Would you date an older guy?

[jaytee146]

I was at the store the other day and this guy approached me and asked for my number. i knew he was a little older but i found out he was 19years older than i am and is a bit overbearing. i've already told him i'm celibate and not looking to date and he seems okay with that. never the less i figured if i were going to date an older guy that he needed to be more established. i don.'t mean rich but at least have somewhere to live, a job and other stuff. anyway this led me to the question. would you date an older guy? why or why not?

 

[angelpkj]

hmm i think oldest i'd go would be 31/32 and im 23
i like to think older men will want to settle down and play family etc etc want i want really

if they was older and still lived with there mum no or rubbish job i wouldnt be interested tho

 

[Dezireey]

Well I am 38 so an older guy for me might be a grandad lol! Dont believe just because a man is way older that he is more responsible, mature etc. My FOB is 38 and still behaved like a child. I think I would look for a bloke that has a good steady job, his own place and a super kind personality, regardless of age.

 

[angelpkj]

yeah deffo my recent ex was 28 going on 12 haha could not cope with looking after two children!

 

[jaytee146]

What on earth would we talk about Guy's lol! i've tried to be very honest about how i feel. and he is still hanging around. LMAO here's his specs i'm twenty five he's forty four. i'm seven years older than his only child. he got divorced six years ago, she got the house, car, dog ect. he does construction work and all disposable income he has is going to fix his Mother's old house so he could live there. (his mother is living with his sister)the way he describes it. he lives in a group home in an efficiency apartment. he text me all day while i'm working and calls me when i make it home. SAY'S he just wanted to hear my voice. i told him yesterday "look old guy stop being overbearing it's to much!" and his response was there are two Female's to every male and he can choose whom ever he wants but he chooses me because i seem to be a loving mother and have a kind heart. i'm not attracted to him and it seems like he tries to tell me what he could do for me sexually if we were dating. go figure the first conversation i had with someone would be him! not only is he empowering me to maintain my celibacy but it's going to be a while before i give my number out again!

 

[Dezireey]

Ooh I'd steer well clear of him! thinks hes doing you a favour by choosing you? WTF? and hes being a bit of a pervy old dude already, yuck. Two types of men women should always stay clear of, those that show waaay to much full on interest with early sex talk and those that cant be arsed to make an effort in the beginning.

 

[jemmie1994]

is pretty impossible to find someone my own age who is as mature or set up as i would like a guy to be like but i've been talking to a guy whose 26 (im coming up for 18) and he just acts like a kid still,its such a turn off

 

[teal]

I guess for me it would all depend on how much I liked them. I do think age is just a number but I'd say for me within reason. I very much doubt I would be attracted to someone more than 10 years or so older than me.

The last guy I was seeing was 33 and I thought that was so old until I remembered I was 26

 

[jaytee146]

I even told him he was coming off as desperate by Texting all day and wanting to talk half the nite. my exact phrasing was it's a bit much for me going from only talking to God and my baby to now someone textin and calling. i said i would like to place great emphasis on the fact that i'm only looking for a friend.someone to talk to every now and again. i said don.'t take it as a challenge, don.'t think that i'm just saying it to see what you have to offer. i like my space and the fact that you're Texting talking about an instant attraction sounds kinda elementary\grade school and that concerns me. so this mornin he said he'd give me some space and said pray for him as i was gettin lo and myself dressed for church services

 

[jaytee146]

The reason why i'm celibate is because i know that until i work on me, i'm going to always attract people like Fob and i need to make smarter healthier decisions because it's not just me anymore. I have enough on my Plate without having to care for a grown man who wants to hug and kiss on meall day and has nothing more to offer. i have to be a good example for my baby and show her what love is and how she should be treated!

 

[tooyoung]

My opinion is that I prefer older guys. While not all are more mature, some are. Somehow we just need to find those good ones.

I think that guy is way too old for you, I mean 19 yrs older? Jeez man
Who knows what his motives are? We have to be extra careful when we have young children!

 

[moomin_troll]

19 yrs would be abit too big of a age gap for me but if and when I do date I will go for a older guy as someone my age wouldn't understand me I don't think. And I too also want someone abit more astablished.

I've got 2 kids and I own my home so I wouldn't feel secure dating someone who didn't work

 

[Laura2919]

Well I am 38 so an older guy for me might be a grandad lol! Dont believe just because a man is way older that he is more responsible, mature etc. My FOB is 38 and still behaved like a child. I think I would look for a bloke that has a good steady job, his own place and a super kind personality, regardless of age.

This made me Some men still look rather dapper in their old age so you never know! lol.

I don't see a problem as long as there isn't anything that would get in the way that comes with a difference in age. If you act older than your age anyway why not!

You never know what age the right person for you is. Doesn't mean he is going to be your age, younger, older you just never ever know. Don't turn down opportunities because of age turn them down because you know for sure he isn't your type..

Good luck

 

[Laura2919]

Plus did you know you have to deduct 10 years from their actual age to get their real age? Men don't grow up as quickly as women

 

[Jinty]

I would date older guys but by older guys i mean like max 6-7 years. 19 years older is way to big of an age gap for me! Unless he looked a little bit older than me, totally gorgeous, rich and treats me and my LO likes princesses xD The chances of that happening is like 0%...

 

[CanadianMaple]

My husband is 10 years older than me. Not what I would have purposely looked for, but he was so amazing and special, I couldn't resist.

I wouldn't take someone who was overbearing no matter what his age.

 

[jaytee146]

Plus did you know you have to deduct 10 years from their actual age to get their real age? Men don't grow up as quickly as women

 

[ally87]

my hubby is 16 years older than me and i wouldnt change us for the world. I didnt go out looking for an older man, but when we met i knew we had something. The world was against us, but 6 years later and a beautiful daughter we have proved them all wrong. Some people go for the older man some dont, but you never no until your in that position, i was dead set against it, it wasw one of my rules but hey ho im in love and ive never been treated so good.