Tegans Mama
home edding mum of 2
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Believe me hun, when its time to start pushing, you'll know!!! No one will need to tell you, your body starts to do it on its own and you have no choice but to join in.
This didn't happen for me. I think i was fully dilated for a while before i was told "Common Andrea - push this baby out"
I didnt have any drugs or even G&A during my labour. I know a couple of other girls who also didn't get that over whelming urge to push. Im hoping i'll experience that this time round.
From what I've read, it's perfectly normal not to feel an urge to push right away. I know a woman who was fully dilated for over 90 minutes before she felt anything. She had a good MW, a supportive doula, and they just waited. Because really, there's no need to rush it, is there? Her body was quite obviously not ready to birth the baby yet. The only people who would've rushed it out were the MW or doctor.
Plus, remember that not everyone's body dilates to 10cm. Some dilate to 9. Some dilate to 12. There's no set rule - just a bunch of jargon some doctors made up that is practically irrelevant because seriously... HOW do you measure 10cm with one hand. It's all guesswork.
My personal experience is that VE's are very uncomfortable and not worth the pain/infection risk. I am one of the unfortunate people who contracted an infection through multiple VE's. An infection that is believed to have then travelled into my daughters open spinal defect and left her with a severely life threatening infection of her own to intend with which took six weeks of intravenous antibiotics to cure.
I was checked every hour, on the hour, sat on a bed being monitored (because my baby had a severe brain disorder and the Drs didn't know how she would react to labour). I progressed VERY slowly, because frankly I was scared shitless. My waters broke by themselves but nothing happened.. I was prodded and poked and it was frankly horrific. VE's are IMO completely useless when determining a womans' progress in labour. It only tells you how far she is NOW, right this second, and even then it's an estimate, and that estimate is frankly useless.