I can't imagine what women who are LTTC are going through. Two months was long enough for me and that is a pitiful amount of time compared to women who keep trying for years and years. I have the utmost admiration for women who keep going to one day have that dream for themselves.
I can only imagine how seeing facebook announcements would be very painful, but the option to hide people's updates in your news feed is for times just like that, when you have no wish to hear what someone is up to. Surely using this option, which is there for times exactly like that, would be preferable than pregnant people being asked to stop sharing their joy with their loved ones?
Each member of my family lives in a different country and it's the same with my husband. I grew up an ex-pat and went to an international school, so my friends are all over the world as well. Facebook is the easiest medium for sharing wonderful pictures and news to them. I don't do Facebook status updates generally, I don't feel like sharing what I'm up to every single day, but important milestones in my life get shared. With my son I only put up two scan pictures, one bump picture (after being pestered) and I think I had a light-hearted complain once when he was five days late and I was comparing him to my father and brother who are never on time for anything. These updates were very special to my family and friends who weren't going through the experience with me because they were so far away. I would never consider not doing the same again this time, as it means so much to them and me to share my pregnancy in some way. I would hope that should some of my friends on facebook be struggling with LTTC that they would block my updates rather than keep them and feel devastated by the occasional thing I write. I would hope they would do that for their own peace of mind as I would hate to think I was hurting anyone.
As for pregnant women complaining... is that just on Facebook? Or generally? I find it hard to hear this, as pregnancy can be a very difficult time for some with genuinly awful symptoms and pain. I understand that those who are LTTC would gladly welcome such symptoms if it meant a baby and if I were struggling to conceive I would almost definitely feel the same way. However, our personal struggles surely shouldn't stop a fellow woman who is going through a very difficult time from expressing her pain and from receiving comfort and advice from those dear to her? I would hope that those who have been LTTC and get pregnant feel that they too can complain if they are having a tough time so that they can be comforted and given advice with how to cope.
I'm so sorry that you're going through the pain of LTTC, just like I am so deeply sorry for any woman to has to go through it. I can only imagine the agony of it. And I'm sorry that seeing pregnancy updates hurts you more, but I hope I have tried to show you that when pregnant women share on Facebook and other similar mediums, it's not to be a show off, rather a way of sharing a deeply wonderful thing with those who we love and care about.
All the best.
xx