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Hi everyone. Sorry this is long. I was wondering if anyone can relate to what I'm feeling as a lot of people I have spoken to, DH included do not seem to understand what I mean. Basically I have been ttc for only 2 months but I am wanting to take a break in March/April if I don't get a bfp before then due to the fact that I don't want to be having my child around Christmas time. It is not for me or the fact that I don't want to spend the Christmas season in the hospital or anything like that! It's for the child. I've known SO many people throughout my life that have birthday's anywhere from 1st of December to late January that all tell me the same thing. Their birthdays are miserable times. They never had parties as children because their friends were all away for Christmas. Their birthdays somehow always got lost or worse joined with Christmas so their siblings would have presents and parties earlier in the year where as these kids got one present for Christmas/Birthday and no party.
Don't get me wrong I know that I personally will never let my child's birthday get lost in Christmas but I can not say the same for his/her relatives and friends. I feel it's just selfish of me to try at a time when I know it will give them a Christmas Birthday but at the same time I just don't know if I will be able to bring myself to take a break from ttc for this reason, especially when everyone else tells me I'm being stupid. Anyone else feel the same or at least know where I'm coming from? I'm thinking if I do happen to have a christmas birthday I can celebrate earlier in the year with them. Has anyone done this successfully?
Don't get me wrong I know that I personally will never let my child's birthday get lost in Christmas but I can not say the same for his/her relatives and friends. I feel it's just selfish of me to try at a time when I know it will give them a Christmas Birthday but at the same time I just don't know if I will be able to bring myself to take a break from ttc for this reason, especially when everyone else tells me I'm being stupid. Anyone else feel the same or at least know where I'm coming from? I'm thinking if I do happen to have a christmas birthday I can celebrate earlier in the year with them. Has anyone done this successfully?