would you phone the police if a neighbours baby was crying?

[Debi]

Bloody hell! I get that they may have been concerned about lo, but surely a knock on the door to check first would be more appropriate?! I would be raging and probably stick a cheeky note up in the communal bit! Try not to worry op, a baby crying a little bit before bedtime does not warrant a police visit!!!

 

[JessyG]

If they were that concerned they could have popped over to lend a hand, check you/baby were ok.

It was not necessary imo. if you and your husband were screaming at each other or baby then that is different but guess what babies cry.

I am always worried my neighbours will hear Bella crying and do the same. I would never leave her for 30 mins to cry but that doesn't mean she wouldn't cry in my arms for that long when she had colic.

 

[Pink Flowers]

can I ask why he was crying for half an hour? Henry can cry when I put him to bed sometimes but never that long x

Usually I rock , let him lay with me in my bed, let him stay up until hes tired but this can take until midnight so id decided to put him into his bed and every few mins wed go in and soothe him. It obviously didnt work and I wont be trying it again but it was a failed attempt at me trying to get him to sleep in his cot, he wasnt left for 30 mins however we were in there for most of it with him. (First 5 mins I wasnt)

I wasn't judging I was just asking. As we had 10 minutes of screaming the other day, and I couldn't work out what it was and after trying to sooth him I gave him some teething stuff and he went to sleep

 

[TMonster]

Zoe had one night where she was totally inconsolable. No matter what I did she would cry and cry and cry. I kept calling the doctor and he kept telling me it was colic. After 36 hours of this I brought her to the ER. I would be extremely upset if someone called the police!

Even if the baby was crying for hours, its still normal. A colicy baby generally cries for over 3 hours nonstop in the evening. A normal baby cries for about 3 hours/day not consecutively and many cry much, much more than that.

I would leave a note and say that if they have any concerns to feel free to knock on your door or call you.

 

[catty]

Well I guess I cant use cry it out or crying methods to get him to sleep now which is probably a good thing that has came of this as I never wanted to do it anyway. Last night was a final straw dont know what else to do type night.

He would easily cry in my arms for just as long though so kinda lost as how to go forward with this.

 

[Nat0619]

Bloody hell! I get that they may have been concerned about lo, but surely a knock on the door to check first would be more appropriate?! I would be raging and probably stick a cheeky note up in the communal bit! Try not to worry op, a baby crying a little bit before bedtime does not warrant a police visit!!!

This! Way over the top in my opinion. God help them when your LO becomes a toddler with screaming tantrums that really do sound like you're killing them. They'd better get used to it.

 

[catty]

can I ask why he was crying for half an hour? Henry can cry when I put him to bed sometimes but never that long x

Usually I rock , let him lay with me in my bed, let him stay up until hes tired but this can take until midnight so id decided to put him into his bed and every few mins wed go in and soothe him. It obviously didnt work and I wont be trying it again but it was a failed attempt at me trying to get him to sleep in his cot, he wasnt left for 30 mins however we were in there for most of it with him. (First 5 mins I wasnt)

I wasn't judging I was just asking. As we had 10 minutes of screaming the other day, and I couldn't work out what it was and after trying to sooth him I gave him some teething stuff and he went to sleep

That reminds me I must buy more teething stuff haha. No I know your not judging.
probably one of the nagatives that comes from living in a flat.

 

[HKateH]

I'm not sure - if the baby rarely cried then yes, maybe. Not because of worry that the parents have hurt it, but in case the parents were unable to respond (ill, passed out etc). I can see why it upset you though!

 

[Dragonfly]

While baby's do cry screaming for half an hour means something's wrong. While I'm sure your pissed off think about it this way, they had your child's best interests at heart.

For all they knew something could have happened to you, you could have passed out or something and that's why LO was crying none stop.

This.

I agree here. I dont know your neighbors but do you think it was done out of concern of maliciousness?

 

[catty]

Im scared for next year when I have a newborn and a 1 year old, they will really hate me then and we cant move for about 5 years.

Wish I didnt take everything so personally.

I honestly dont know if theybwould have been malicious I think they just wanted the noise to stop. If you were worried someone had passed out would you not go and check? I personally dont think I would knock on someones door incase they screamed at me

 

[pink_bow]

Do they not have children? I would be fuming. My daughter cried 24/7 for the first 5 months of her life due to various reasons and she still cries a lot now.

Don't let them make you feel bad, yes they may have done it because they were concerned but calling the police is so far fetched x

 

[tristansmum]

No that's just plain weird and a total waste of police time!
Try to forget it and enjoy your night out. They are the ones in the wrong not you.

 

[felix555]

I wouldn't but years ago (before I had a baby!) I nearly did. We lived in an apartment and the lady upstairs had a baby that constantly cried which is fine but the lady would keep shouting at the top of her lungs for the baby to shut the f*** up. I didn't phone but there were times I thought about phoning the health service team in our area to check on her. I thought this woman is probably already so low (you could hear her crying all the time) that it might just push her over the edge.

 

[Noo]

I will probably get shot down in flames but yes I have rang the police for a screaming baby. I'd tried knocking the door to offer assistance twice after 15 minutes then 30 minutes and got no response so I rang the Police as I was concerned for the welfare of the baby considering I couldn't get the parents attention. Turns out the baby (around 9 months old) was stood in his cot screaming whilst his parents were passed out drunk on sofa (9pm) so I'm glad I did ring them and a social services referral was made. I'd do it again tomorrow. It is not a waste of police time to perform a welfare visit on a baby/child. Who knows what they'd find.

If your neighbours upstairs are students then I doubt they'll have much idea of what is or isn't normal crying in a baby and were either concerned for your baby or pissed off with noise and assumed since the baby wasn't being calmed that he wasn't being tended to - They'd not know colic etc means hours of crying. But, that being said... A flat isn't really a good environment for sleep training which includes crying

 

[catty]

I will probably get shot down in flames but yes I have rang the police for a screaming baby. I'd tried knocking the door to offer assistance twice after 15 minutes then 30 minutes and got no response so I rang the Police as I was concerned for the welfare of the baby considering I couldn't get the parents attention. Turns out the baby (around 9 months old) was stood in his cot screaming whilst his parents were passed out drunk on sofa (9pm) so I'm glad I did ring them and a social services referral was made. I'd do it again tomorrow.

If your neighbours upstairs are students then I doubt they'll have much idea of what is or isn't normal crying in a baby and were either concerned for your baby or pissed off with noise and assumed since the baby wasn't being calmed that he wasn't being tended to - They'd not know colic etc means hours of crying. But, that being said... A flat isn't really a good environment for sleep training which includes crying

I do think that is very different though as they never answered the door. If someone came to my door and I didnt answer and then the police came I would be far more understanding as to why they did it.
I would agree in your situation you did the right thing

The baby would have cried wherever he was unfortunately it was just one of them nights that nothing worked.

It just think people blaring music in a flat shouldnt be phoning the police because the sound of crying irritates them, but of course I couls be wrong and they may actually have been worried.

 

[bumpy_j]

Total waste of Police time - they are not there just to check something you could easily do yourself. Now they have simply made it awkward and uncomfortable for you to have a crying baby in your home, which is awful. It would be different if they knocked on the door with no response, but that wasn't attempted. Really misjudged and hysterical behaviour IMO.

 

[bumpy_j]

That's such a horrible thing to happen, poor you hun
You don't say, but do you already know your neighbours?
Regardless, I would definitely go and knock on the neighbours door. I wouldn't do it in a confrontational way as if they don't know you, then they may think you are an aggressive person which could add fuel to the fire, but just explain how upset you are and ask what they heard, and what motivated them to call the police.
Then maybe you can come up with a resolution
xxx

No, I dont no them iv seen them whilst leaving the building and they seem early 20's. I was going to maybe post a letter apologising for the noise but that my son is having a hard time sleeping and he is going through a stage where crying might happen. Just so they dont phone again but I dont know if it will look either rude or cheeky.

I would definitely do this. Maybe tell them that they're welcome to knock if it's been a ridiculously long time, just in case something HAS happened (passing out etc.)? It wouldn't look cheeky, they'd probably appreciate it rather than worrying that they've cheesed you off for good.

 

[doddy0402]

I often wonder what my neighbours think of us! Olly has bad silent reflux and Lils is smack bang in the middle of the terrible two's, our house sounds like absolute chaos some times! I would be mortified if the police came round though! They really should have knocked on your door if they were concerned. X

 

[lovelylaura]

Thats crazy half an hour wouldn't make me call the police especially if its a one off! I would just try and forget it. x

 

[lozzy21]

You have just said you don't know them so that means they don't know you. They don't know your not a tottal arsehole who's not going to start screaming at them for interfering or then cause trouble.