Wish the father was OK with this...

[1sttimemom]

I'm feeling rather down today...I just can't stop thinking about how the father will take the news. I haven't been talking to him in weeks and he still doesn't know that I'm pregnant. The last email I sent him I broke things off with him.

He's coming home in two weeks. I've gone over and over how to tell him. What to say. Weather I should do it over the phone or in person. I'd rather inperson but not sure he will make the time for me.

I believe he was just using me for sex. And the worse part is that I do still have feelings for him. I would like nothing more than for him to say that he would like to be a dad and a partner to me as well...but I don't think that will happen. He'll probably beg me not to have it.

God, I wish I knew what his reaction was going to be. Then again I should not let it bother me anyway. I am going to have this baby regardless of his opinion. but I still ...just wish things were different-you know?

Are there anyone else on here in a similar situation? Any Single moms? What do you think I should say?What do you think he will say?

Anyway that's enough of my negativity...

New symptoms today...tender breast & nausea...

 

[Jo]

Sorry hun i don't have any advice just wanted to give you
Good luck x

 

[suzan]

I hope everything turns out to be the way you want to.

 

[staceyp]

yeh good luck with it all mainl stay calm and think of bubs be confident and stand up for urself... things always work out for the best xx

 

[Mantha3]

I think you should go in the conversation with a "we are pregnant and I AM keeping the baby" attitude. You have made you decision and yes he may be upset but you will need to give him time. Don't take anything he says at that moment too seriously, remember he is probably going to be VERY shocked. Give him time to come around.. as a father. As for having feelings for him I would try to just put those feelings on hold, if possible. Right now you need to have a stable and healthy (stress free) environment. Good luck and stay strong!!!!!!

 

[Linzi]

Good luck hun.

Don't let him talk you into anything you arent comfortable with and make it clear he's more than welcome to be in the baby's life, but you ARE keeping it.

Hope everything goes well, he might even suprise you.

xxx

 

[Tilly]

Good luck and I hope he shocks you with his response (in a good way).

Let us know how it goes.

 

[nikkybaby]

Good luck. I hope everything turns out good for you. Either way, you will do fine. Nobody said that you need a man around to raise a child, right?
Right now, think about what's best for you and the baby, and who knows, maybe he will react in a way you never thought?

 

[Samantha675]

So I best friend went to Spain 7 years ago, met an Englishman and 10 days later got pregnant. Before she found out she was pregnant they had a huge fight, and he left. She looked and looked for him, but could not find him any where. So she came back to the US, decided to have the baby and hired a private detective to find the father. It took months to do so. Anyway, when she finally did contact him she was honest. She told him she was pregnant, the baby was his, she made the decision to have the child and wanted to pay him the respect of letting him know. She also said that she wanted him to be a part of their child's life, but would understand if he did not choose to do so. It was scary and a very hard thing for her to say, but I honestly think she did the fair thing. Obviously she didn't get pregnant by herself, but she did make the decision to have the child by herself, so she never felt like she had the right to push fatherhood on him.

Hope this helps.

 

[Serene123]

My boyfriend even went as far as saying he wanted to cut it out of me when he was in shock. But that's what it was, shock. He came around eventually and now he's really excited. You never know how anyones gonna react untill you tell them

 

[PitBullMommy]

Good Luck, stay strong!

 

[lauren-kate]

I'm no longer with my baby-bump's father and it was hard to tell him, but I think it was for the best that I did. I was already very far into the pregnancy so finding out that late was a very big shock to him. He did originally say that he'd help me out financially but he didn't think he'd be able to cope seeing the baby at all. Now he's completely ok with it and he's more than happy to have the baby visit him, and to see him growing up. So, yeah, I agree with everyone else who has said that often the shock of finding out will cause him to say things he doesn't necessarily mean. Good luck.

 

[luckyme225]

Good luck with everything hun I hope you get the response your looking for. My fiance was in so much shock at first that he said there was no way he could be a good father to the baby. We were getting married in February and planed on having kids after a few more years into our careers since we both just graduated college this past year. Things couldn't be better now... hes even the one knocking my caffeine drink out of my hand haha! Remember to stay strong and that your baby loves you very much. I'm sure you will be a fantastic mother