Will you have any more?

[Sam9kids]

My last 4 have been premmies!

I knew Jenson would be early and i knew before i got pregnant.

 

[Kitty23]

I know I've only just had my twins but I think they will be our last . I always dreamed of having a big family but I don't think I can risk my life again. My pre eclampsia was just so severe and the emergency c section was so traumatic, not to mention how unbelievably heartbreaking it is having two babies in SCBU and having to leave them there. xxx

 

[mummy3]

My 3 have all been premmie, but we want 1 more.
I think ive been very unlucky more than anything else, 3 different reasons why they were early.
My first was HELLP syndrome then eclampsia during delivery, my daughter and I were very very lucky to be alive
With my second at 35 weeks my waters broke early, his was an amazing birth and he was jaundiced but otherwise great!
With Anja-Jo I got to 33 weeks with placenta preavia, I spent from 24 weeks having bleeds and hospital bedrest for the last couple of weeks!

We want 4 though and have an amazing obgyn who has given us the go ahead

 

[lizziedripping]

Well, we spent a long time trying to decide whether to have another after the trauma of having a 24 weeker.

Reason we did go for it is because my problem seemed to be incompetent cervix, something that can be helped. Here I am 36/37wks prego with twinnies

For us, we had such an awful time with Evie, we always said we'd do it again in happy circumstances. Of course there were no guarantees, and this pregnancy has been really scary, but it will be worth it to bring home 2 healthy babies. What a gift - we are so lucky.

Even now tho, I will not relax until they're safe in my arms - the legacy of prematurity I'm afraid

 

[Mumof42009]

I think it depends on what the cause was why you had your bubs early and also you need to discuss with your consultant the effects on your health etc.
Ive had 4 pre-term babies due to placenta abruption but as my consultant said to me you cant say it will happen this time or it wont i managed to cope when my little ones were in nicu as i had good family support to look after the others while i was at the hospital i think that is really important. I wont be having anymore myself as i know next time might not turn out how things are supposed to ive been really lucky so far.

 

[MummyTate2b]

This is a really good thread and one my OH & I have thought about a lot since having Ellis - we definately would like one and possibly 2 more children and we are excited at the prospect although naturally we are a bit worried that we might have another little premmie again. We went to see our obstetrician to talk about Ellis's early arrival - there was no know reason for it (I had PPROM) as there was no infection, my placenta was fine, my BP etc was fine - we were told we would have a 1 in 3 chance of having a premmie again but its a risk we are definately willing to take. We were told I would be very closely monitored & could have cervical scans in case a stitch is needed. The hospital where we had Ellis is brilliant but we will be moving to Dublin in August so we will need to do some serious investigating in terms of maternity services & the kind of monitoring I would have. I guess we will make the decision from there depending on the services available to us. I just hope that I can enjoy any future pregnancies and keep a positive mind - good luck to all of you who are TTC after a premmie xx

 

[Sherri81]

Interesting question. I gave birth March 14, 2004, at 25 weeks 0 days. It had been a complicated pregnancy, with bleeding for no reason from 6 weeks on. Bedrest the entire first trimester. Car accident at 13 weeks. More bedrest. Lack of fetal movements by 19 weeks, and then finally, labour at 24 weeks 2 days. I was flown to Vicotria, where they managed to keep me in early labour for 5 days (and I was able to receive steroid shots), before finally delivering him. He weighed 1lb 9 ounces. We ended up staying in the hospital for almost 5 months as he was a very 'lazy' baby. No health problems (if you can believe that for a 25 weeker), he just didn't want to eat or breathe on his own. We were initially yold he would be home by 35 weeks, and ended up going to almost 4 weeks past his due date. He just wasn't a gainer weight wise. Still isn't a big eater; we are lucky if he gains a pound a year right now, but healthy as can be otherwise.

He was my 3rd pregnancy and my first live birth. There was no reason found for his early arrival. At first, after coming out of a super long hospital stay, I said I would never want to have another baby again for fear of that happening again. My GP said hne had no problems with me trying again. A couple of years after Greg was born though, I started thinking I wanted another. A surprise BFP in January 2007, and I was sent to a specialist who estimated I had about a 25% chance of having another preemie, but she was ok with those odds.

Cut to a miscarriage at 11 weeks, and now my odds of having a preterm have gone up again. Another pregnancy 3 months later, and I was given a 40% chance of having another preemie. Cut to pregnancy loss at 13.5 weeks with a genetically normal boy. Odds of having a preemie have again gone up. Another loss at 4 weeks 4 days in July 2009, and now here I am again, pregnant and it is considered viable as a heartbeat was just seen.

I am not sure yet what the Dr will be doing this time around as I have my viability discussion with her this coming Wednesday. My chances of having another preemie are apparently somewhere around 75-80%. Ideally, the Specialist said she will be happy if I get to 32 weeks, and even if things seem to be going well, they will probably induce around 34 weeks as no one trusts my body anymore.

It is very hard to think about this stuff. My desire to have another child has certainly outweighed all of the preterm drama I would go through again. If I am able to 'complete' this pregnancy, then I think I will stop at that. I just want two kids, thats all. 'If' (knock wood it doesn't happen) I lose this one, I think we would try again.

They are trying different things with me this time (aspirin, heparin injections, prometrium suppositories), and there had been talk in the past of doing cerclages at 12 weeks in any future pregnancies, and then weekly steroid injections at 22 weeks on. So I know they are going to try harder this time to give us a good outcome. I know it will be hard if the baby is born early, but we are a bit more fortunate this time around, as hubby's mom lives in Vancouver, so I could stay with her and have a short commute to the hospital if I happened to be placed at BC Womens. And when the baby can be transferred to PG ( which Greg was around 31 weeks), I could stay with my brother and his wife. They have a large house and I would only be 15 minutes from the hospital.

So lodging wise I am covered, as my child (who is now 6), can stay with me at either place, and seeing as he is 6, I think he would be alot better and more understanding of the situation, than if he had have been younger. He knows how and when to be quiet, he walks on his own, and can take care of much of his own needs. So I 'think' we might be ok..... It would still be hard, but much more manageable than it was last time when we had no where to stay, no food etc etc...

 

[divadexie]

Me and OH decided before I was taken to theatre that we won't be having another.
My 4yo was delivered by emergency section at 26 weeks when I had an eclamptic fit.

I had been told that the chances of getting eclampsia again are low, and that if you do get it again its never as bad, and also that because its with a different partner the chances are lowered of having it again.

Except this time it was much much worse and far earlier and there's no way we can go through this again.

We did plan to have another in a year or so, but think we will get a puppy in a year or so instead as I don't want to risk the chance of becoming ill again. Pre eclampsia does run in my family so it just wouldnt be a good idea.

 

[keldac]

After 3 miscarriages i had Shauna by emergency c-section at 29 weeks. She lived for 6 weeks and 2 days in NICU until she caught an infection and died.
We had no choice but to go on and try again. We had so much love to give a child and went on to have 2 fairly normal healthy pregnancies which resulted in my son and daughter.
But then we pushed it again and tried for another!

Mikayla was born at 33 weeks by emergency section due to a concealed placental aburption. This risked both our lives and we came very close to losing another child.
Although I can conceive I have been told not to again and hubby haas had a vasectomy now
If we had had children easily then we probably would have gone on and on!!