an easy decision for me on many levels. But I know I have to take care of myself in order to take care of our baby.

On a lighter note, we went to a gender reveal party for a friend today. We tie-dyed stuff (there were 3 of us who are pregnant so I bought some onsies and snap shirts for us to do). We had fun doing it. FYI if you go to buy onsies, look carefully because apparently they make something called snap shirts that I had never seen before. It's kinda like a wrap up/swaddle tshirt...I thought I had grabbed 2 packs of onsies...I was wrong- oops! Anyways, one of the girls was satisfied with them so she took the bulk of them and I tie-dyed one for my cousin who is due in November.

I felt bad for my friend though. Her mom called not realizing that we hadn't done the reveal yet and told her the gender! Luckily, not everyone knew that had happened and we all reassured her that we wouldn't tell anyone she found out. It was nice being social and seeing my friends, but I am glad I didn't do a gender reveal party. It's just not for me.

Tomorrow we go to see Shrek the Musical! I am excited for that!

I hope everyone is having a good weekend! Sorry for the long post, but wanted to update you.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Thanks for the update, hon. I'm glad you have a plan - I hope you feel much better once you're taking the meds.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

Hi girls, I hope you are doing well.

I had my anatomy scan today and I'm team PINK !!

She had her arms up double fisted on her face, so we couldn't get a clear view of the face. We tried prodding, moving around and she just stuck in that position. I wasn't asked to come for a rescan, so hopefully they got everything they needed. I'm thinking about asking my OB about it in the next few days. Otherwise, everything else looked fantastic!

 

[MrsKChicago]

So apparently 30-somethings have a lot of girls! Congratulations!

 

[PDReggie]

Yeah pink! That's so exciting! Did everything else go well with the scan? I had my monthly Dr. Appt. today. My doctor is so great. She is the most mellow person on earth. Baby's heartbeat was 139. Other than that, we are just waiting on the ultrasound next Friday to see if the placenta has moved up. Hope you are feeling great.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

Thanks!

I agree, it's funny how we are all getting girls so far. Maybe when more girls join, we'll start to see some team blues emerge.

The rest of the scan went very well. They were able to get all the measurements that they needed and said that the baby was developing well and measured where she should (it's so nice to just be able to say "she" now ).

PD, fx on your placenta moving up. You've been trying to stay off your feet right? Let us know how your u/s goes. Also, have you started feeling movements yet? I found out today I have an anterior placenta, and that's why I haven't felt the kicks on a regular basis. I feel them here and there, and only when I'm laying down. They're supposed to get stronger over the next month. I know you're a little ahead of me, what was your experience?

 

[MgreenM]

alright! another girl! Any of you ladies been told you need to have a growth scan? Apparently if you are above your ideal body weight, they do some extra scans to check growth. So far, everything is on track. I have to go back in July for another growth scan and they want to do a nonstress test 2x/week starting at 36 weeks! ugh! I don't fully see the necessity as everything has been on track. The only reasoning behind it that I have been given is statistics...we'll see. I will continue to ask.

I have been back on the medication x1 week now and so far, seem to be starting to do better. Last week I was so worked up and overtired that I made myself physically ill. I am doing what I can to take care of myself and relax. Of course, this awful heat isn't helping! I hope everyone is staying cool!