Working/student Mums. Do you feel guilty?

[ktm_x]

I work Saturday and Sunday and I'm at college 3 days a week. LO Dad works full time. I need to be working and at college so we have a decent income coming in as my student loan is term time only.

When I'm off I have lots of college work to do which I try and do at nights when LO is asleep, and I have to do the housework during the day.

I try to spend as much time as possible with her but I can't shake the guilt trip, it actually makes me want to cry every day.

I am at college trying to get a career so she has a good life when she's older.

She travels with me to college and back and goes to nursery there, and is with my parents who she is very very close to when I work if her Dad is not off.

Am I the only person to feel like this? Should I give up work and be short of money? I honestly can't feel I'm doing right for wrong.

Sorry for the moan x

 

[Blah11]

No. I'm doing what's best for our family at the moment and instead of being sad about the time I don't spend with her, I make the most of the time we do have. Im on mat leave now but still send amelie to nursery as she enjoys it and gets bored at home now.

 

[Kay_Baby]

I worked yesterday and the day before day as KIT days before I go back to work full time in March and I felt horribly guilty for it.

It didn't help that something major came up at work yesterday and by the time I got home he was in bed asleep. I cried but I know that keeping a roof over his head and providing for him is more important. He had a fantastic two days with my MIL (I even have pictures to prove it).

When I'm going back to work in March, he will be going to nursery four days and with my MIL one day and I'm trying to look at the positives around it all. He will get to socialise with other children a lot, become more independent and get to spend at lot of time with his Granny doing all the fun things she has planned (you should see the list of places she wants to take him when he is big enough to enjoy them).

I think I will always feel a little guilty about not being a SAHM but I know that this is what’s best for us as a family.

 

[ktm_x]

I worked yesterday and the day before day as KIT days before I go back to work full time in March and I felt horribly guilty for it.

It didn't help that something major came up at work yesterday and by the time I got home he was in bed asleep. I cried but I know that keeping a roof over his head and providing for him is more important. He had a fantastic two days with my MIL (I even have pictures to prove it).

When I'm going back to work in March, he will be going to nursery four days and with my MIL one day and I'm trying to look at the positives around it all. He will get to socialise with other children a lot, become more independent and get to spend at lot of time with his Granny doing all the fun things she has planned (you should see the list of places she wants to take him when he is big enough to enjoy them).

I think I will always feel a little guilty about not being a SAHM but I know that this is what’s best for us as a family.

Well in a way that's the positives I see. Ellie is very independant and her speech etc is amazing and I put it down to her going to nursery so young. She loves it and buzzes about the minute I drop her off. She is very close with my parents and brother. It is just a second home for her at my parent's. I love she has a close bond with them as I don't with anyone outside my immediate family.

I also need to be working to keep a roof over our heads and have a life where I can afford to provide her with good things but in comparison to some of my friends who just stay at home with their little ones it seems I'm not there that much.

 

[vaniilla]

I don't feel guilty one bit, infact I feel proud of the fact that I'm out there and so is his dad to give him a wonderful life, be able to give him a private education and lots of opportunities, being there for someone doesn't always have to be in the physical sense. I would feel guilty if we had nothing to offer him apart from our company and it means when we do spend time as a family we can do lots together.

 

[alicemummy]

I will be starting again probably September 2013, as I want to go back and do a IT course. But I wont feel guilty one bit. Your working/studying for a reason. The things you get for your LO wont pay for themselves. X

 

[rwhite]

I do feel not so much guilty but sad that I am missing out on all the cool new things he is doing during the weekdays. When he comes out with a new word (which is constantly now) I wonder whether it's new new or whether he's said it to his caregiver already and I do get a bit of a twinge but to be honest, working full time will allow us to have our own home within the next couple of years so I think it's worth it in the long run.

And it means less stress at home because OH and I fight quite a lot about money if I am at home with Lachlan, so it saves that hassle too.

 

[Baby France]

I feel guilty. I feel pretty crap tbh.

I work full time and my babies are in nursery part time. They get to spend 2 days with daddy (he works shifts) and the other half day with my mum.

Sometimes at the weekend I'm shattered (very demanding job) and just look forward to snuggling watching films with the kids and other weekends I'm full of energy and they get day trip over load.

We're still getting into settling into our new routine. However my job is very well paid and I love it. I've worked hard to get my career before my babies and personally in this climate I'd be silly to walk away from something I love so much now.

Try not to feel bad and focus on the reasons why you are doing what you are x x x

 

[tallybee]

Being a caring and good mummy, being away from LO will always feel shit. Just remember the reasons you're doing what you do - to benefit her in the long run.

Remember, the studying won't be forever either, and hopefully the job you can get afterwards will allow your family a better quality of life.

xx

 

[_laura]

I don't feel guilty. Max is in nursery 5 days a week and I'm at Uni and work part time. I'm providing for my child and the time we spend together is even better. He's also advanced so well in his speech and physical developments.

 

[teal]

I'm a single mum to my 22 month old and I need to work. I don't feel guilty because I'm doing what is best for my son and I xx

 

[ktm_x]

I don't feel guilty. Max is in nursery 5 days a week and I'm at Uni and work part time. I'm providing for my child and the time we spend together is even better. He's also advanced so well in his speech and physical developments.

I find that with Ellie too, due to nursery. Good news is my work are letting me just work a Sat 10-4 now and have a Sunday off which is great as not only is it an extra day, it's OH day off 3 out of 4 weeks of the month!