When you want another but know you can't/shouldn't

Discussion in 'Complete Families' started by lusterleaf, Apr 4, 2019.

  1. lusterleaf

    lusterleaf Well-Known Member

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    I don't know where else to post this but, has anyone been in a situation where you want another child, but feel like for various reasons in life, you couldn't or shouldn't? I have two children. A son who will be 7 this summer and he has significant special needs (nonverbal autistic), and a daughter who will be 4 this summer. I would really love another but for a few reasons I know it wouldn't be the smart thing to do. My number one reason for not moving forward is finances. Also my husband seems like he is done as well (he will be 40 this year, I will be 35). There is also the unknown if another child would also have special needs. Yesterday my daughter said to me, "mommy when I turn 4, I am going to have a sister". I guess I am just sad...
     
  2. justonemore31

    justonemore31 Well-Known Member

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    Yes. I'm pregnant with #7. After my 6th I was done but then when he turned 11months I just wanted another and it happened. I'm 21 weeks today (tickers wrong) and I won't lie, sometimes I wonder why I did it. I don't regret it but I'm also struggling to get excited. It's been hard. Not saying it would be the same for you but for me it's just alot. I also have a son who's 8 and autistic with adhd and ODD. None of it is easy. You gotta really think it through and see where your heart lies.
     

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