when the "30 yo ttc#1" ladies get their bfp's

[MrsKChicago]

Hope you're feeling ok after your surgery, M. I can't imagine dealing with double surgeries and a newborn!

 

[treeroot]

Soon, congrats!

I'm glad the surgery went well MgreenM!


I don't think I've really posted anything about myself for a long time (I figure no one really cares! lol).

But I've been feeling a little down; the nauseousness makes me feel bummed out, I'm guessing many of you feel/felt the same. Though I've managed to keep back the puking except for two times . I went off my prenatals for a while as well, and just started again today...so far so good.

I'm also preforming in a play 5 times a week so I do feel pretty tired at work even without the whole pregnancy thing. Definitely not getting enough sleep, but the run ends next weekend.

I had my midwife appointment and was really disappointed. It was really just a "meet and greet", "here's what we do here" sort of thing. The appointment was long but we never really talked about my pregnancy; how things were going, how I felt, what I should expect right now, etc. I guess I just feel like there's no support for the first trimester. I'll be 11 weeks by the time I have my first "real" appointment to check on me, my health, get tests, etc.

All that being said, all is well, and I shouldn't complain.

It's nice to be in a group with everyone at different stages! It snowed a bit here this morning...anyone else starting to have the cold creep in?

 

[MrsKChicago]

A play and work? You must be exhausted!

My first appointment at 9 weeks was good, but I still think there's nowhere near enough first trimester support. It's the most fragile time in the pregnancy, and they don't see you for two months of it? Ridiculous! They at least need a Welcome to Pregnancy appointment with a nurse to make sure you know what's safe and unsafe.

It's getting cold here, but still tolerable. I think the baby is keeping me warm. We got some snow on Halloween, but I was out of town, so I'm pretending it never happened I know I'd be really struggling if it was the hottest part of summer right now, but I could do without the predicted polar vortex crap!

 

[PDReggie]

Congrats soon! I don't know about you and m but I will say that when they handed me Abigail for the first time, which granted was a little later since I had a c-section, I was so in love but also just kind of thought what the hell am I going to do with her? Not going to lie, I was rather terrified. Still am most days. But she is totally worth it.

I will say that I couldn't fit into regular clothes almost immediately. I wore dresses to work for a few months until I had to really wear maternity clothes.

Welcome andi! Good luck navigating everything. I'm sure you will do amazing.

Sorry to those of you still with the morning sickness. I don't miss that at all. I can say with confidence that was the very worst part of pregnancy. Once you get through it, everything gets 1000 times better.

Sorry if I missed any statements. I'm a little crazy lately. Hope everyone continues to do well.

 

[MgreenM]

Have we been editing the first page with birthdates as the babies are born?

My first appointment was at 8 weeks and they were pretty thorough and it included an ultrasound (didn't see much at that point, but we saw her!). I really like my OB office. But, I will say this, my second appointment was with a different doctor and I was EXTREMELY disappointed, she was very short and didn't seem to want to take time with me. So I think your experience also varies with who you see. My office has 4 doctors and they tell you to see them all because you don't know who will be on call when you go into labor. The one I don't particularly like was on call when I went into labor, but one of the ones I really like was on call when Josie was actually born. Crazy how that worked out! But I do agree, there should be more support in the first trimester. So much is changing and hormones are crazy! I had an AWFUL time with the anxiety/depression throughout the pregnancy, but my doctors were very supportive.

 

[curiousowl]

Congrats Soon! I love the name. Can't wait to hear the story.

M, glad to hear you're recovering well. It all sounds stressful but glad to hear you're getting some support. I can't believe you only gained 5lbs! I have already gained that. Sigh!

JCM, tree - I really feel for you guys. 1st tri is rough. I am finally starting to feel like I'm on the upswing and mostly just nauseous when I'm hungry, instead of constantly. (And when I have to take my vitamins, of course! I'll have to try carbonation, JCM.) But I felt really distressed by it for a while there. Taking unisom/B6 helped some.

tree, sorry your appointment wasn't what you were hoping. I had my first Ob appointment at 8 weeks with an ultrasound, bloodwork, etc. And I'd actually had a 6 week ultrasound too, due to my loss. If I'd had to wait until 8 weeks I think I would have been going crazy. It's getting colder here too. I got my maternity jacket so that's good.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who couldn't fit their regular clothes by this point. I Skyped with my parents today and they were like, "Oh yeah! You definitely have a bump going on there." Yup! I keep wearing the same few things to work that are baggy enough to hide it.

 

[jumpingo]

I don't think I've really posted anything about myself for a long time (I figure no one really cares! lol).

But I've been feeling a little down; the nauseousness makes me feel bummed out, I'm guessing many of you feel/felt the same. Though I've managed to keep back the puking except for two times . I went off my prenatals for a while as well, and just started again today...so far so good.

I'm also preforming in a play 5 times a week so I do feel pretty tired at work even without the whole pregnancy thing. Definitely not getting enough sleep, but the run ends next weekend.

I had my midwife appointment and was really disappointed. It was really just a "meet and greet", "here's what we do here" sort of thing. The appointment was long but we never really talked about my pregnancy; how things were going, how I felt, what I should expect right now, etc. I guess I just feel like there's no support for the first trimester. I'll be 11 weeks by the time I have my first "real" appointment to check on me, my health, get tests, etc.

All that being said, all is well, and I shouldn't complain.

It's nice to be in a group with everyone at different stages! It snowed a bit here this morning...anyone else starting to have the cold creep in?

i am probably bad about asking but love hearing how everyone is!!

i agree. and by agree i mean, i had a very brief "here are meds that are okay, here are ones you can't take, mild exercise is good, OB will call you schedule your 12 week appointment, any questions?" follow-up the day i got my blood drawn and it came back positive, so...basically no support. no help with wondering what's normal or anything, and then doctors get "annoyed" when people come in saying they "read online" about this that or the other thing? well yeah, you didn't really give us any other choice! and i'm guessing OB won't call (because of base training that's going on last week and this week) so once again, i will have to call them. which is fine, but don't make it like they are going to call if they never do!!

sorry, guess i am more frustrated about it than i thought!

i am not necessarily depressed, but just anxious. just worried that i don't know if everything is okay. i am a total planner and not being able to know and organize and plan is enough to do me in!

also, i take my prenatals at night to avoid them making me sick (or making any burp for the rest of the day taste like fish!) so maybe try that if they start making you sick again?

 

[treeroot]

Ah, sorry your first appointments weren't the greatest either jump.
I started by taking my prenatals at night since I already had problems with my regular multivitamin in the morning previously. But I think it was giving me cramps at night and I wasn't getting as good of a sleep. I think I'm going to try mid-day with a decent lunch. That way my body will be well awake and I'll already have breakfast in my tummy.


Sounds like most of you had much earlier appointments (with testing). I don't have a doctor right now so maybe if I did I would have had a short appointment with them at the beginning.
I could have asked the midwife any questions I wanted, but maybe I was just feeling shy? (I was also sick with a cold). I guess maybe she just assumed I was well educated and didn't need any first-tri info. I know the care given at this clinic is thorough and each appointment is 45min long, so I think things will be much better going forward.
I have a least mild depression, so I feel anxious and sad fairly often, though I try to fight it as best I can! I'm sure that's part of why I felt so awful and lonely afterwards, but it's good to know you ladies agree with full first-tri support as well.

I don't seem to have gained any weight at all, but it's hard to tell since my office job was resulting in me slowly putting on weight anyway.
I'm sure that will change sooner then later.
Anyone have some sweet winter maternity styles their going to be rocking?

 

[MrsKChicago]

I asked when I called for my first appointment if there was anything I needed to know and the receptionist almost sounded confused. Like, what would I possibly need to know to get me safely through the first two months? She might have asked about vitamins, but that's it. It's nuts.

I'm mostly in jeans or cords and big comfy sweaters now. Not very fancy, but nice and comfy.

 

[JCM]

The only reason I had early appts and lots of them is because I went through ivf. Most offices here don't see you until 8-10 weeks. I had a bunch of appts to constantly check everything...but I think that's what you pay for when you hand over a ton of money to the dr that has to get you pregnant and keep you pregnant! I finally got to see the OB doctor this last week and I'm just over 10 weeks now. I will miss my reporductive team of people but I'm happy to be graduating to the normal OB care. Diclegis is totally saving me right now. I had an actual appetite this weekend so I'll be staying on that for awhile. I'm too scared to stop taking it. Maybe ask your OB office to call something in for you?

 

[curiousowl]

Some exciting news here! The Harmony results are in and it's a healthy...

GIRL!!!​

 

[PDReggie]

Some exciting news here! The Harmony results are in and it's a healthy...

GIRL!!!​

Congrats!!!!!!

 

[MrsKChicago]

Congrats, Owl! I think my little dude is going to be very lonely in this thread!

 

[MgreenM]

That's wonderful Owl!

MrsK - I am sure there will be another boy in the mix!

Ladies, if you have a good relationship with your mom or even mother-in-law, I strongly recommend you have them come to help you! Having mom here these last couple of days has REALLY eased my stress. It was also super helpful in the very beginning. Anyone can help; But it does need to be someone you trust and have a strong relationship. The other thing I did, I had a close friend that was available to me should I need something when mom wasn't available.

 

[treeroot]

Some exciting news here! The Harmony results are in and it's a healthy...

GIRL!!!​

Congrats! Always exciting

 

[JCM]

Congrats, owl!!!

 

[MrsKChicago]

No way would I be able to spend that much time with my mom without murdering her or myself But I do have one of my best friends who knows a lot about babies on call

 

[jumpingo]

No way would I be able to spend that much time with my mom without murdering her or myself But I do have one of my best friends who knows a lot about babies on call

me neither!!

a week on vacation with no baby was MORE than enough to need a couple weeks to recover! i already told my husband that if my parents come to japan when i have the baby, that they ARE staying in the hotel on base.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Oh gosh, I can barely manage weekend trips now without finding frequent excuses to get a break from her. She drives us all nuts.

 

[MgreenM]

I totally understand! My mother in law drives me crazy!