Why is it called the terrible 2's???

[hattiehippo]

So far I've had the terrible 1s, 2s and 3s! I'm seriously hoping the 4s are better though tbh I'm resigned to the fact tht Tom is just a stubborn, determined, strong willed person with a huge temper. It's just who he is.

So much is their tempererent - obviously your reactions affects them but I've been amazed how much is them and there's not a huge amount you can do to change it if you get a stroppy one. Choices make no difference if Tom's having a bad day - he will refuse to make a choice or choose something not on offer.

Tom started tantrums at 13 months which ramped up at 20 months. 25 and 29-31 months were horrific with 4-5 hour long tantrums a day. Around 3 was awful and 3 1/2 was bad too. He's in a good patch at the mo

Anyway fingers crossed anyone who's not had terrible 2s avoids terrible 3s too.

 

[neadyda]

I never had any problems with Jamie when he was 2... Now he is 3, wow, different story all together! AND especially since he started nursery!

 

[lozzy21]

I think it all depends on how much control your child is given and what your expectations are. It's rare Niamh will have a full blown tantrum unless she's tired. She throws a strop a few times a day where she will throw herself on the floor, sit up and fold her arms while giving me daggers but its over in less than 20 seconds.

 

[XJessicaX]

So far Tabby's behaviour was TERRIBLE at 18-20 months. Truly abysmal! Since then though shes got easier and more placid and tantrums are rare.

 

[Pearls18]

I think every age is going to have its challenges, some parents are probably better with different ages too. I didn't find 2 too difficult, tantrums I tend to ignore but that was harder to do in public, the last month or so he has gotten SO independent we can take him on the tube now, no pushchair, no food as bribery, he just sits there....a month ago I never would have dreamed of the day!! He is going through a very easy going phase at the moment, it's lovely, when he is upset he is very easy to talk around, distract, I only wish this was it but I very much believe in phases, all bad phases come to an end and I have no doubt this good one will too and we have a new set of challenges on the horizon, at the moment he takes us for our word very literally once he realises he has some control then I imagine all hell is going to break loose as he pushes boundaries, I'm expecting it! Also I imagine with a new baby this will be a big change for him so I expect changes then. But there we go, there's no point labelling anything, we will have good days and bad days some phases will last longer than others, but I'm sticking to my hope that all bad behaviour is a phase at least lol.

 

[sequeena]

My son has awful moments. How much is toddler stuff and how much is his disability I don't know. He's violent, high needs, barely sleeps. 1 year and under was much easier.

 

[Logan's Mum]

I found 3 to 4 horrendous, think logan was becoming more independent and his own person. He's never had tantrums, just refused to do stuff and answered back like a teenager! Don't think my pregnancy hormones helped though, I was deffo more susceptible to his grumpiness. X

 

[caz_hills]

My son isn't too bad to be honest, I do think I am lucky. He has his moments but then I think in the grand scheme of things its not too bad. He has got a bit naughtier since about 20 months but that coincided with him talking more and then now potty trained so I think it's just as they start to express themselves more. x

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

Terrible 2s is nothing compared to the thunderous 3s. I'm just hoping the 4s aren't fearsome

 

[alaskagrown]

I watch a little girl who just turned 2 last month and something changed over the last month, right on cue. The whole "MINEMINEMINE!!" thing has started, followed by intense melt downs, she bit my daughter for the first time last week, she shoved my daughter into the wall yesterday, and snatched a baby doll stroller from another little girl and proceeded to smack her in the face with it screaming, "MINE!!!!" I know this is all normal and developmental, but it's certainly challenging to deal with!

I also watch a 3 year old and that is a whole different type of challenging! The whole, "Nooooo....I don't want to eat that." (I'm not a short order cook!) "I want to go inside." (while other kids I watch are all happily playing at the park) "I want to go home." (while having a blast at toddler play time) "I don't want toooo!!!" Definitely some attitude there

 

[_Vicky_]

We had terrific twos and threes so far but it's all heading a bit wonky ATM so I'm dreading fearsome fours?!?

 

[mrs_park]

DS1 was a fairly easy teo year old, had his moments but overall we were cruising through thinking what amazing parents we must be However, since his baby brother was born, his behaviour has been revolting. Hope things get better at three, some days I don't think they could get worse!

 

[CormacksGirl]

Adams was an angel until he hit three then OMG total personality switch, have to admit hisehaviour has calmed down a lot now!

 

[Laucu]

For us the later months of being 2 were worse - I'd say from 2.5 onwards! But yes 3 has been harder. Emma has been a proper threenager.

 

[wishuwerehere]

Really struggled with the middle of this year behaviour wise so terrible 3s for us, but i have to say i wasn't brilliant either as i was in the first tri of this pregnancy and feeling awful, so a bit of terrible 23s as well

 

[marchsammy]

Same here, 2 was a lovely age, absolutely perfectly behaved. I Was so proud to say no terrible 2s here. 3 errrr well that's another story

 

[Angelbaby_01]

I never had a problem either, but recently it started........................oh boy and is it hard.

 

[dooop]

Mines definately hit the terrible twos! We hit this at one and a half!!

Im hoping this calms before baby no2 arrives in june!

 

[KatieB]

Tantrums to end all tantrums since about 2.5 and seemingly having the strength of ten grown men when he's having one make it the terrible twos for me!

 

[dizzy65]

Ill give you my toddler for a week than you will know what the terrible 2s and 3s are hahaha