Deeper Blue
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Hi everyone,
Spend most of my time in the toddlers forum but thought you guys could give me some insight if you could.
When my little girl was born I went through the phase of wanting another child -immediately- which eventually faded, and since my husband always insisted he only ever wanted one I put the idea on the back burner. Now Isla is reaching the 2 year mark I've occasionally mentioned to OH about having another and the other night he actually said he'd be happy with us having another if its what I wanted... so now the balls in my court I'm wondering if it is actually a good idea.
OH was an only child and said he was perfectly happy, not lonely in the slightest. I've got half brothers but grew up without them and had a great childhood. All of our parents have brothers and/or sisters but none of them get on with each other and some don't even talk at all. My dad said he used to argue with his brothers and sisters all the time. My brother has 3 children, and although he loves them all dearly he does say 3 kids is 3 kids too many and particularly thinks number three may not have been a good idea!
Am I just unlucky to be surrounded by all these negative experiences?!
When we were trying for Isla I was -desperate- for her and I don't have that same feeling for a second... does that mean I shouldn't have another unless I get the feeling again? I know I would love another child if I had one and I don't want Isla to be lonely when she's older, but I'm not sure it's a good idea if it's really just going to be perpetual arguments between them.
*sigh* maybe I'm being too practical.
I know everyone loves their children and wouldn't be without them but I guess my question is: are there more times when your a referee than a mum if you have more than one or is it easier than I think? Is it just my disfunctional family that has all these problems? Could they really get on like Charley and Lola?
Would love your opinions.
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Spend most of my time in the toddlers forum but thought you guys could give me some insight if you could.
When my little girl was born I went through the phase of wanting another child -immediately- which eventually faded, and since my husband always insisted he only ever wanted one I put the idea on the back burner. Now Isla is reaching the 2 year mark I've occasionally mentioned to OH about having another and the other night he actually said he'd be happy with us having another if its what I wanted... so now the balls in my court I'm wondering if it is actually a good idea.
OH was an only child and said he was perfectly happy, not lonely in the slightest. I've got half brothers but grew up without them and had a great childhood. All of our parents have brothers and/or sisters but none of them get on with each other and some don't even talk at all. My dad said he used to argue with his brothers and sisters all the time. My brother has 3 children, and although he loves them all dearly he does say 3 kids is 3 kids too many and particularly thinks number three may not have been a good idea!
Am I just unlucky to be surrounded by all these negative experiences?!
When we were trying for Isla I was -desperate- for her and I don't have that same feeling for a second... does that mean I shouldn't have another unless I get the feeling again? I know I would love another child if I had one and I don't want Isla to be lonely when she's older, but I'm not sure it's a good idea if it's really just going to be perpetual arguments between them.
*sigh* maybe I'm being too practical.
I know everyone loves their children and wouldn't be without them but I guess my question is: are there more times when your a referee than a mum if you have more than one or is it easier than I think? Is it just my disfunctional family that has all these problems? Could they really get on like Charley and Lola?
Would love your opinions.
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