Why Do I not feel done?

[darkriver]

Before I write this I know I am lucky already to have two. Especially as my daughter is barely a month old.

Why do I not feel done. I have two wonderfully healthy little girls but I still feel like I am missing something. I feel like I have enough room in my heart for another. The minute Amelia was placed in my arms all i could think was if it wasnt for the fact I just had a section I would be trying for another as soon as I could.

The reality is that me having another right now would very stupid and silly. There is so much I need to be doing before having another. I need to be driving. I had so many hospital appointments with my last pregnancy that I know I couldnt ask my best friend to go through all he did for me again. I need to be healthy.

I will be facing another section so I have to bare in mind the recovery. I have found it easy but it helps that Amelia is an amazingly laid back baby.

I feel like I need a slap but I cant stop thinking about it.

 

[Needabun]

Baby fever just never goes away does it. Im still waiting for #1 so i don't really know anything about anything. Cant wait to have the experience for myself!! Congratulations on your new baby, enjoy her!

 

[darkriver]

Baby fever just never goes away does it. Im still waiting for #1 so i don't really know anything about anything. Cant wait to have the experience for myself!! Congratulations on your new baby, enjoy her!

I hope you get the experience soon. I felt it would never happen for me, even when my baby sister was had her third before me.

 

[LoraLoo]

I am the same and I have 6 children here, but I've had 9 babies. During my last pregnancy I was so sure I was donbe. Now I'm not. My head says the sensible thing is to stop now, but my heart whispers 'just one more?' X

 

[Tanikins]

My hearts not done either. My head is done, 100% makes far more sense to stop at 2. But my heart longs for another baby. To feel kicks, a growing belly, labour etc.

I think it's just a natural instinct. We are programmed to breed, we get broody to keep the human race going. I don't think I'd feel any more done if we had another. I think I'd just be prolonging the hurt.

I'm trying to focus on all the nice things we can have / do if we stop. Things that wouldn't happen with a 3rd. I'm also so happy everyday to be a day closer to a lay in

 

[cheerios]

Same here. I have 3 boys and I always only wanred 3 children. But I didn't count on only having boys!

Don't get me wrong. I love my boys and would never wish for any of them to be a girl. I'm just missing having a girl of my own. Also cos I don't have a mom anymore and my only sister has cut off all contact with the family, I long to have a girl in my family.

But I also don't want to have a 4th just to try for a girl cos what's the chances of me having a boy again? Like super high?

I would love to have another baby though. The thought of knowing / thinking that I won't have another baby / to be pregnant anymore kills me.

 

[awnmyown]

My first is just 12 weeks old, and I already know i want at least two more. If DH said we were done I'd be heart broken. Logic tells me 3 is our max, but I know I'll have #3 and want #4. Some of us are just programmed to procreate! (which is why I went back on BC right away! Logic says wait a year, hormones say let's get the party started!)

 

[Septie]

I have 3 boys, 3 sections, and some difficulty getting a sticky bean for #3. We are done - but not by choice, but because of our ages, and the risks involved and the worry what if one of us gets very sick/dies (not THAT unlikely), leaving the other alone with so many kids (it IS a lot of work). Would LOOOVE another baby - but doubt I'd feel done even at that point. If I had started having kids earlier in life (was in mid 30's already with my first), who knows how many I'd have wanted?? The funny thing is - initially I just wanted one!

 

[darkriver]

Septie I was the same. Could only see myself with one and then I had my little girl. Then I wanted more. Its so addictive.

 

[CowgirlBaby]

I know the feeling I'm still waiting to try for number one (our TTC got put on a brief hold because I got sick) but I know I will want at least 3 especially cause being 21 I am at that age where everyone around me is having babies or getting pregnant my best friend who is 20 is due in March with number 2

 

[lilmisscaviar]

Like others have said, I don't think that feeling ever goes away. My cousin, who has 2 kids, told me that she'd have 8 kids if she hadn't had her tubes tied lol. I don't know if I'm quite ready to make that drastic step yet, for one thing because DH and I want to try for our fourth and final baby in April 2017, however I know once I have #4 I will want #5 and one of us is definitely going to have to get something done before we're on #12 because there is no way we could afford that many kids! Even now I find myself thinking "well... what if I was pregnant?" I'm still figuring out how I'm going to deal with myself when we're for sure done.