when the "30 yo ttc#1" ladies get their bfp's

[SoonToBePreg]

WooHoo!! Congratulations MrsK. How exciting! Wishing you a happy and healthy nine months.

 

[MrsKChicago]

A couple questions:

When did you all call the doctor? I don't have a GP at the moment (we only just got insurance this year, and I never got around to finding a doctor), so I'm thinking I'll just call the midwives I'm probably going to use, and I'm sure they know when I should come in first. But I'm not sure if I should call right away to make sure they can get me in, or if I should wait a few days. I'd hate for this to be a chemical and have to call back, but do you get noticeable symptoms so early for chemicals? Or maybe I'd want to go in either way. I don't have many mom friends to ask IRL, and I don't want to tell anyone yet anyway.

Do you ladies have any favorite pregnancy or birth books? I have What to Expect nd the Mayo Guide, but I wouldn't mind more reading. I'm hoping to go the (by US standards) less medicalized, midwife-in-a-hospital, maybe water birth? route, and WTE and Mayo are both full of good information but kind of assume you're doing the typical ob-gyn thing. DH says he has a list of reading material for dads, but if you guys have any recommendations of Must Read Dad Books, I might talk him into reading one, too.

Edit to add one more. I've been doing Weight Watchers. I'm still about 50lbs overweight, so there wouldn't be much risk if I accidentally lost some weight, but I don't intend to lose on purpose right now, of course. I don't want to quit yet, though, in case this kiddo doesn't stick and I have to go crawling back. There's a version of WW where instead of tracking points, you just eat certain types of foods - whole grains, lean meats, fruit, vegetables, and only fat free dairy, you eat as much as you feel like you need, plus you get a few points for treats. I'm thinking that if I use regular dairy instead of fat free, and I'm flexible if morning sickness kicks in, and obviously avoid the stuff you can't eat during pregnancy, there's no reason that would be unsafe, right? Frankly, it's really easy for me to lose control when I don't have some structure to my diet, so even though I haven't been tracking since my positive, I'm afraid to just let go...

 

[PDReggie]

MrsK,
I use the wte app on my phone and occasionally the bump. Honestly, I wanted to read everything and was super on it when I first found out. Now, I'm like I'm bored. After you get through the first set of books they all seem to run together for me. Then it's really only new info once a week. At least that is how I feel.

As to the weightwatchers, I was doing weight watchers when I got pregnant. I didn't cancel my subscription for a few weeks until I felt more comfortable but I stopped tracking. I did my best to still count points because it was a good way for me to kind of keep an eye on what I was eating but I didn't give myself a number of points. So far, I've gained about 16 pounds and I'm 23 and a half weeks. I feel a little like I have gained too much but my dr. thinks I'm fine so I'm trying to listen to her advice. Plus, I have promised myself that I will go back on weight watchers before I go off maternity leave. I know you are able to do it while breastfeeding so I want to go back right away. I also kept doing a weigh in once a week. It helps to remind me not to eat (a lot) of crap. I'm trying to work on being forgiving for in the weight gain since I know I actually HAVE to gain weight but to also try and keep the good habits going so that I don't completely ruin the diet and gain 100 pounds. I have no idea how this would work for you but I think anything you do as long as it's done in a healthy manner should be fine.

 

[MgreenM]

I called the doctor right away. At least in the US, it seems like they like to see you around 8 weeks for the first appointment. I had been planning to schedule my annual exam/find a new OBGYN anyways, so that is just what ended up happening. If you work full time, I would recommend calling sooner rather than later so that you can schedule it at a time that is more convenient for you. One of the challenges I have is limiting how much time off I take now...although that is also in part because I started a new job in February so there were other issues that I had to work around.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Thankfully, my schedule is wide open right now, though I'd like to work around Mr. K's work schedule. I think I'll call on Wednesday, when I'm officially 4 weeks.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Ok, I got brave and called and made my first appointment. July 29! So far away... I wanted to do the 22nd, but DH can't make that day, and I really want him there. It feels so real now...

 

[PDReggie]

Yeah! First appt. That's sounds about how mine was. I called Feb. 14 and my first appt wasn't until mid March. You thought the tww was bad. Waiting for the first appt and ultrasounds and all the things you wait for is insane!

 

[SoonToBePreg]

I also called at about 5 weeks, but didn't get an appointment until 8 weeks or so. They said that's the earliest they could see me as well.

About books, I also got the what to expect book which I still look at but not as regularly as I did earlier on. Probably weekly like PD, not daily any more.
I also got Jenny McCarthy's "Belly Laughs", it's an easy read and very entertaining and informative. I read that in one sitting. For my hubby, I got him "Dude, you're gonna be a dad" by John Pfeiffer. I haven't read it, but from what he tells me, it seems like it's a really good book. He's not much of a reader at all so for him to have continued to read the book says something...

 

[trumpetbeth]

We find out what we are having on June 30!!! I can't wait!!

 

[PDReggie]

Well we went for a follow up ultrasound on Friday and my placenta still hasn't moved up so no sex. BOOOOOO! Other than that baby was measuring very well and looked good. It was fun to see her again. We won't get another ultrasound until probably in the 30's weeks to see if the placenta moves. I am fingers crossed that it moves up so that I can have an opportunity for a vaginal birth.

Can't wait to know what you are having trumpet! I feel like the odds are boy at this point but who knows?

 

[MgreenM]

Reggi- bummer on the placenta not moving! I have seriously not had any sex drive since about 6 weeks...I feel bad for DH. I have tried a few times, but it's just not there .

A little drama here...my inlaws put together the dresser when they came to visit and I was moving it yesterday so we could paint today and it totally fell apart...I totally lost it! I was screaming at DH, crying, I just couldn't handle it...so now, we have to buy another....ugh! At least we got the painting done today! It was exhausting to do though...and I still have to put away laundry.

Hope you ladies are feeling well.

 

[SoonToBePreg]

Sorry to hear your placenta hasn't moved up PD. not having sex is one thing, but not having the choice sux even more. At least you got to see your baby again.

My DH and I can't wait until towards the end of the pregnancy to see ours again, so we are planning to pay for a 3d/4d scan at around 30 weeks.

 

[PDReggie]

Yeah the no sex sucks. Especially since I was VERY specific with the poor dr. about what is and is not acceptable. As I told him, I can work around no penetration but what exactly is on the "no fly" list? Turns out everything is on the list. We can't even be teenagers again. But it was fun to see the little one again. She was being very stubborn. She was in a position the tech couldn't get pictures for. So the tech was shaking her (which by the way is both horrifying and hysterical to watch) and she just curled into a ball like go f yourself. Hope everyone is doing well here.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Oh man, Reggie, that sucks.

Does anyone have any tips on hiding pregnancy? Specifically, we're going on a family weekend trip in a couple weeks. My brother and SIL will already know by then, but I don't want mom to catch on. There will be alcohol, and while it's not unusual for me to abstain for a dinner, it would be odd for me to not have a single drink all weekend. Especially with my favorite Wisconsin beer available. And if I end up with morning sickness, that adds an extra challenge... I'm sure my brother and SIL will be willing to help me cover it up. Any advice? I wonder if just opening a beer and not drinking it would work. Maybe my brother or DH can get me a "fresh" one and just swap my full for his empty now and then?

 

[ladders]

I'm having the same thing, iv taken to becks blue which Is non alcoholic and if your not clued up on beer then you'd never know so if there's something like that I'm sure your mum won't cotton on. Iv found it's only recently pregnant friends who have noticed and given me a look everyone else thinks it's just beer!
I can't wait to tell people because it will be sooooo much easier

 

[MrsKChicago]

Hmm... Mom probably doesn't pay too much attention to what beers we drink, since she's not a beer drinker. I've heard non-alcoholic beers do have a trace amount of alcohol, but I'm honestly not worried about less than 1%. I may just keep a glass of wine in front of me and pretend to drink it, too. I can instruct my brother not to top me up. I thought about doing the antibiotic thing, but I don't want mom to freak out about me being sick around my baby nephew.

 

[PDReggie]

I would say changing out beer would work. Or if you end up having morning sickness, you could always say you got a bad ear infection. No drinking with antibiotics and inner ear infections can cause vertigo with nausea. I get a LOT of ear infections.

 

[PDReggie]

Haha. Mrs. K we must have posted at the same time. FYI ear infections aren't contagious.

 

[MrsKChicago]

This might be a stupid question, but I haven't had an ear infection since I was a kid. Would an ear infection get in the way of swimming and gentle boating? I don't want to claim any issues that would prevent me enjoying the vacation, you know? I thought about claiming a UTI, but that's really TMI and not the kind of thing I'd share with her. Hopefully I just don't end up sick and only have to hide the alcohol!

 

[PDReggie]

HAHAHA. It would get in the way of swimming. Or, you shouldn't swim with an ear infection. I get them so often I tend to ignore the warnings. Boating would be fine. Hopefully, you just need to work on the alcohol thing. In which case, I'm not sure how you feel about fruity drinks but you could always make non alcoholic frozen drinks. If someone else wants one you could do yours then add alcohol to the next persons.