worried I don't even have a baby in me!

[mrsmonroe]

I found out I was pregnant almost a month ago and have never been so confused and worried in my life, this is my first pregnancy. I was in a car wreck a coupla weeks before I found out, I had tons of x-rays and a ct scan, a week later the meds they had me on gave me a grand mal seizure, which brought more x-rays and another ct scan.I took two home tests,both showed positive before I was done peeing! So I wanted to get an ultrasound to make sure I hadn't conceived before the x-rays. unfortunately I don't have insurance so had to go to PPH. Had two positve tests but when the ultrasound was done they saw nothing but an empty sac. I was 5wks 1 day(conception after all x-rays), but the tech said blighted ovum. Rain of tears. The Dr. came in and told me it was too early to tell by the ultrasound and they needed to take a blood test, followed in 48hrs by a second one to compare. That my HcG levels should double by the second. My first HcG levels were 9311. I just got my second test results. The person calling told me my #'s had only increased by 600. She said abnormal pregnancy, that I should come back in for my second scheduled ultrasound, but I probably have an ectopic( but I've had no pain or bleeding) and they would give me several options but more than likely they would suck out the sac then send it to the lab to check if it was empty or not. I told her that sounded stupid!
I was excited for 7 seconds after I found out I was pregnant. PPH has stolen that from me on three separate occasions and all the time in between, besides the 5 times they have asked if I want an D&C.
I looked on-line and an HcG of 9311 is high for 5wks., and probably won't double in 48hrs, it said they won't double for up to 4 days in some cases. I am scared and need some encouragement other than my super hopeful husband. Should I worry, plan on bad news. Or is all this normal( not the info from PPH)? and should I just wait untill I can see a real ob/gyn when my insurance kicks in Oct.?

 

[Kates1122]

i would wait! my cousin got told she was having an ectopic pregnancy, and on the day they wanted to do the d&c, she demanded an ultrasound, and there was sweet little baby in the right place!

 

[stickylizard]

I have NO idea I'm so sorry hun. Didn't wanna read and run and I'm so sorry you;re going through this scary ordeal. Good luck fx for you xxx

 

[mrsmonroe]

I am a ball of nerves. I won't do the d and c, not with them anyway. But I am so scared from all the news I have gotten in the last week! But that does sound encouraging Kates, Thank you

 

[Cowgirlranda]

well I hope everything turns out alright! I dont know much about ectopic's but I will send you tons of baby dust and have my Fx'd

 

[luckybreak]

you are too early!! it sounds like from the beginning they are ready to terminate this pregnancy jeez...it takes time! dont let them push you around...unless you are bleeding or in pain that might be a threat to you tell them you want to wait and make darn sure you have given this peanut time to grow or show what will happen next...I was 5 weeks 1 day when I had my first hcg and it was 8000+ all they saw was a sac and yolk told me it was too early...just give it time and dont let them stress u out if you look around this board you will a lot of us 5 weekers are yet to see a pole so we are waiting...Good luck

 

[1liz9]

Each situation is different. I had high HCG in my last pregnancy which ended up being a blighted ovum.

BUT- I waited, to be sure. At the least your conscious is clear, right? So they said they want to do another ultrasound. When????

In my case I waited to 7 weeks. HCG got up to 60,000, but ultrasound showed no baby...just the yolk sac. You hear so many stories which go the otwr way though which is why I waited.

 

[Sunnidlite]

I would wait. Don't let PPH take your baby and check afterwards to see if there is an actual baby in there. I know it's hard to wait, but Oct is just around the corner. I would rather be safe and have a second opinion from your doc. Just think of it as the 2 week wait that we all go thru. You never know, miracles do happen. Try not to stress and keep positive!
Sunni

 

[karla1]

i was told i was having an eptopic but after 5 hours in hospital and finally having an ultrasound we saw (@4w+2) the sac and yolk in my uteras where it should be and at 5w4d we saw a little heart beating away please dont do anything without another ultrasound i am sure your baby is just fine in your uteras snuggling in nice a comfy and deep x

 

[BrandysBabies]

I think it is way too early for them to be making such rash decisions! Please wait til your next scan. I you are not bleeding or in pain, just wait until Oct.

BTW, You live right down the road rom me! I am in Davenport!

 

[BrandysBabies]

I think it is way too early for them to be making such rash decisions! Please wait til your next scan. I you are not bleeding or in pain, just wait until Oct.

BTW, You live right down the road from me! I am in Davenport!

 

[mrsmonroe]

you are too early!! it sounds like from the beginning they are ready to terminate this pregnancy jeez...it takes time! dont let them push you around...unless you are bleeding or in pain that might be a threat to you tell them you want to wait and make darn sure you have given this peanut time to grow or show what will happen next...I was 5 weeks 1 day when I had my first hcg and it was 8000+ all they saw was a sac and yolk told me it was too early...just give it time and dont let them stress u out if you look around this board you will a lot of us 5 weekers are yet to see a pole so we are waiting...Good luck

I feel like they have wanted it from the start and were upset that I want to keep it. I am gettin pulled in so many directions, so much bad info, my head feels life marshmellow fluff! I want this so bad that's what make it so hard to hear all this bad news day after day! I talk to him/her everyday, Telling him/her to grow and b strong so we can throw it in all their faces! I hope I am not setting myself up!

 

[BrandysBabies]

Are you eligable for Medicaid? There are a ton of great great DR that take it. Maybe something to look into.

 

[Tigerlilyb]

Wow way to scare the hell out of you! I agree with Luckybreak, it sounds like they don't even want you to be pregnant. With a lot of pregnancies you won't even see a baby til 6+ weeks, and as you said, HCG levels don't always double after 5 weeks, they can take up to 4 days to completely double. Wait it out and try and relax Fingers crossed for you!

 

[libbylou]

Definitely wait a bit and don't go for the D&C!
HCG levels don't always increase the same way in every pregnancy and it is very early on for the u/s.
Hang onto hope and I pray that your LO is healthy

 

[pithikaki]

If you're feeling ok and you haven't had any horrific pains anywhere or bleeding, I wouldn't worry terribly. I know that's so much harder to do than say (I'm a nervous wreck also. =\ ) I wouldn't intervene, and so early, it's really not right for them to tell you that you should, imo.

Your insurance is starting in o=October, thats only a week or so away! If you can, try to make an appointment since a lot of OBs are booked (atleast where I am), that way when your insurance does come through, you'll be able to go right away.

If you really can't hold out or you foresee complications with your insurance, a lot of doctors offer payment plans and/or accept credit cards.

 

[PoodleMommy]

I feel like they have wanted it from the start and were upset that I want to keep it.

That makes me LIVID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DEFINITELY don't let them pressure you into a D&C!!! If they did that, and they discovered you actually had a living, viable baby that they killed, I bet they wouldn't even tell you!!! Just hold out for your new insurance to kick in and go to a doctor where the priority is on saving babies when possible, not killing them off at the first sign of a problem!

And in the meantime, go to the Misdiagnosed Miscarriage site. You will find hundreds of examples where women were told this very thing, but ended up having perfect, living, full-term babies. It will set your mind at ease until you can see a proper doctor. Hang in there and stay away from those PPH bullies!!

 

[mom2ndtime]

Hi, I am going through the same thing for more details i have thread "Blighted ovum is there a hope" read that plzzzzzzz tomorrow I have my u/s hope to see my baby and hear a HB. Don't be discourged and dont rush give yourself some time. It is still early do u have tipped uterus.

 

[mrsmonroe]

I think it is way too early for them to be making such rash decisions! Please wait til your next scan. I you are not bleeding or in pain, just wait until Oct.

BTW, You live right down the road from me! I am in Davenport!

That's one of the reasons I think they are so wrong. I am in no pain. A few twinges in my tummy( side-like) but I would think an ectopic would by painful all the time. I just wish I knew more about HcG levels, b/c that's all they are going by. Thanks, Brandy. Nice to know we're neighbors : )

 

[mrsmonroe]

Each situation is different. I had high HCG in my last pregnancy which ended up being a blighted ovum.

BUT- I waited, to be sure. At the least your conscious is clear, right? So they said they want to do another ultrasound. When????

In my case I waited to 7 weeks. HCG got up to 60,000, but ultrasound showed no baby...just the yolk sac. You hear so many stories which go the otwr way though which is why I waited.

They want u/s #2 saturday. I've been thinking of maybe going to give another blood sample tommorrow, and just talking to the DR. on sat.,that way she'll have another hcg reading to go by. Then waiting till Oct. to get the next u/s. I dunno...I really don't even want to give them ANY more money to make more misdiagnosis!