Would you say something?

[Kit]

I am really angry with one of the other mums at the nursery and can't decide whether to say something to her. As far as I can tell, this mum does nothing but moan about the nursery but doesn't take her LO away. He is the only other baby in cloth nappies and they are the same make and colour as ours, just a bit older. Somehow her LO was sent home in one of our nappies and she realised it was newer. She had all her other nappies - I was just one short. She took huge offence at this mistake (which doesn't bother me at all) and returned my nappy, unwashed and with her son's explosive poo still all over it! I have therefore had to scrape another baby's dried on poo out of my nappy. Now if this had happened the other way round she would have got a clean, dry nappy back with a message about what powder I had used. I would think this would be fairly normal behaviour. I want to say something to her but I can't decide whether to be upfront and say 'look, that was disgusting and I am a bit shocked you would do something like that' or to be a bit touchy geeky about it and say 'it made things a bit difficult so cn we both make sure that we wash the other nappy if it happens again'. I suspect it will end in an argument either way from what I know of her!

 

[Mindy_mini]

Im with you. I'd have returned it clean.

I cant offer advice on if you should say something or not but I think you are in the right.

 

[MummyKaya]

That's disgusting! Never, ever would I do something like that. No respect. I'd probably say something, but knowing me I'd worry afterwards that it would make things uncomfortable, but god yeah, something needs to be said x

ETA I'd say it in a polite way and if she got funny tough ****!

 

[mummy_mi]

That's terrible in my opinion! I would so have washed it before gaving it back, whether it was a tshirt, nappy, whatever! It's not like it was your fault her son ended up in it either!

I would as tactfully as possible say something, maybe like, 'in case this happens again, if I find my LO in one of your nappies I'll clean it and bring it back to you the next morning'. Maybe then she'll feel like saying she'll do the same?

If they are the same make/colours it will probably happen again at some point so its hard to try and get your point across without her getting angry, then again whats the worst she can do, you've already had to clean up her mess!

You'd think you both using cloth would make her a little more understanding about the simple mistake. Hugs for you! x

 

[Kit]

Glad it is nor just me over reacting! By the way I meant touchy feely not geeky! My iPhone thought it knew better.....

 

[Kota]

how disgusting of her. sorry, but i'd def say something, how hard is it to throw it in with the wash i'm sure she was already doing, or at the very least rinse it out for you.

 

[buttonnose82]

disgusting, i'd have scraped off the poop, put it in a bag and gave it to her saying 'think this is yours'

 

[Plumfairy]

Wow that is disgusting! I would definately say something!!

 

[polo_princess]

How awful and just plain rude

I dont know much about how cloth works but i would have bagged up her kids poop on it and gave it back to her. Wow .. rude!!

 

[redpoppy]

Definitely not being touchy!!!!

I would ASK her about it and also if she is a little odd EXPECT an argument and not shy away from it, but then not instigate it either. If you get what I mean.


Something along the lines of "I'm sorry but I was wondering why you didn't wash the nappy before returning it, it really was quite disgusting/ I would have washed it before retuning it I was wondering what reason you would have not to" type of thing.


that way if there is some rational explanation you haven't bitten her head off but also it takes the issue directly to her.

Nuts if you ask me.

 

[enola]

Could you mark the labels/ inside somehow for nursery to help them so it's less likely to happen again?
That was absolutely minging of her, but maybe she didn't realise. Why not see if it happens again and, if it does, hand her back the nappy saying something like 'I think it might need a wash first, don't you?'
People are funny!

 

[Maffie]

I'd want to say something, if anything came here for any of the boys by accident it would be laundered and returned. I even used to launder clothes OH's ex sent the boys in even though there wasn't always time to get them dry they went washed and bagged ready for her to hang up to dry.

 

[Lu28]

That is absolutely disgusting, my jaw actually dropped as I read your post! I too would love to put the poo in a bag to hand it back to her but I know I'd be way too much of a chicken to actually do it!

 

[sjbno1]

That is really rude hun, I would have to say something as it was a simple mistake made by the nursery - if it was me I would have to had washed it seeing as it was my babies poop

 

[BabyHaines]

Eeeeeeew!! What a scummy moo she is!!
I agree with Buttonnose and polo_princess - I'd have tried to bag it and send it back!!

I would definitely say something to her though xx

 

[FemmeEnceinte]

my god, I'd be completely enraged. I, personally, wouldn't really care and would tell her what a filthy human being she is and make my disgust well and truly known.

I would also make sure the nursery know what happened so that the same thing doesn't happen again.

 

[Arcanegirl]

thats disgusting!

 

[Vickie]

that's awful I don't use cloth nappies but if I'd been given another kids toy/clothes anything by mistake I would have made sure to return it clean to the owner!

 

[Kit]

Oh the nursery know all right! They all got it in the neck from her apparently! They cant really do much more as there are two completely separate nappy cubby holes but in simple human error someone went to the wrong one.

I have to say I am rather coming down on the side of giving it to her in the neck. It's not like she socialised with any of the other mums and all the ones I know think she is a bit weird and moany!

 

[MummyKaya]

disgusting, i'd have scraped off the poop, put it in a bag and gave it to her saying 'think this is yours'

Hahaha now that sounds like a plan!!!