bunyhuny
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So I am pregnant for the 5th time (with no live births- IVF m/c, IVF ectopic, IVF chemical, natural chemical) after several rounds of IVF. My IVF clinic is overseas, and I've been handed off to my perinatologist and OB for the rest of my pregnancy. However, my OB and peri don't seem to know a lot about the meds I'm on. So a couple days ago I messaged Dr Sher, the head doctor at SIRM, who is "the" immunological IVF guy in the US and will answer questions from people besides his patients, and asked him some questions about what he thinks of my doses and how long he thinks I should stay on the different meds.
His response, instead of saying my meds are good, or telling me to maybe take a higher dose or take a dose for longer, tells me that based on what I've said, he thinks that DH and I have never had the correct testing done for our losses and that he thinks that we have a genetic incompatibility that we are not currently treating for. He pretty much told me that since we aren't treating for the thing he thinks we have, that our baby will likely die in the next month, before the trimester ends, and it is too late now to do anything about it because- even though everything looks totally fine right now, there is likely microscopic damage that was done at implantation that is slowly killing the baby and it is irreversible.
SERIOUSLY???? That's what he says to a woman who tells him she's worried and asks for his advice?
Oh. And he also said that if the baby dies (like he's apparently assuming it will) that I should call his office to set up an intake so that I can do my next IVF with him.
His response, instead of saying my meds are good, or telling me to maybe take a higher dose or take a dose for longer, tells me that based on what I've said, he thinks that DH and I have never had the correct testing done for our losses and that he thinks that we have a genetic incompatibility that we are not currently treating for. He pretty much told me that since we aren't treating for the thing he thinks we have, that our baby will likely die in the next month, before the trimester ends, and it is too late now to do anything about it because- even though everything looks totally fine right now, there is likely microscopic damage that was done at implantation that is slowly killing the baby and it is irreversible.
SERIOUSLY???? That's what he says to a woman who tells him she's worried and asks for his advice?
Oh. And he also said that if the baby dies (like he's apparently assuming it will) that I should call his office to set up an intake so that I can do my next IVF with him.