BeccaMichelle
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Hi girls.. I'm turning to you guys for some much needed advice.
Firstly some factoids:
The problem. I have always nursed her to sleep. At the very beginning I had no intention to co-sleep at all but quickly learned it was the only way either of us were going to get any sleep. Even we she was little she'd sleep brilliantly if you were holding her but she seems to have a motion sensor built in and will wake up the second you lay her down. On the few occasions we have been able to lay her down in a cot or on the bed, if she wakes up and you're not next to her she'll freak.
I actually don't mind nursing her to sleep. If she wanted rocked or sung to I'd do that instead, but the problem is that she has so closely associated nursing with sleep. If she partially wakes during the night she'll immediately nuzzle for the breast. If she finds it, she'll suckle for less than a minute and fall back asleep. If she doesn't find it she wakes up completely and cries. Sometimes she doesn't HAVE to have a boob she'll throw out her arm and if she doesn't touch you she'll wake up and yes.. cry. Alternatively she just starts to roll over and if you aren't there to block her she'll roll completely over and instinctively get up on all fours then wake up and wonder how in the world she got there and then... of course, cry.
So I've just been trying not to rock the boat and letting her continue.. but she's 7 months now and I spend all her daytime naps laying next to her on the bed (granted I get to internet while she sleeps! but I don't actually get anything done) We have a cot bed pushed up against our bed where she should be sleeping but of course she sleeps nuzzled up next to me. Which is sweet and all.. but 7 months of not being able to roll over and waking up multiple times a night with a dead arm is starting to get really old.
I've been telling OH that she'll grow out of it or that I want to wait till she's old enough to kind of understand that having her own space isn't the end of the world. But he's starting to worry about the dependence she's developing... and I guess I can see where he's coming from. (He's been so understanding for so long, as you can imagine our love life has taken a bit of hit since the baby was born!) What's got me worried is that the other night he said "she'd just going to have to learn" and I'm concerned he wants to let her cry it out. I've told him so many times that I won't do it and he understands.. but seriously we need to come up with something because as much as we adore our little girl and she's the center of our worlds, it's putting a lot of strain on us.
What do I do??
Firstly some factoids:
- LO is 7 months
- She's breastfed
- we co-sleep
- I'm against all CC
The problem. I have always nursed her to sleep. At the very beginning I had no intention to co-sleep at all but quickly learned it was the only way either of us were going to get any sleep. Even we she was little she'd sleep brilliantly if you were holding her but she seems to have a motion sensor built in and will wake up the second you lay her down. On the few occasions we have been able to lay her down in a cot or on the bed, if she wakes up and you're not next to her she'll freak.
I actually don't mind nursing her to sleep. If she wanted rocked or sung to I'd do that instead, but the problem is that she has so closely associated nursing with sleep. If she partially wakes during the night she'll immediately nuzzle for the breast. If she finds it, she'll suckle for less than a minute and fall back asleep. If she doesn't find it she wakes up completely and cries. Sometimes she doesn't HAVE to have a boob she'll throw out her arm and if she doesn't touch you she'll wake up and yes.. cry. Alternatively she just starts to roll over and if you aren't there to block her she'll roll completely over and instinctively get up on all fours then wake up and wonder how in the world she got there and then... of course, cry.
So I've just been trying not to rock the boat and letting her continue.. but she's 7 months now and I spend all her daytime naps laying next to her on the bed (granted I get to internet while she sleeps! but I don't actually get anything done) We have a cot bed pushed up against our bed where she should be sleeping but of course she sleeps nuzzled up next to me. Which is sweet and all.. but 7 months of not being able to roll over and waking up multiple times a night with a dead arm is starting to get really old.
I've been telling OH that she'll grow out of it or that I want to wait till she's old enough to kind of understand that having her own space isn't the end of the world. But he's starting to worry about the dependence she's developing... and I guess I can see where he's coming from. (He's been so understanding for so long, as you can imagine our love life has taken a bit of hit since the baby was born!) What's got me worried is that the other night he said "she'd just going to have to learn" and I'm concerned he wants to let her cry it out. I've told him so many times that I won't do it and he understands.. but seriously we need to come up with something because as much as we adore our little girl and she's the center of our worlds, it's putting a lot of strain on us.
What do I do??